Els Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 If a guy is totally focused on getting a woman and sex, it really comes across like that to women. For example, his talk will be flirty but he'll be distracted from talk of real substance. He'll be looking her up and down and not listening to what she's saying. She'll be wondering why he's interested in her when they apparently don't share any hobbies or interests (and conclude he just wants sex!). He'll probably forget a few of his manners in his eagerness to get to the goal. Instead of getting to know her, he'll be focusing on getting her alone, talking of sex, and being intense and serious because he's so single minded. Having been the woman who was frequently faced with the guy above, it creeped me out and I avoided them. I wanted to get to know a guy as a friend not have him ogling me the whole time and staring down my cleavage. It feels creepy when someone is trying to get you alone and yet you are pretty damn sure he doesn't want to get private time to talk! Guys with interests who are relaxed feel safer to be with and trust can grow with them. They are also more capable of a two-way conversation and don't try to force it in one direction. Really, there is a huge difference in the kind of relationship you can have with a guy who is not so focused on bedding a girl. Same here, absolutely.
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