dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) My gf broke up with me about 3 weeks ago because she was losing feelings for me. She still liked me then but IdkIf she still likes me now. Usually the bond after a relationship is still strong for a long time. We're on winter break right now until 2 weeks from now. So I won't see her at all. Eight days ago I told her that I respect her decision but I would appreciate it if she only contacted me if we were to makeup, because she kept texting me after the breakup. She hasn't replied ever since. I used my friends phone to talk about us because that way she will open up more. She was saying how she doesn't care if I talk to her or not, it'll make it easier for me to move on. Shes so sure of it that we will never get back togetherr because she thinks I am annoying. She said it's not me its just how she is. This happens to her all the time she says. I don't understand how I can be annoying when we barely talk anymore. I think I offended her with what I said. How would I approach this? I do want her back so would I have to talk to her? Some of you will probably say that I should just not do anything and get over her but I really like her. I wake up thinking about her. She is a great gf! She doesn't know this stuff by the way. I'm afraid if I tell her this it will push her away more. Edited December 22, 2012 by dwight 12345 title
movingon12 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 My gf broke up with me about 3 weeks ago because she was losing feelings for me. She still liked me then but IdkIf she still likes me now. Usually the bond after a relationship is still strong for a long time. We're on winter break right now until 2 weeks from now. So I won't see her at all. Eight days ago I told her that I respect her decision but I would appreciate it if she only contacted me if we were to makeup, because she kept texting me after the breakup. She hasn't replied ever since. I used my friends phone to talk about us because that way she will open up more. She was saying how she doesn't care if I talk to her or not, it'll make it easier for me to move on. Shes so sure of it that we will never get back togetherr because she thinks I am annoying. My friend, read your post, it's over. Some of you will probably say that I should just not do anything and get over her but I really like her. I wake up thinking about her. She is a great gf! She doesn't know this stuff by the way. I'm afraid if I tell her this it will push her away more. We will all say do nothing and get over her. It doesn't matter how much you like her. She doesnt like you. She used to. Now she doesn't. It's done. Move on.
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 My friend, read your post, it's over. We will all say do nothing and get over her. It doesn't matter how much you like her. She doesnt like you. She used to. Now she doesn't. It's done. Move on. But she says she wants to go back to being friends with benefits. I don't want to lose her because we are very close. She said it herself too. she still wants me but without the title. I want to do that too a little. But I also kind of want more
movingon12 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 But she says she wants to go back to being friends with benefits. I don't want to lose her because we are very close. She said it herself too. she still wants me but without the title. I want to do that too a little. But I also kind of want more You didn't mention anything about her saying she wanted FWB but assuming that's correct, do you want to be FWB, knowing that you will be dropped (again) as soon as she gets a new BF? If yes, send her an email and say 'hey X, I have so little self respect that I am willing to take whatever crumbs you can offer me, on whatever terms you set down and I promise I'll try to be less annoying' Or you could just move on. I know which I would do. 1
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 You didn't mention anything about her saying she wanted FWB but assuming that's correct, do you want to be FWB, knowing that you will be dropped (again) as soon as she gets a new BF? If yes, send her an email and say 'hey X, I have so little self respect that I am willing to take whatever crumbs you can offer me, on whatever terms you set down and I promise I'll try to be less annoying' Or you could just move on. I know which I would do. The thing is we were originally taking a break and I ruined it because I kept ignoring her when she wanted my attention badly. She said she still liked me and it was only a break. I just kept being a dick and ignoring her. I felt like it was the right thing to do then. When I said only contact me if you want to makeup everything went downhill fast. She unfollowed me on instagram and btw when I was using my friends phone to text her she didn't understand what I ment when I told her that. Also that stuff she was saying...she didn't want me to know. I'm lost on that one she said she doesn't care but doesn't want me to know what she is saying about me. I was planning to text her or call her saying that what I ment by that was I just needed space. I couldn't think clearly. Sorry if I hurt you. Should I tell her that? I just don't want to lose her as a very close friend. But I still like her..
coffeebean201 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Her attention is on something else. I don't know if you will get her attention back. Maybe she wants to keep a friendship with you as she moves forward in her life.
CptSaveAho Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Your ex used you as a rebound... she's a user I wouldn't give her the time of day
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) Her attention is on something else. I don't know if you will get her attention back. Maybe she wants to keep a friendship with you as she moves forward in her life. I don't know what her attention is on. But I know for a fact that she broke up with me because she lost feelings. On top of that in 5 months we're going to be going our separate ways to different colleges. I kept telling her to live in the moment and let's just have the best 5 months together. I evenbroke up her relationship with aanother guy for me. She never looked back to him even when he would try to talk to her she would tell me right away. This guy lives in a different state too and she risked her friendship with him for me. She even said I would rather lose him as a friend than lose you. She is a very faithful person trust me. I did not get used. In the beginning She basically begged for me to stop ignoring her because of that guy. I know he's not back in her life .And now it's like wtf.. Edited December 22, 2012 by dwight 12345 h
CptSaveAho Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) I evenbroke up her relationship with aanother guy for me. .. WOW.... you reap what you sow... you're a piece of work... my friends call people like this "LOSERS" and not only for their actions but their lack of moral standards... i bet you 100 bucks your ex thinks the same of you No offense you deserve everything you are getting now... how they come is how they go as evidence by your story Edited December 22, 2012 by CptSaveAho
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 WOW.... you reap what you sow... you're a piece of work... my friends call people like this "LOSERS" and not only for their actions but their lack of moral standards... i bet you 100 bucks your ex thinks the same of you No offense you deserve everything you are getting now... how they come is how they go as evidence by your story That came out wrong. I ment to say she broke up with him for me because she wasn't happy. Relax man
CptSaveAho Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Right............................................ I dont even have to read your story to know what happened... seen it a ZILLION times... you got played because of your lack of moral and emotional boundaries Move on
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Right............................................ I dont even have to read your story to know what happened... seen it a ZILLION times... you got played because of your lack of moral and emotional boundaries Move on Seriously dude all of your answers are always so negative. You obviously haven't understood or read my story. She didn't play me. I'm sure I know more about her than you. I just need reassurance..
CptSaveAho Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) Facts are... Its simple, you dont see it... she USED you for one of 2 purposes to make her boyfriend jealous and pay attention to her... or as a break up affair It's called a monkey jump... from Guy A to Guy B and she probably has a Guy C lined up as a boyfriend... you were Guy B People like you are not emotionally trust worthy, you have no morals, no ethics, no concept of love. Why would she be attracted (have feelings) for you? Again simple rule of women... dont listen to a word that comes out of their mouths, watch their actions... she wants a break (google what a break means) anybody with common sense in relationship knows break = breakup. Its a "nice" way of letting you down. She's not with you, doesnt want to continue anything with you, it's over (actions) Now grow up, learn from you being dumb, and move on...another thing, stop seeking validation from women (title of thread) Edited December 22, 2012 by CptSaveAho
Author dwight 12345 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Facts are... Its simple, you dont see it... she USED you for one of 2 purposes to make her boyfriend jealous and pay attention to her... or as a break up affair It's called a monkey jump... from Guy A to Guy B and she probably has a Guy C lined up as a boyfriend... you were Guy B People like you are not emotionally trust worthy, you have no morals, no ethics, no concept of love. Why would she be attracted (have feelings) for you? Again simple rule of women... dont listen to a word that comes out of their mouths, watch their actions... she wants a break (google what a break means) anybody with common sense in relationship knows break = breakup. Its a "nice" way of letting you down. She's not with you, doesnt want to continue anything with you, it's over (actions) Now grow up, learn from you being dumb, and move on...another thing, stop seeking validation from women (title of thread) You don't even know me and you're talking smack. Look at your username "captsavaho" sounds like a pornstars name. This is a site to vent how you are feeling and thinking. Not letting the other person down with your words you claim are right and think you know everything. You need to show some respect. I told you what I wrote came out wrong. And yes I know what a break means. That's why I was ignoring her because I was hurt.
CptSaveAho Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 (edited) Deflection... "I know deep down that I was wrong but I dont want to look in a mirror and accept consequences of my own actions so I am going to change my story so it doesn't make me look as bad as I am and attempt make fun of someone who is telling me how it is" I have an extra bottle of A-1 Steak Sauce I will be happy to let you have if you ever learn to "eat crow" If someone hurt me, I wouldnt temporarily ignore her, it would be over and there would be no discussion about it Edited December 22, 2012 by CptSaveAho
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