2.5 year relationship destroyed after she left to study abroad

[west2525]

Hey all,

 

My ex GF of 2.5 years broke up with me a month and a half after she started studying abroad in France. We had an amazing relationship. She was my high school sweetheart and my first love, I miss her so much.

 

She broke up with me due to the fact she was travelling. She wanted to experience new things and she thought she couldn't do that since she was tied with someone at home. She wants to travel more and since I can't do that with her (money issues) she said that the relationship won't work. However, she still said she loved me very much and missed me (she said this during the breakup). I was really stupid after this happened and I messaged her some sad things. I ranted to her about everything that happened. She said that she can't move on if I continue to do that so I told her I'll go NC.

 

The longest I went NC was for 10 days. I then messaged her telling her good luck in her studies. It seemed as if she was happy that I messaged her, she said "thanks, that means a lot " and asked how I was doing. I again messaged her a couple days ago and we had a conversation for a bit.

 

However, she's started to post pictures up on facebook of her and this guy (probs about a week after we broke up) and it completely destroyed me. I called her out on it and she got quite defensive. I know she would never hook up with anyone or do anything with anyone there - she's not that type of girl and I still trust her.

 

It just seems as if she's moved on so quickly while I'm at home just constantly thinking about her.

 

So she came back around 3 days ago. The day before she got back I saw this picture of her and a new guy together (the same guy as before). One guy commented on it and said, "you're new girl is really pretty". I called her out on it and accused her of lying to me about the break up. She said they are just friends. I defriended her from facebook and told her that I could not move on if I kept seeing pictures like this.

 

She came back 3 days ago and this "friend" has already been introduced to her best child hood friend. She has not contacted me yet and neither have I.

 

I really do not know what to do. I miss her so much and i want her back so badly.

[Samilia]

Hey all,

 

My ex GF of 2.5 years broke up with me a month and a half after she started studying abroad in France. We had an amazing relationship. She was my high school sweetheart and my first love, I miss her so much.

 

She broke up with me due to the fact she was travelling. She wanted to experience new things and she thought she couldn't do that since she was tied with someone at home. She wants to travel more and since I can't do that with her (money issues) she said that the relationship won't work. However, she still said she loved me very much and missed me (she said this during the breakup). I was really stupid after this happened and I messaged her some sad things. I ranted to her about everything that happened. She said that she can't move on if I continue to do that so I told her I'll go NC.

 

The longest I went NC was for 10 days. I then messaged her telling her good luck in her studies. It seemed as if she was happy that I messaged her, she said "thanks, that means a lot " and asked how I was doing. I again messaged her a couple days ago and we had a conversation for a bit.

 

However, she's started to post pictures up on facebook of her and this guy (probs about a week after we broke up) and it completely destroyed me. I called her out on it and she got quite defensive. I know she would never hook up with anyone or do anything with anyone there - she's not that type of girl and I still trust her.

 

It just seems as if she's moved on so quickly while I'm at home just constantly thinking about her.

 

So she came back around 3 days ago. The day before she got back I saw this picture of her and a new guy together (the same guy as before). One guy commented on it and said, "you're new girl is really pretty". I called her out on it and accused her of lying to me about the break up. She said they are just friends. I defriended her from facebook and told her that I could not move on if I kept seeing pictures like this.

 

She came back 3 days ago and this "friend" has already been introduced to her best child hood friend. She has not contacted me yet and neither have I.

 

I really do not know what to do. I miss her so much and i want her back so badly.

 

Not sure why she doesn't admit to the truth, and if things aren't always what they seem to be, in this case, I'd call a duck, a duck.

[Sugarkane]

Dumpers- they love lying.

[Million.to.1]

I'd have to agree that she is lying and is with the new guy. Guess she "doesn't want to hurt you" - not realizing of course that lying to you face is much worse.

 

I'm sorry mate... I would just avoid her completely and focus on healing and moving forward with other things in your life.

You did the right thing with Facebook. Time to delete that phone number now!

[HaveFaithxx]

Yes, it is very cowardly of her to not tell you the truth. But she thinks she is being nice to you by not telling you.

 

I know it hurts so much right now. The best thing you can do is give her space. Contacting her now will only push her away. And you will heal faster. Get rid or hide anything that you have that reminds you of her. Don't look her up on any social media sites. Go out as much as you can, and do things you love, even if you don't feel like it. It's so hard, and she will consume your every thought, but it does slowly get easier.

 

If she wants you back, she will contact you. Nothing you can do. But by then, you will probably have met someone more wonderful.

 

I spent many years backpacking, working and studying abroad. When you are away from home, it is very easy to forget about what is going on at home, and you can move on so much faster. Everything is so new and exciting. That's why she moved on so quickly. Sorry.

[blotter]

"She wanted to experience new things" a.k.a. new penises

[Chi townD]

I know she would never hook up with anyone or do anything with anyone there - she's not that type of girl and I still trust her.

 

Uh huh....dude, you can search on this forum for threads from men and women that said the EXACT same thing that you just said. Only to research further and see them exclaiming, "I can't believe that bitch or bastard cheated on me!!!"

 

I mean, come on dude.... She breaks up with you stating that she needs to experience new things. And one week later (just a couple of days!) you see pics of her with another guy. No remorse, no mourning the loss of the relationship....nothing. Dude, she KNEW she was going to hook up with this guy and she didn't want to feel guilty about cheating because...well, she already was (she got emotionally invested in this dude) and she wanted to cut ties with you before it turned physical so she wouldn't feel so guilty. And don't believe that "he's just a friend" bullsh*t. How many other exclusive pics (with her and another dude) did you see? Or was it always just the two of them?

Dude, she can SAY that she didn't cheat on you and she's not lying to you, BUT SHE'S LYING!!!! She's a frickin cheater. I guarantee you that if you continued to talk to her, you would find out that they did have sex and that they ARE dating and then you would get the "he's not the reason we broke up." Guarantee you that.

 

Dude, go NC on her. She cheated and tossed you to the side. She's not worth your time. Find someone with good morals and knows how to treat a man right.

[Radu]

Look up Grass Is Greener Syndrome, she was planning this for a long time ... and kept you as a reserve in case things didn't work out as she had hoped.

When it was convenient for her, she dumped you.

 

She will return to you when it suits her, i hope you will be in a better place.