Billyjo Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Okay so just for fun..(we could all use a little of that right now, ay?).. How long have you been in NC and do you think your ex will break it and say Merry Christmas or something similar? I'm interested to know who's expecting that and then who ends up being right A few weeks ago I would have said for sure my ex would say Merry Christmas because she was still being loving and considerate, but I'm pretty sure she's seeing someone and she is being argumentative and crazy. So now we've been in NC for 3 weeks and I'm pretty sure I will not be getting a "merry Christmas" or anything like that. We will see...
KatZee Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 NC 7 months. He didn't wish me a Happy Birthday, Happy Thanksgiving, or Happy anything else so no, I'm not expecting him to have some sort of epiphany and wish me a happy holidays. I think I'd just stare at my phone and laugh if he did send something anyway. 1
cavalier99 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 NC almost 11 weeks. I don't expect anything. My birthday was last weekend and nothing. I must admit I was staring at my email that day. She is blocked on my phone and she knows it. She dumped me for a new guy, so I'm assuming if they are still together that I'm not even more than a passing thought at this point. Cant wait until she leaves the active part of my brain because she doesn't deserve my thoughts.
denxnis Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 NC almost 11 weeks. She dumped me for a new guy, so I'm assuming if they are still together that I'm not even more than a passing thought at this point. Stay strong brother - try not to dwell on the past or how many weeks you've been NC. Worry about feeling comfortable in your own skin again and rebuilding any self-confidence you lost from the breakup. Ex has no way of wishing me a merry Christmas and I love it! 1 week no contact for me today!
cavalier99 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Stay strong brother - try not to dwell on the past or how many weeks you've been NC. Worry about feeling comfortable in your own skin again and rebuilding any self-confidence you lost from the breakup. Ex has no way of wishing me a merry Christmas and I love it! 1 week no contact for me today! Good for you man! They don't deserve our thoughts because quite franky i don't think they really care much about us now and even if they wished us a merry Christmas it means nothing.
cavalier99 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Stay strong brother - try not to dwell on the past or how many weeks you've been NC. Worry about feeling comfortable in your own skin again and rebuilding any self-confidence you lost from the breakup. Ex has no way of wishing me a merry Christmas and I love it! 1 week no contact for me today! My confidence is great right now. She is just like an annoying pesky mosquito buzzing around my brain at times. Must swat mosquito without killing too many brain cells lol
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Its been like 6 wks NC.. I haven't been counting really but I know somewhere around there and nope not a chance but my ex I've come to learn isn't really human at all and has absolutly no feelings. MERRY CHRISTMAS!! btw santa I want a foot massager!!
na49 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Almost 7 weeks NC. (I think) and no I'm not expecting anything from her. The only messages I expect from her now are friend zone BS which I ignore. Even those I only get when I'm not expecting them and not thinking about them lol. She must know when I'm forgetting she exists and that's when she takes the opportunity to remind me that she does.
Amelie1980 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I have no idea ..... 2 days NC. On a break for 3 weeks instigated by him. He dropped a present & card off at my office 2 days ago. WTF !!!!!!!
notsosuperman Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Glad someone did a post on this, as I have been wondering! I am not expecting her to contact me, but at the same time I kinda want her to do so.. She broke up with me, couldn't be in a relationship, wanted to be friends. She has reached out to me two times while I have been NC. I have been polite and answering. I just don't feel like I wanna do that anymore. Its completely fair that she doesnt want to be in a relationship with me, 100 %. But she was the one to start it, so I got the lust for more. I just dont think I can or want to just settle down and "accept" the friendship offer.. I kinda want her to text so I can ignore that text and show her something.. I don't know why I think like this. What should I do?
Samilia Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Okay so just for fun..(we could all use a little of that right now, ay?).. How long have you been in NC and do you think your ex will break it and say Merry Christmas or something similar? I'm interested to know who's expecting that and then who ends up being right A few weeks ago I would have said for sure my ex would say Merry Christmas because she was still being loving and considerate, but I'm pretty sure she's seeing someone and she is being argumentative and crazy. So now we've been in NC for 3 weeks and I'm pretty sure I will not be getting a "merry Christmas" or anything like that. We will see... Well you guys broke up, I don't think she needs to be "loving and considerate" in that specific case. Why hope for it? She wouldn't be doing you a favor, it's not like you guys are going to be friends anytime soon, or get back together since there's a new guy. Don't let your pride get the best of you.
terlislee Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 3 weeks NC from my side, over 4 months from his So yeah I don't think he will be wishing me anything out of a sudden, plus he's from a culture that doesn't celebrate Christmas anyway. It sucks to still be hurting and missing him, I'm fearing NYE the most since that's when I usually get all emotional remembering the past year.
suladas Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 About 2 weeks, I really doubt there will be anything but it's tough to say for sure. 2 weeks ago, and about 1 week before that was the first time in over 4 months from her end so who knows. Also depends if we run into each other in person, if so i'd say it's very likely.
datdude Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 Today is exactly one month since she broke up with me after our four years together. Left completely surprised, confused, numb... just terrible. I'm preparing myself for a Christmas without her. I think I have to. If I don't hear anything, I think it clarifies where we do stand (or at least where I stand in even wanting to get back together). Is it horrible that I feel this way? Feel as if all trust is gone... The more time passes, the more she's making it clearer and clearer that the woman I had planned on spending the rest of my life with doesn't deserve me....
Author Billyjo Posted December 23, 2012 Author Posted December 23, 2012 I'm preparing myself for a Christmas without her. I think I have to. If I don't hear anything, I think it clarifies where we do stand (or at least where I stand in even wanting to get back together). . I love that you said this. I agree, if my ex doesn't contact me to at least wish me a merry Christmas then I know that I really am dead to her and she doesn't care anymore. Maybe that's a good thing..I won't have to wonder anymore if she thinks about me or ever misses me..
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