GMG90 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 So me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday and I'm trying to gather what could have been done to have save this. Me and him had been together for 2 years and the last few months have been pretty rocky. It hasn't always been this way and in fact, things were very different last year. Here's a bit of a rundown: 2011 - We got together in early March and things seemed to be going pretty fine. He and I didn't exactly have a whole lot of money, so we stayed at his place most nights and watch some movies on Youtube. He's a fan of Cirque du Soleil and he works by selling off ideas for rides and shows to an entertainment industry. Most of the stuff was done at home as well. I, on the other hand, have been working on my Bachelor's in Psych and am making pretty steady process. I'm not employed at the moment am looking around. As for relationship problems, occassionally there were some false accusations from time to time, but somehow that faded out as time went along. He also had a difficulty in communicating and I noticed this after he decided to work at the local fair for the month. It's almost like he completely faded away ... he barely spoke to me while he was there and we went at least 2 weeks without seeing each other. By the end of the year, I started noticing that he wasn't good with making plans. If we agree on meeting up at 3pm at the library, chances are he won't show up and he won't explain why until 4pm. It would end up being an excuse like "oh I had something come up" or "I was just too tired". So, that would be a relevant problem. When we did see each other, I enjoyed being with him and give him back rubs and doing the stuff the most couples do. He was pretty sexual as well, and he'd always make sure that I knew that. And fortunate for me, he didn't care if we went out or stayed inside. I'm not sure if that's because we didn't have much money to spend ... but I'm assuming it is. 2012 - Starting off the year, he changed a bit. I noticed that he had plans to join the circus and go on tour with them in July. I didn't have any problem with that, as long we could communicate when he had some spare time. I was happy that he got to do something he wanted to do. Come July and then there came 5-7 day stretches of hearing nothing at all from him. Obviously I was upset and he would tell me that he was just busy with things. When he finally came back, I noticed he wasn't sexual anymore. He started telling that he was anti-sexual now and my touch, my kiss, my everything just never got him into the same groove anymore. The only thing that really made him happy was the circus life and eventually the whole relationship became about him. Me and him had made plans last month for him to come over to my place and relax a bit. I hadn't invited him over much since I have people that live here that aren't exactly gay friendly and they were out of the house for the day. When I went over to pick him up, he got this idea of wanted to see this circus play that was 25 miles away and he started throwing a tantrum with to the likes that I hadn't seen before. He told me that I either take him or just leave him at home. Ugh... well, I said "wth maybe it'll be fun" and we went. We only went because he told me it was discount night and he was paying. Turns out the discount for the night before and back home we went. Most recently, he moved into a train that's 10 miles away. He's with the performers now as they begin their tour. I'd been trying to sit and talk about some of these communication issues and see if there were more effective ways to resolve future conflicts. He just passes it off like there's no problem. I always tell him that what happened that night should never happen again, but again there isn't concern. Then I notice some more contradictions. He tells me he's going to drink it up with friends at the train last night because they want to be drunk for 12/21. Really? Because he told me that drinking to him was the nastiest thing. When ask him about the contradiction, he replies that's he bored when he's with me hence why he replied that way. So, I gave up ... Too many weird and negative things and his egocentric mind doesn't see how I'm getting hurt. But I keep asking why. Why did his libido die and why on earth did it turn one sided? He said he loved me but I stopped feeling that after a while too.
fonewear Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Not worth all the trouble time to move on.
Keenly Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 If a dude is genuinely into you, you will know it. The whole not talking to you for seven days thing.... dead giveaway. I'm sorry =( .
Author GMG90 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 If a dude is genuinely into you, you will know it. The whole not talking to you for seven days thing.... dead giveaway. I'm sorry =( . Yeah, I suppose you're right. I'm not sure why he said he loved me. I guess to keep me around since he didn't have anyone else around.
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