irishrose Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, today is our anniversary actually! Right now he's working; it's 11pm and he started at 6am, this happens once or twice a week and he would never finish before 10pm. I'm at university 20 miles from him so although it's not far away I see him once a week (If i'm lucky). Of course I understand that he has to work but the hours are just so unreasonable that when I do see him he just wants to sleep. It has gotten worse this past six months and I guess I'm just sort of wondering where it's going. Apart from the time issue he's a great guy and when we're together it's fantastic; it's just hard to stick that he's not there fore me. When I go out it's with my friends, if i'm upset I fix it on my own or with my family/friends, we haven't been to dinner, the cinema or even something silly and free like the park in over a year. I'm sick of having the same argument over and over, but I don't know where it's going to go. I'm 20 and he's 22 and although we're young we've been through a lot together (he has bulimia, I was raped right before we got together so we had sexual problems, his family don't like him being with me and a whole host of other more minor things) which makes me think that we are a strong couple and can cope with problems, this is actually more complicated to deal with than any I'd mentioned. Help or comments, please!
todreaminblue Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, today is our anniversary actually! Right now he's working; it's 11pm and he started at 6am, this happens once or twice a week and he would never finish before 10pm. I'm at university 20 miles from him so although it's not far away I see him once a week (If i'm lucky). Of course I understand that he has to work but the hours are just so unreasonable that when I do see him he just wants to sleep. It has gotten worse this past six months and I guess I'm just sort of wondering where it's going. Apart from the time issue he's a great guy and when we're together it's fantastic; it's just hard to stick that he's not there fore me. When I go out it's with my friends, if i'm upset I fix it on my own or with my family/friends, we haven't been to dinner, the cinema or even something silly and free like the park in over a year. I'm sick of having the same argument over and over, but I don't know where it's going to go. I'm 20 and he's 22 and although we're young we've been through a lot together (he has bulimia, I was raped right before we got together so we had sexual problems, his family don't like him being with me and a whole host of other more minor things) which makes me think that we are a strong couple and can cope with problems, this is actually more complicated to deal with than any I'd mentioned. Help or comments, please! i am always a believer in quality time....so next time you do have time together be open and honest with how you feel theres no use in keeping it to yourself.....letting it form a wedge......where theres a will theres a way and if you truly care abtou soemone there is always a way......and with two heads working on that way around the time you spend together...you will find it.....best wishes....deb
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