GlassParasol Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) Hey all. I posted on here a while back, dealing with another relationship that ended badly. I recently had another two-month relationship, which had it's issues that were quite deep-rooted - we had great chemistry and really connected (or so I thought), but we both had issues, me with anxiety and general hesitations about the relationship, and he just being not mature enough, not putting in enough effort to meet me half-way and straightforward enough with me about what he wanted in the relationship. Plus he was very open sexually and made comments about girls that made me feel uncomfortable. Anyhow, we broke up last week when he finished me for both of us not communicating enough - I had trust issues and asked for advice from friends about certain aspects of our relationship, which was wrong of me to do, I admit. But he did the same thing towards the end, and whilst I worked on my issues and told him, he kept a lot of it a secret from me and didn't give us a chance to work on it. I blocked him from Facebook, deleted his number, but before I did, he called me out on blocking him, appearing hurt. I told him straight that it wouldn't help me to heal if I saw him on there (plus I was pretty pissed off with him for the break up at the time.). So, we left it and just continued to be civil for uni's sake - we're on the same course. Last Monday, a group of us had a bit too much to drink and we both got too close - he began to act as if we were still together, and said he didn't want me to hate him. We had a drunken heart-to-heart and ended up making out. It's Saturday now and we haven't brought it up since, but I was willing to re-build our relationship as acquaintances for Uni and also for the good of my own health. Last night came along and we all went out, he turned up later on. Me and a close friend were drunk by this point, her more than me. The ex kept on asking if I was okay, since I was having trouble at seeing him there, though I kept quiet, and said he wanted to always be there for me as a friend, refusing to drop the subject, even when eventually I snapped at him to stop. I don't know what right I have to be pissed off or angry about this next part, since I know he's a free man now and can do as he pleases - but he really tried it on with my friend last night, caressing her and cuddling her whilst she tried to push him away. He ended up saying when I was right there next to them that even if we were at Uni together, that he'd basically "shag her if he could" and she was very attractive. I went home shortly after, miserable and hurt. I talked to one or two close friends who weren't involved and they said it was likely to try to get a rise out of me, but eh, I don't know. I wish he'd stop creating this drama. It got to one point where he had his arm around her, and he was stroking my back with the same hand. Now he's tried to add me back on Facebook - I forgot I un-blocked him when I wanted us to try and get along and not cause issues. I don't know whether he's actually moved on, is being a complete creep and spiteful, or he's just screwed in the head. And I don't know if I should be making such a deal out of it - I feel like I'm so immature myself. Sorry this long, but anyone have any help? I know I was in the wrong for some of the relationship, but now at least I'm sorting out my own life from now on and not focusing on having a relationship for a long while. Edited December 22, 2012 by GlassParasol
Author GlassParasol Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 I don't know, honestly. He's the type to like attention, I know that much, but I can't say for certain, no.
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