NIN Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 I met this girl that I really like, but she has a condition that makes it hard for her to get around by herself, and often needs the help of others to walk. We went on a date, and I had a really good time. We have simmillar interests, she's smart, she's sexy, she has a great personality, and she likes me a lot. But it was kind of a hassle, and her condition is supposed to get worse over time. I guess it would be stupid of me to get involved in a serious relationship, knowing this. But does that mean that I shouldn't date her at all? Am I being shallow? What should I tell her if I decide not to see her again? I feel really bad. She even told me that she thinks all guys just want to get a piece of action, but don't want a relationship. So I don't want to be another guy that takes advantage of her, but I don't know if its a good idea to have a relationship either. What makes this so hard is that she seems perfect for me in every other way. If she didn't have this condition I could see myself marrying her. So what do you think I should do?
dyermaker Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 If you were in a 'serious relationship' with her, could you accomadate her with her condition if it conitnued to grow worse? Would you want to? If not, she deserves someone who can.
Author NIN Posted August 16, 2004 Author Posted August 16, 2004 I don't think I could. But does that mean that I can't date her right now, since we both like each other?
DerangedAngel Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 And I think once you make your intentions clear, she's not going to want much to do with you anyway. That doesn't mean you're a bad person or anything. Lots of people couldn't deal with the stress of having to take care of their partner. But you need to let her look for someone who's willing. Right? You've only been on one date anyway. You can seriously say you could see yourself marrying her?... Cheers. -Deranged
Author NIN Posted August 17, 2004 Author Posted August 17, 2004 Well, it was our first date, but third time hanging out together. But I didn't mean I want to marry her neccessarily, I just mean that she's the type of girl I would marry.
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