Zammo25 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I have heard my ex who I split up with at the start of the year has moved on happily with the new guy. Apparently 90% of rebounds fail, well not this one. She is living with this guy and announcing him at a family get together tomorrow with friends and family. Makes me feel utterly worthless, disposable and like trash. Never ever been lower. I just can't see anyway out of this now. It was a stab in the heart to have my thoughts confirmed. Happy families and I am on my knees now. There is no rhyme or reason to life. You get battered and replaced with a better and shinier model without thought. I had hoped this rebound was not to work and I could have a hope again but now I know it is truely hopeless and I have never felt worse in my life. Alone at Xmas whilst the ex is having a wonderful time and parties with this new great guy. I don't think I will get through this. 1
Keenly Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 you know, she is not the only one who can upgrade their model so to speak. I'm sort of in the same boat that you are, but deep down I know that one day... even though it may be a long ways away, some one will walk into my life. Try and remember that part. I know that there might be a lot of time in between now and then, as it may it in my case, but trust me, the pain that we go through in times like this is worth it to achieve the good times.
Author Zammo25 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 you know, she is not the only one who can upgrade their model so to speak. I'm sort of in the same boat that you are, but deep down I know that one day... even though it may be a long ways away, some one will walk into my life. Try and remember that part. I know that there might be a lot of time in between now and then, as it may it in my case, but trust me, the pain that we go through in times like this is worth it to achieve the good times. I wish I could believe that but I feel I am close to doing something silly. When I heard this today I felt psyically sick. I almost threw up but kept it together. I loved this Woman and had hoped in a stupid way the rebound would not work and she would come back. Now I hear today the family get together is tomorrow when he is being presented to everyone. When I heard I drank my drink and went home. I could not be out anymore. This guy is better than me, better looking, better job, better prospects and no doubt better in bed. I am at an all time low and feel like ending it. That is the truth.
Charlotted29 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Zammo... I was in the same situation as you 10 months ago. I thought the new girl he was with was a re-bound and she wasnt, they are still together. I loved this man,my best friend of 10 yrs. It took me 6 months to feel better again, and I am almost back to normal now. Even now, as you can see by my posts I still miss him. However, as today passes, and the weeks, the pain lessens and you learn 'to just accept it'. Yes its ****! But what else can you do? I know that first day hurts like pain you have never felt before, like you cant imagine ever feeling better again and like it will always be that way. I'm not going to lie mayb you will feel like that for a week, still in shock, but it is temporary and does pass. Remember that.
SpicyMayo Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 hey zammo -- i know you feel like your life is pretty much over. but it's not. you have to just sit with the pain. do you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster and the ride will never end? if so, then that's normal because of all your feelings, memories and experiences u had with her. in fact, if u weren't feeling this way, then something would be off. it sucks and your feelings may always be there for her, but u must come to terms that she is now with somebody else. and when u say he is better looking and has a better job, you sound like you are victimizing yourself...and that is not beneficial for your well-being. it's unnecessary. remember to move forward, not backwards.
blotter Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Damn dude, how do you ever expect to get better if your just going to swing from your ex's nuts, not go NC, and not move on? This voyeur angle you have into her life is pretty sick and fuc ing you up. You need stop watching her life like it's some kind of soap opera and start focusing on your own life.
Author Zammo25 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 I am not a voyeur. I heard this as a friend knows her and was going to the party and he told him. I did fish as I knew they had been together for 6 months and did not know if it was serious. Well clearly it is. SO I will move on. She is married now as far as I am concerned and completely out of bounds. Still f*cking hurts though and that is what I am going through with a great sense of loss and blowing it with a wonderful Woman who is now being seen to by another Man.
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