lovefiction Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I know I should have blocked his FB from the moment we broke up but I guess I didn't have the heart. We have been broken up for two weeks and while I knew that he wanted to explore a relationship with someone new... TWO WEEKS is not that long!... Anyway, after we were together two years, he has posted a picture on his FB profile of him and her in a couple's pose as if they are on OUR anniversary dinner... A part of me feels like it is b/c he knows that I would look at his page and he wants me to see it... But why? He always said he would never post a picture of someone he is just dating... Everything about it seems wrong... He tagged her name but when I searched her on FB she has an empty account (no picture and no info, she didn't even post on the picture)... It's like he has created her just to hurt me... He is 38 years old but I feel like we are in high school! He did something like this when we broke up once before on a dating website, talking about all the things he would like in a woman (and specifying things that I did that had upset him)... I know that it is over and I have been trying very hard to come to terms with the break up, recognizing that we were just in different places in our lives... He wants someone who can bend to his will and do all the things he missed out on when he was younger; I am a single mother who has too many responsibilities to fit this lifestyle... I thought, while I had no wish to be friends, that with time, we could get to that point as we had ended things with a mutual understanding... My girlfriends say that there are really only two reasons he would do this: a) he wants me to see it b) he is desperate for a relationship... Either way, I refuse to respond (in the past I sent him emails telling him how hurtful his behavior was)... This time has been very different for me... While I miss him desperately I do not want to fall prey to his traps.. Any thoughts??
TaraMaiden Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Yeah, some.... 1: Who cares? he's your ex. You should have already blocked him on FB - and indeed all and every single available way of seeing him, checking on him or even receiving anything from him/about him. 2: Don't play into the drama. If he wants to act like an immature 7-year-old (and you're a mum - you know exactly what kids are like!) then let him. But don't give him the satisfaction of even suspecting you're paying any attention at all. 3: Read the Caliguy No Contact Guide (link in my signature). It's the best thing you could ever do. 4: Mind-reading is for stage-acts, but absolutely impossible in any other scenario. Don't waste time wondering why he does things. Spend time on you, and wondering how to develop your life to the full, so that pretty soon, you don't give a flying phukket. 1
SpicyMayo Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 wow i can't imagine what its like to see your ex on FB like that with a new girl. he obviously knows u have fb and will sooner or later see the profile somehow, so it's his way of trying to exert his strength and say "i am moving on". people like this are usually dealing with internal pain, such as no longer being with u. it's a twisted and almost sick way of trying to heal after only two weeks. sit with the pain..it's ok to do that. what will contacting him or replying to him gain u? if it's beneficial u think, then do it. if it will cause pain or more heartache, then maintain NC.
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