Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 This handsome 42 yo Colonel in the military has his own place and indicated his marriage was over. He indicated he hasn't dated anyone since his separation 5 months ago. He's only lived in town for 6 months and knows few people besides people at work. He's a seemingly nice man who is lonely and made it clear he wants companionship. He is having difficulties coping with how his three daughters are blaming him for leaving them. This kids seem to go out of their way to make him feel guilty and miserable. We met online a few weeks and after a few emails went to coffee shop to meet; I was extremely sexually attractive to him and he seemed quite attractive to me. He doesn't wear his ring and indicated wife and him have stayed together for 10 years for the sake of the children and lived like roommates. Would you go out with a newly separated man? Are there reasons I shouldn't date him?
fonewear Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 No to answer your question. And I think the reasons are quite obvious why. 1
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 This handsome 42 yo Colonel in the military has his own place and indicated his marriage was over. He indicated he hasn't dated anyone since his separation 5 months ago. He's only lived in town for 6 months and knows few people besides people at work. He's a seemingly nice man who is lonely and made it clear he wants companionship. He is having difficulties coping with how his three daughters are blaming him for leaving them. This kids seem to go out of their way to make him feel guilty and miserable. We met online a few weeks and after a few emails went to coffee shop to meet; I was extremely sexually attractive to him and he seemed quite attractive to me. You will be a rebound; and his children will torture you. He doesn't wear his ring and indicated wife and him have stayed together for 10 years for the sake of the children and lived like roommates. Would you go out with a newly separated man? Are there reasons I shouldn't date him? You will be a rebound; and his children will torture you. 1
Author Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 No to answer your question. And I think the reasons are quite obvious why. By obvious you mean the children? His indication he needs companionship? He's not divorced yet?
fonewear Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 If you want to be friends that is fine, but anything more than that is a bad idea. 1
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Has he started divorce proceedings yet? Why is he only separated? This is very important to find out so you know for sure if the marriage is really over or he's just making a story up to get your companion. If he tells you the papers are in court, I would ask to see them to be sure, eventually when appropriate. A lot of separated men lie about this. I wouldn't go for it, but if you think you have the energy to be a possible rebound, to deal with his children and the ambiguity of him still being separated only, why not? On the other hand, there's someone in my sis' family who was in the same situation as him and is happily remarried now with a new baby. Depends on the guy and if you feel he is sincere and decent. 1
FitChick Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Newly separated men or women are only good for flings. 2
Author Angel Heart Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Perhaps it's because I'm older than him and just want some company even if he seems preoccupied with the trials and tribulations of becoming divorced. I will be the rebound but I suppose someone has to be. It won't last, I know. People get lonely and I can understand that. I don't think I will be hurt if we start seeing each other if I know I'm just a rebound. I guess I'll take my chances even though the advice is obviously not to do. Being alone is so difficult and I'm tired of it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me everyone.
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