neveralone Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 We've been together for a year now. He's in his early 30s. I'm in my late 20s. We worked for the same company for 2 years, were semi-long-distance, and earlier this fall, we both moved so that we could be together. We both had temporary living arrangements until we could each find something more permanent. I was hesitant to sign a lease knowing he hadn't yet. But as soon as he filled out an application and put down a deposit somewhere, I finally pushed through and signed a 12-month lease on a place... 12 months being the absolute minimum I could get... rentals here are insanely hard to come by. Within days of that happening, he lost his job and backed out of signing a lease on an apartment. He's currently out of town for 3 weeks visiting family and while out of town, a friend set him up for a job interview at his company. He told me he was only doing the interview to be polite, but he walked out of it feeling very happy about it and they are now discussing a second interview. There's been no official offer yet, but if he were to take it, he would have to move there (for reference, I'm in Texas, and this job is in Los Angeles). When he told me about what had happened, he said he wanted me to move out there with him if he took it. He even went into specifics of what we could do in the mean time to make the transition easier, him flying out to see me on weekends or me flying into see him. So I know he's definitely got me deeply in mind when it comes to this stuff. But there's a deeper problem. I can't afford to live in this part of Los Angeles by myself. It's one of the more high-profile, ritizier areas. I would have to be living with him and splitting the rent to get by. He and I have lived together before, but not for a long period of time, just a few weeks at most while staying with one another. I don't know how to bring this up to him. I love him tremendously and he seems to feel the same for me, but I don't know if I bring up "we need to live together" if I should tell him exactly why. I want to live with him anyway... it's been on my mind a bit. I just don't know what the smarter way to approach the subject is. Help!
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