Addicted to Love? Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Okay why would I pine over a guy 10yrs my jr, with no direction in life, lives with his parents, calls me a "7" and himself a "9"... because he's soooo goooood loooooking and a great ahem lover. I feel terrible because I want to love him... I do love him... but he just can't commit to me... Why do I care? We've been together for 5 months, several times a week, two trips, family gatherings on both sides... All very fun and comfortable BUT... he finds it hard to say "I love you"- says the more you say it the less it means (WTF???) he's not inconsiderate but is oblivious to when I very obviously need help... he just never offers a thing, materially or emotionally. I've been paying for most everything... make 4 times what he does so it's okay, but... He doesn't offer other things that he could, never decides where or when to go do anything... Doesn't need me or want me to the degree I want him... he's got a big ego so I guess moving into my house and all would be embarassing... But he lives with his mom and dad and brother and sister in law and neice and nephew, his mom does his laundry for goodness sakes. He still lives for the approval of his family... and I'm really tired of spending so much time with them... I told him I like to be alone with him and he was offended... He hardly ever comes to my house... my house is not far, is a nicer place actually, and definetly more private... So I told him we need to take a break... I feel like he is not able to grow up, well what do you think?
Blah Toolz Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 Someone who says that he himself is a "9," and you are a "7," is a little mousy **** in my opinion. Someone who is truly in love with you wouldn't say that. Girls have called me a "pretty boy" before... which I don't like, and I would not consider myself... and I have been with girls who I wouldn't consider a "10," in the looks department, but I would never say anything like that to them. You should start looking for somebody who will start liking you for you, and not just to get an ego boost for himself. You'll find someone who will actually care for, and harbor genuine feelings for you... ditch this bag of ****.
reasontosigh Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 Hmmmm....why do you care? I have no answer to that one, really. Blah Toolz is right - you need to find someone who will be more appreciative of you, to say the least. A 10 year age difference is not a problem in and of itself. Not sure of the exact ages here, but yes it does sound like he's young to the point where he does have some growing up to do still, and (in my thinking of the age estimate here) you're a bit young to be having a midlife crisis just yet.
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