Wonder310 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 So me & this girl that I've been talking to for over a year, got into an argument (again). We said some pretty messed up things to eachother. For example, we said we both regret meeting eachother & what not. I said all of that stuff out of anger because she said she didn't have feelings for me anymore. She keeps saying that I didn't appreciate her at first & that I broke her heart back then, when I didn't. She put me through so much crap, but I still stayed. She still has feelings for her ex, but I still stayed .. Anyways, an hour passed by & then she called like everything was cool. It's confusing. She gives me mixed signals. She says she doesn't have feelings for me, so I try to move on but she acts like she does. For example, I'll talk to another girl & she'll get jealous -_- Idk what to do. It's driving me crazy
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Have you ever actually met this girl, I mean actually in the same room? How about actually meeting up, (old fashioned concept, I know!) then you can both see how you feel about her, although not sure why you're bothering as she still has feelings for her ex?! So me & this girl that I've been talking to for over a year, got into an argument (again). We said some pretty messed up things to eachother. For example, we said we both regret meeting eachother & what not. I said all of that stuff out of anger because she said she didn't have feelings for me anymore. She keeps saying that I didn't appreciate her at first & that I broke her heart back then, when I didn't. She put me through so much crap, but I still stayed. She still has feelings for her ex, but I still stayed .. Anyways, an hour passed by & then she called like everything was cool. It's confusing. She gives me mixed signals. She says she doesn't have feelings for me, so I try to move on but she acts like she does. For example, I'll talk to another girl & she'll get jealous -_- Idk what to do. It's driving me crazy
Author Wonder310 Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 I used to live in Houston (where she stays) but I ended up moving to Vegas... I'm going back to Houston on the 9th of Jan. Should I just wait it out until I see her? And then go from there?
Carenth Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 You really like being manipulated don't you? This is the third thread you have made in like 2 days about this. Why do you let her walk all over you, why don't you cut her out of your life like you said you would. You said yourself in other threads that you were sick of being treated like crap... yet you keep running back to her whenever she snaps her fingers... She's not giving you mixed signals it's pretty loud and clear she doesn't have feelings for you but loves the attention you keep giving her whenever she demands it. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 He's not even met her IRL yet OP, you sound quite obsessed over someone you've not even met, please listen to some of the advice in your other threads, people are trying to help you. You really like being manipulated don't you? This is the third thread you have made in like 2 days about this. Why do you let her walk all over you, why don't you cut her out of your life like you said you would. You said yourself in other threads that you were sick of being treated like crap... yet you keep running back to her whenever she snaps her fingers... She's not giving you mixed signals it's pretty loud and clear she doesn't have feelings for you but loves the attention you keep giving her whenever she demands it.
salparadise Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I can't believe people are posting about online interactions and calling them relationships, and since they live a few thousand miles apart, posting in the LDR forum. Let me guess... the OP is 13 years old too? 2
HeavenOrHell Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I agree, I once started a thread about it in another forum here, but got shot down about it for being heartless, but when people talk about breaking up with someone they've not met, for example, I just find it too much. This doesn't mean I think you can't have strong feelings for someone you've not met, obviously we can, but breaking up with someone we've not met?! I still go with; a person doesn't know how they'll feel until they've actually MET that person. I can't believe people are posting about online interactions and calling them relationships, and since they live a few thousand miles apart, posting in the LDR forum. Let me guess... the OP is 13 years old too?
Carenth Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I agree, I once started a thread about it in another forum here, but got shot down about it for being heartless, but when people talk about breaking up with someone they've not met, for example, I just find it too much. This doesn't mean I think you can't have strong feelings for someone you've not met, obviously we can, but breaking up with someone we've not met?! I still go with; a person doesn't know how they'll feel until they've actually MET that person. I do agree with this as well and it was why my partner and I were so tentative to call ourselves that until we had actually met in person. Because whilst we did care for each other, we had no idea if that would transfer to real life. Luckily for us it did, but until that point we were very private about our "relationship". Luckily for us we got along fantastically in real life as well. 1
Author Wonder310 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 So do I just wait it out until I see her?
Author Wonder310 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 Alright .. I know I come off to you guys as desperate & obsessed. I have a serious problem. Idk how to fix it
coffeebean201 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Online relationships are still relationships. And an online fight is still a fight. Online interactions have moved far beyond classified ads in the newspaper, folks. At the end of the day - you want to be with someone who brings out the best in you, whether that is online or face2face (or both).
justwhoiam Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Idk how to fix it You're lucky, I do know. Less weed... quit the pot. And you'll get your brain back. Seriously. This is your lucky day. Or you can flush this piece of advice down the toilet... but then don't open the nth thread on this.
Author Wonder310 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 how do you know I smoke pot? .__. lol but okay, I'll try to quit
Author Wonder310 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 So she's about to get a boyfriend & I'm heartbroken .. what's messed up is she still tries to talk to me & it messes with my feelings
justwhoiam Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 how do you know I smoke pot? .__. lol but okay, I'll try to quit You told us... and she complained about that too. So she's about to get a boyfriend & I'm heartbroken .. what's messed up is she still tries to talk to me & it messes with my feelings Change your phone #, unFB her if you are on FB, stop any contact, go out and meet new people.
Author Wonder310 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 I am. But deep down I still want to be with her. I'll just wait till I go to Houston. When I'm there, do I contact her & tell her that I'm in Houston or no?
Carenth Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Sure if you like pain and misery as company, which I'm starting to think you do.
Author Wonder310 Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Not to be weird or anything, but we were gonna lose our virginity to eachother. That's something BIG
justwhoiam Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Sure if you like pain and misery as company, which I'm starting to think you do. Merry Christmas, Carenth Not to be weird or anything, but we were gonna lose our virginity to eachother. That's something BIG Uh huh... so she said... but I guess she had to meet you before anything... and then decide... Are you taking us seriously or like when you read horoscopes?
Carenth Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 Not to be weird or anything, but we were gonna lose our virginity to eachother. That's something BIG Wow really? really did I just read that? Is this why you want to be "together" with her, sorry to say if shes treating you like crap and doesn't respect you (which she is doing both since you haven't noticed) she's not going to be having sex with you, you're off your rocker. Just go ask her if she still wants to lose her virginity with you, do it in person. It will end super well I'm sure, or you could stop living in this fantasy situation you are creating. Merry Christmas, Carenth Merry Christmas to you as well justwhoiam, I hope all is well.
Pink Princess Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 OP, i know you're sad, frustrated, and heart broken, but the advises you're given are good advises even if they seem harsh. honestly i'm not going to say anything since any advice given is just going to be disregarded until you decide to listen and let it go. good luck!
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