gracesf Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I feel like NC is a terrible game of chicken... I don't want to be the first to give in, but I don't even think you're playing... Crazy how one person can just walk away and the other is left hung up... We didn't talk about NC, it just happened, you spent the night at my house it was tense but ok... You said you wanted to stay and cuddle but not kiss... I wasn't much for cuddling after that... I stopped by to see you the next day 1/2 hr before your flight left... That was ok... We hugged and held hands and you seemed softer when I left then when I got there. You answered a non-relationship question via text, I said thanks... Then later that day I called you to tell you something had finally gone right for me... And that was it. That was three days ago... You're visiting family on holiday and I've had radio silence from you... Every few hours I double check to make sure you haven't called, and you haven't... Im sitting here waiting to go to dinner and wishing I didn't hurt that you haven't called... I know when we talk well have to we see each every day... You'll say you did this for my own good, but let's be honest you did it because you don't love me... You don't care... And that rejection sucks...
na49 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 NC is not a game unless you make it into a game. NC is a way for YOU to heal and has nothing to do with your ex. Stay strong, the first few weeks are the toughest. Accepting that they aren't calling and aren't going to text you is not easy to accept, but you have to eventually.
LostOne1 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 NC is not a game unless you make it into a game. NC is a way for YOU to heal and has nothing to do with your ex. Stay strong, the first few weeks are the toughest. Accepting that they aren't calling and aren't going to text you is not easy to accept, but you have to eventually. Yeah the phone checking stops after awhile. I used to look at it all the time and anytime a text or call came I thought it was hers... but it never was... Now I do check my phone once in awhile, but I know it's not going to be her text. But probably a friends or family member. After a few months you just get used to it all. I mean it doesn't mean the pain will go away, but that attachment fades away. I still miss my ex, but I'm not as attached anymore. Kinda scary, because my ex was SUPER attached to me. I still can't figure out how she was able to detach herself from me so fast and so soon during our BU.
na49 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Yeah the phone checking stops after awhile. I used to look at it all the time and anytime a text or call came I thought it was hers... but it never was... Now I do check my phone once in awhile, but I know it's not going to be her text. But probably a friends or family member. After a few months you just get used to it all. I mean it doesn't mean the pain will go away, but that attachment fades away. I still miss my ex, but I'm not as attached anymore. Kinda scary, because my ex was SUPER attached to me. I still can't figure out how she was able to detach herself from me so fast and so soon during our BU. I feel the same way. My ex was obsessed with me, like my friends even thought there was something wrong with how crazy she was. I think they detach themselves before the breakup so it appears to us as they've moved on quicker. They were moving on while they were still with us which is annoying to think about. If you want to leave, then leave. Don't lead us on so we feel worse... My phone goes off, I think for a second it might be her, then realize it's not. It's getting better, but I probably will block her number for my own sake. I can't deal with that the rest of my life. Plus, if she really wants to talk to me she'll find a way. She'll never really want to talk to me just like I'll never really want to talk to her.
Benp Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Is that how women handle breakup? They plan it out then detach themselves before the breakup happens? I feel the same way about my ex, and I think you guys are right.
Sugarkane Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 NC is good because you don't have to put up with the exes lies and BS. You don't have to listen to them blame you for them falling out of love with you. You don't have to put up with all their flaws anymore. You don't have to have the exes new relationship constantly shoved in youre face either.
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