Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 As an older women who rarely dates, It's not clear to me if he's ready to move on. We've only dated a few weeks and slept together the second date. He knows my adult son is visiting me for the Holidays and he indicated he's busy with his children for the Holidays (he's legally separated). He has emailed me inquiring how the visit is going and also just to say 'hi'. He hasn't asked me out since my son came home. I suppose I'm assuming he would make time to see be during the Holidays. I'm assuming if he likes me, he would find time to contact me more or to ask me out during the Holiday season. Should I assume it's over? Should I contact him?
AMusing Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 From what you wrote, it sounds like he's under the impression you're both too busy to see each other over the holidays. It's too new a relationship to for you to merge holiday plans, so he's giving you space to enjoy that time with your son (and doing the same with his kids). Especially since he sent you a nice email checking in, I'd bet he is still interested in you and plans to get back together after the holidays end. 2
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 As an older women who rarely dates, It's not clear to me if he's ready to move on. We've only dated a few weeks and slept together the second date. He knows my adult son is visiting me for the Holidays and he indicated he's busy with his children for the Holidays (he's legally separated). He has emailed me inquiring how the visit is going and also just to say 'hi'. He hasn't asked me out since my son came home. I suppose I'm assuming he would make time to see be during the Holidays. I'm assuming if he likes me, he would find time to contact me more or to ask me out during the Holiday season. I would not contact and see if he surprises you with a sweet text on Christmas or Christmas Eve. Do not let him even get a scent that you are even bothered, let him contact you. 1
ryanmatthews58 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I think you should contact him. Even if it does end, you would know that it was, as apposed to assuming and constantly thinking about the situation
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I think you should contact him. Even if it does end, you would know that it was, as apposed to assuming and constantly thinking about the situation She should do this only if he does not text on Christmas Eve or Christmas....too soon for pressuring, if by some chance he figures she is busy with her son, and he with his family for the holidays.
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 It's easy to see that you rarely date... because you are way too nervous about this guy and the relationship! From my personal experience, being anxious and over thinking like this will hinder the relationship, you have to chill out and let things flow. AMusing assessment is perfect. Relax. Brit is right - do not contact him, only text him to wish a Happy Xmas if he doesn't contact you at all until then. 1
Author Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) Did you respond to his nice email? I did to both his emails (i don't text) and my last email I asked him how he is doing with his father/daughters' time together and he didn't answer back. Edited December 22, 2012 by Angel Heart spelling error
KraftDinner Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I did too both his emails (i don't text) and my last email I asked him how he is doing with his father/daughters' time together and he didn't answer back. Ah. Well, then the ball is in his court. However, if you don't hear back by Christmas Eve, it wouldn't be a bad idea to just drop him a merry christmas email. When was the last time you heard from him?
salparadise Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 As an older women who rarely dates, It's not clear to me if he's ready to move on. We've only dated a few weeks and slept together the second date. He knows my adult son is visiting me for the Holidays and he indicated he's busy with his children for the Holidays (he's legally separated). He has emailed me inquiring how the visit is going and also just to say 'hi'. He hasn't asked me out since my son came home. I suppose I'm assuming he would make time to see be during the Holidays. I'm assuming if he likes me, he would find time to contact me more or to ask me out during the Holiday season. Should I assume it's over? Should I contact him? It's doing so much assuming that's causing you distress. If anything, assume he's very busy right now, and that in the absence of a solid indication otherwise, that he's still interested and will be in touch.
Author Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Ah. Well, then the ball is in his court. However, if you don't hear back by Christmas Eve, it wouldn't be a bad idea to just drop him a merry christmas email. When was the last time you heard from him? Friday, December 21st; yesterday. He didn't reply back after I responded to his email.
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