esgirl101 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Hi all, I posted earlier saying my situation. Basically, ex broke up with me three and a half weeks ago saying he didn't love me anymore. I have been devastated. Initiated NC but broke twice to very politely ask back money he owes me. My earlier dilemma was do I contact him a third time as I need the money desparately for Xmas. He texted to say he had the money and wanted to bring it round then and there. I wasn't ready for that, so said I was busy. He responds "Are you on a date? That's great x" I was shocked he thought it was great, as I would be upset if he went on a date so soon after splitting, but perhaps he is over it already as he dumped me of course, so is not going through the same pain I am. I just said "Would tomorrow be okay for the money?" Needed to be day time as I'm out in the evening. He asked what was I doing in the evening. Again I ignored and said unless it was during the day it wouldn't work. He then began to put extra kisses at the end of his messages, and always a question. As a joke I said "Whoa, kisses, are we supposed to be best friends now?" And I got back "Sort of." What does any of this mean? My head is spinning, my heart is pounding, and all the pain is gone because he is playing my emotions and I'm just comforted to hear from him. Deep down, I know that the come down from this relief will be huge, and I will ache and hurt. I am going to end the conversation, but wondered... what is his game?!
na49 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 This is why breaking NC is NO GOOD! You play twenty questions and start to analyze anything and everything he says and does. I know you want it to mean something, but it means nothing. He isn't trying to beat around the bush and relay information to you without saying it. Get your money back, and disappear from his life.
Zahara Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 You need to stop playing games with yourself. Why can't you ask him to pass it to his mother and have her pass it to you? Or drop it in your mailbox? Or have him write a check (if he does not have a bank account, I'm sure his parents do) and mail it to you? Or mail you a money order? If you can't make contact, then the above gets you your money and you can cut the cord. Unless you want contact hoping something will come out of it. He is not emotional so he doesn't realize his contact affects you so he just does it. His contact means nothing. He even said, "sort of." That's how meaningless it is. It's not a game or an attempt to get you back, or him missing you, etc. An ego stroke at best.
sharsh Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 he is playing my emotions That is all he is doing, and he knows it. Just get your money back and don't try to "read into" what he's saying.
Author esgirl101 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Thank you. I really appreciate your honesty. You are right. He didn't want NC, it was me who initiated it, so he probably feels like he has his way now. I have stopped replying to his messages and am going to bed and will not contact him until I am over it, can accept the money and be done with it. Thank you.
Samilia Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Thank you. I really appreciate your honesty. You are right. He didn't want NC, it was me who initiated it, so he probably feels like he has his way now. I have stopped replying to his messages and am going to bed and will not contact him until I am over it, can accept the money and be done with it. Thank you. Get the money now, don't let it be a link to your ex.
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