rocketman122 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 and thats why you women are single or cant hold a relationship. simple as that.
snowflakes88 Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 and thats why you women are single or cant hold a relationship. simple as that. Why is it so difficult for you to believe that not every man needs or wants the sort of constant contact you do? And I may be single now, but I've had good relationships in the past with men who are the same way I am. I'd rather be single forever than be with someone who expects me to check in with them all the time or someone who spends his day telling me his every move. That is totally unappealing to me. Sorry. 1
Author paintedtree Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 and thats why you women are single or cant hold a relationship. simple as that. Hahaha. Or maybe, just maybe, we are single because we choose to be. I LIKE the person I am with when I am alone... I like being with just me. I don't need someone to constantly be around me, or checking in, or needing to know where I am. I don't need that kind of constant attention. To each their own. And if having the laugh on me means that I am not in a relationship where I would be unhappy? I'll take that laughter any day. Now, Rocketman, why don't you go enjoy your wonderful girlfriend that you're so happy with and stop pestering us.
phineas Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Hahaha. Or maybe, just maybe, we are single because we choose to be. I LIKE the person I am with when I am alone... I like being with just me. I don't need someone to constantly be around me, or checking in, or needing to know where I am. I don't need that kind of constant attention. To each their own. And if having the laugh on me means that I am not in a relationship where I would be unhappy? I'll take that laughter any day. Now, Rocketman, why don't you go enjoy your wonderful girlfriend that you're so happy with and stop pestering us. If all that were true, then why do you need an internet forum to tell you what you want to hear? And the false bravado when you don't hear what you want provides the LULZ.
veggirl Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 and thats why you women are single or cant hold a relationship. simple as that. Im not single and yet I don't think its necessary for me to inform my man of my every move. So far today I have painted my nails, ate a slice of pizza, drank coffee, and watched TV. I didn't tell him about any of it, should I expect we will break up soon? Sometimes I go out all day long and I don't inform him of it before the fact and I don't ask his permission. Weird huh. 1
phineas Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Im not single and yet I don't think its necessary for me to inform my man of my every move. So far today I have painted my nails, ate a slice of pizza, drank coffee, and watched TV. I didn't tell him about any of it, should I expect we will break up soon? Sometimes I go out all day long and I don't inform him of it before the fact and I don't ask his permission. Weird huh. But, would you leave town on a road trip without telling him?
Author paintedtree Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 If all that were true, then why do you need an internet forum to tell you what you want to hear? And the false bravado when you don't hear what you want provides the LULZ. Actually, what provides the "LULZ" as you so intelligently put, is that you are so dead-set on trying to make me buy into your point of view. I'm not sure why you've taken such an interest in this, but it's somewhat interesting. Overcompensation must go a long way in your world.
phineas Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Actually, what provides the "LULZ" as you so intelligently put, is that you are so dead-set on trying to make me buy into your point of view. I'm not sure why you've taken such an interest in this, but it's somewhat interesting. Overcompensation must go a long way in your world. Let's see, you came here & created a post about it but claim it's no big deal. Then you feel the need to attempt to insult me over something you claim is no big deal. You don't like what people have to say, don't create a thread on an open forum. Go sign up for blog somewhere then you can delete any and all comments that don't agree with you. You are providing the LULZ by doing one thing while trying to claim another.
Author paintedtree Posted December 24, 2012 Author Posted December 24, 2012 Let's see, you came here & created a post about it but claim it's no big deal. Then you feel the need to attempt to insult me over something you claim is no big deal. You don't like what people have to say, don't create a thread on an open forum. Go sign up for blog somewhere then you can delete any and all comments that don't agree with you. You are providing the LULZ by doing one thing while trying to claim another. That still doesn't explain why you are so set on shoving your opinion down everyone's throat. I haven't once claimed that my stance on this is "right" or "correct". It's just my opinion, and my life. Last I checked, you don't own these forums. So I *think* anyone can post here, about whatever they are struggling with. Regardless, I feel I have wasted enough time with you. And while I am sure you'll find some reason as to why I am a terrible person yet again, I wish you the best. Good luck out there.
phineas Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 That still doesn't explain why you are so set on shoving your opinion down everyone's throat. I haven't once claimed that my stance on this is "right" or "correct". It's just my opinion, and my life. Define "Everyone". defensive much? Last I checked, you don't own these forums. So I *think* anyone can post here, about whatever they are struggling with. . Show me where I said otherwise. You are the one up in arms over my "opinion". Funny how when you do it, it's your opinion but when I do it i'm "shoving it down everyone's throat" You are almost Oscar worthy the way you are now trying to play the part of the vicitm. Regardless, I feel I have wasted enough time with you. And while I am sure you'll find some reason as to why I am a terrible person yet again, I wish you the best. Good luck out there. sure you won't. and in conclusion you throw a pity party. I think you are a shoe-in for that award for playing the victim. Well, at least you didn't resort to calling me a man hater so i'll give you that.
snowflakes88 Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 But, would you leave town on a road trip without telling him? Phineas, do you honestly not think it makes a difference that OP and this guy were not in a relationship? If you were just casually dating a woman - no committed relationship - would you sincerely be mad if she went to hang out with her girlfriend for the day without talking to you about it first?
veggirl Posted December 25, 2012 Posted December 25, 2012 (edited) But, would you leave town on a road trip without telling him? He's not even her boyfriend! It was a DAY trip! They weren't staying over night or anything! Yes I would go on a day trip without telling a guy I am just dating first! I would go on it without telling my mom or best friend too. I might text from the car just cause I'm excited about what I'm going to do but it wouldn't be to "check in" with some dude I'm just dating. "Leave town"? How far do you think you can get on a mid-day roadtrip lol. God. If a guy I am JUST dating calls or texts and says he is going on a mid day "roadtrip" I would be like oh cool have fun. If I called him in the middle of the afternoon (having not heard from him that day) and he told me "Oh I'm in Tucson (2 hrs away) with Jason, he showed up and we took off, I'll be coming home tonight" I would be like "Oh, cool have fun" not "OMFG HOW COULD YOU NOT TELL ME?!?!?!" omg those would be my reactions for my BOYFRIEND too! It's a day trip! That's all. Jesus. It's not like she ran off to Alaska with a friend for 2 wks without telling someone. It's a day trip. So much drama for some of you...jeeeez. Edited December 25, 2012 by veggirl
phineas Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 (edited) Phineas, do you honestly not think it makes a difference that OP and this guy were not in a relationship? If you were just casually dating a woman - no committed relationship - would you sincerely be mad if she went to hang out with her girlfriend for the day without talking to you about it first? I asked YOU a simple yes/no question & in return I got a lot of deflecting. He's not even her boyfriend! Really? She came to LS & posted a few paragraphs with bullet points over a bang buddy? You are honestly telling me you believe that? Who does that around here? Drama queens & people just looking for anyone to agree with their poor behavior. Also, LOL at your total deflection of my simple question. Let's see, I ask "But, would you leave town on a road trip without telling him?" and two women get defensive & respond with everything but the answer to my simple question. edit: I also love the way people who are posting in this thread along with me keep trying to dissuade me from continuing to post. Very telling. Edited December 26, 2012 by phineas
TheZebra Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 But, would you leave town on a road trip without telling him? Since you seem hung up on people not answering your question, I'll take one for the team lol Yes! Done it in the past and no ex has ever complained. If you don't have a date or weren't planning on going out then I don't see the issue. The only times I inform a guy is if the period is longer and the travel more extensive. I don't think I could date a guy that wanted to keep tabs on where I was all the time... too clingy.
dreamingoftigers Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Hey, I didn't make the rule up. I'm just telling you women in relationships for the most part get pissy if their man aint where they think he is. you don't believe me, hop in the car with the boys & not notify her until she starts looking for you. Trust me on this. No woman i've ever known in person would be cool with this & I work with a lot of women & i've seen this scenero play out many times. However, when the women do it, they act just like the OP does. Cripes, my husband hung out at Occupy Edmonton impromptu (3 hours away). I thought it was kind of dumb but I didn't make a federal case out of it. If he took a daytrip with a male friend (assuming he had one close enough in the city and I knew the guy even assonance he had mentioned historically just for a reference point) it really wouldn't raise a flag. We even had one of his old homebum friends stay with us last summer. Yeah he asked about it, but I really had no problems with him bringing his drunken, unwashed friend over for a week or so. He was a pretty cool guy overall. I gave the guy a ride to Golden even. It was all good. Some people just like to freak out.
phineas Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Since you seem hung up on people not answering your question, I'll take one for the team lol Yes! Done it in the past and no ex has ever complained. If you don't have a date or weren't planning on going out then I don't see the issue. The only times I inform a guy is if the period is longer and the travel more extensive. I don't think I could date a guy that wanted to keep tabs on where I was all the time... too clingy. I'm sorry, but how is asking questions people purposefully avoid answering being "hung up" on something? Like I said, it's very telling when people do this. But thanks for womaning up & answering. LOL!
TheZebra Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 I'm sorry, but how is asking questions people purposefully avoid answering being "hung up" on something? Like I said, it's very telling when people do this. But thanks for womaning up & answering. LOL! Because it's an internet forum where people project their own feelings, experiences, and insecurities, not a real debate. But to go back to the topic, here are the situations where I WOULD tell the guy I'm going to be out of town for 1 day: 1) If we live together 2) If we normally see each other on the day I'm leaving (even though no plans have been made) 3) If we had the possibility of seeing each other (if I/he said 'let's try to see each other on ____ afternoon) 4) If we already have something scheduled [though it would be dickish of me to reschedule our date, so I'd probably say no to the road trip in this scenario] 1
veggirl Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 Uh phineas I did answer your question. I said yes. Read my post again if you need.
sydneysider1978 Posted December 26, 2012 Posted December 26, 2012 OP - I think he over reacted. I don't check in all the time, even with a serious boyfriend, if we don't have plans. But I'm quite chatty so I probably would have sent an excited text. However, at the point he texted that he was locked out, I probably would have called to explain that I couldn't help and see if there was anything else I could do. I would do this for any friend. I could see how he would be annoyed (not at you, just annoyed). He assumed you'd be at home, on the phone straight away and that you could let him in. His situation got a whole lot more tricky with you not at home (not your fault) He shouldn't have directed his anger at you. And his sulking is pretty immature. Does he think the relationship is more serious than you do?
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