Breakup Dilema...

[pantalonesnoche123]

Hello Everybody, I need some advice for my situation.

 

About a month ago, my exgf blindsided broke up with me main with the main reason being trust issues. I knew that we have been having those issue but did not expect a breakup to come out of it. Anyways the first week, I did want I shouldn't have and begged and not stop apologizing sending text and calling her, all to be ignored. After that week I was able to collect myself and felt a little better but kept LC with her, texting back and forth about topics not pertaining to the breakup or relationship. She would sometimes drunk text me that she missed me or that we needed to talk. Next day, I would text her and would be ignored.

 

Last night, I had a party at my house to celebrate end of finals. I did not invite her, however she found out because we have a lot of mutual friends. She text me to ask if she was allowed to come. I responded that I'd rather her not because I still need time and separation from her to heal. She responded 'wow! I thought we could move past this'. Then I explain that I still have feelings for her and that us seeing each other would mess up my healing process. She text back saying how she still likes me and cares about me. however that getting back together would not work out. and she is willing to be just friends if and when I'm ready and maybe take it from there. she also commented on how I have not shown her that I can move on from the breakup.

 

So what should I do? NC, LC, be friends, not be friends. What I get out of it is that she wants to keep me around as a backup. What do you guys think?

 

Thanks in advance

[ellieryan85]

It sounds like she is keeping you on her hook. She wants you there when she wants you. She wants to be able to contact you when it is convient for her, but doesn't want you to inconvience her.

It really sounds like manipulation. I would recommend not talking to her. Think about why you want to be friends with her to begin with.

Good luck.