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iris219 Established Member

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Here's what I've found: The prettier the friend I'm with, the less likely anyone will talk to us.

 

I had this friend when I lived in NY. She was a Brazilian model and no guys ever talked to us. One of my friends now is half Iranian. She has light skin and honey colored hair, and she's gorgeous. Men never talk to us when we go out.

 

When I'm with average looking female friends, we get approached a lot more.

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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I don't think she's prettier than you are, but who cares? It's your propensity to be jealous and insecure that is the bigger problem than what your friend looks like. Maybe you should work on those issues.

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tigressA Established Member

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You yourself said your friend is very bubbly, confident and outgoing. These are qualities that will draw loads of people to you even if you're not all that physically attractive.

 

I think my friends and I are of relatively equal attractiveness, but I was never jealous of them getting more attention when we went out. The attention they get is not what I would welcome anyway, at least not from the guys who are giving it. My friends and I tend to be attracted to vastly different types (my type of guy isn't really the kind to socialize in bars), so being jealous would be especially pointless for me.

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Here's what I've found: The prettier the friend I'm with, the less likely anyone will talk to us.

 

I had this friend when I lived in NY. She was a Brazilian model and no guys ever talked to us. One of my friends now is half Iranian. She has light skin and honey colored hair, and she's gorgeous. Men never talk to us when we go out.

 

When I'm with average looking female friends, we get approached a lot more.

 

That is weird. Maybe they don't like exotic looking women where you live?

edgygirl Established Member

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I agree that it's pretty common. At least where I live.

 

That is weird. Maybe they don't like exotic looking women where you live?
iris219 Established Member

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That is weird. Maybe they don't like exotic looking women where you live?

 

I don't know. I'm not exotic looking. Maybe we look like b*tches. :laugh:

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darkmoon Established Member

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if i thought a woman friend was prettier than me, i would see no point in looking for (or perhaps even keeping) a boyfriend with her around

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mesmerized Established Member

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if i thought a woman friend was prettier than me, i would see no point in looking for (or perhaps even keeping) a boyfriend with her around

 

Seriously?? :eek: I understand tho, hard to trust men.

 

I don't know. I'm not exotic looking. Maybe we look like b*tches. :laugh:

 

Yeah possible that you look unapproachable.

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if i thought a woman friend was prettier than me, i would see no point in looking for (or perhaps even keeping) a boyfriend with her around

 

Are you serious? you think that little of men? maybe hang around some good men then the creeps youve seen thats shaped your opinion

zanesfan Established Member

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Stop it. You are beautiful. I didn't know who was who, but by far u are the prettiest.

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if i thought a woman friend was prettier than me, i would see no point in looking for (or perhaps even keeping) a boyfriend with her around

 

**slowly backs away**

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darkmoon Established Member

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Are you serious? you think that little of men? maybe hang around some good men then the creeps youve seen thats shaped your opinion

 

yes, i am absolutely serious, men are perfectly capable of preferring the more fanciable woman, i like men, they are my friends which is why I would never use the insult of creep, it's no crime to get a hard-on

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So I just realized as much as I lovelovelove my friend the fact that she is stunningly beautiful makes me feel weird. Is it weird I just feel so awkward and ugly compared to her, and we do everything together so everyone we come in contact with will see us together and see how pretty she is. She doesn't even have to try to be pretty she just is! I'm jealous I admit. Basically this started when I was talking to a guy a while back and I had added him on FB and he saw her and basically told me I should hook him up with her... Then yesterday I was texting this guy and we were talking about how we were going to the bar to celebrate our birthday and how I was at a Christmas party the other night and I showed him this cute picture Image - TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting I took with her (because I actually felt pretty in the picture) and he said to me "oh you guys are cute" then he was like "so tell me about your friend.. jk jk" but I know he obviously thought it which doesn't bother me because I don't care about him much it is just that he isn't the first guy to do that. We are celebrating our birthday together and I just bought a cute outfit and I'm excited but I'm afraid I will feel insecure and like weird and I honestly want my birthday to be the best day ever! I'm so excited to celebrate with her because I love her to death but I just feel like all the guys at the bars will love her and I want to make them love me too :D They can love us both! lol What should I do?

 

 

you are a gorgeous girl....i feel strange looking at pics of people on here...lol....feels creepy ....i just wanted to tell you ......that i think you are just as pretty as your friend and not an ounce less.....you have a beautiful smile and are rockin it girlfriend.....be happy......and confident.....stunning and beauty isnt on face value by the way...its often your flaws that can push you over into stunning....humility and a little bit of humble pie......never a bad thing....you are a humble spirit with a beautiful face...rock it...hugs to yar....deb

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darkmoon Established Member

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i look for boyfs on my own, tbh, unless my friend and i do not have the same taste in men - this happened to me too, happily - but the situation can be rather nervewracking, do what you want, it's only one remark i made, jus how i go on the hunt...:confused:

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I would keep her as a friend.

 

Dating is a rocky journey, at the best of times.

 

Keep developing your inner-womanliness.

 

(I didn't look at the photo. Some people get really hung up on looks.)

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Yookie Established Member

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Just going by the faces, both of you should look about equal. Are you out of shape, flat chested or have some other physical feature that would make her get attention over you?

CptObvious Established Member

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huh, hmmm, I remember IisB being a lot hotter for some reason

 

your friend is alright. All I can see is her face so I can't give a rating. She's really plain but if she has a nice rack then I'd completely understand a 9/10 score.

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Just going by the faces, both of you should look about equal. Are you out of shape, flat chested or have some other physical feature that would make her get attention over you?

 

iirc IisB has a nice pair herself. Obviously not going to win against DD+ but she should be proud.

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I have a collection of pretty intelligent interesting friends. Whenever we go out there's not just one guy. There's several for each. The only time I've been slightly jealous of a friends looks is when she posed in playboy and my ex's friend asked him if he would fFHUCK her. Yeah. That's rude. Think it, fine, but have the common sense not to be so crass infront of me.

 

IB you're a pretty girl. Don't be insecure with anyone because everyone has different things to offer. If that guy made you feel bad its because he thinks that's acceptable behavior. Correct him. If he says things again, NEXT.

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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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She always gets all the hottest guys, I honestly don't know if I can keep being friends with her... That's extreme but I don't know if I can keep being in pictures with her because everytime I add a pic of me and her out on our birthday she gets friend requests from guys I know and that I would love to date. We celebrated our birthday together and last night and had really cute pics and I uploaded them and then she texts me and asks me about some guy who I went to his frat a lot and we texted a little, I guess he added her.. I just hate that she gets ALL THE HOT GUYS and I get unhot guys or less hot. Shes going to marry some supermodel type guy and I'm going to marry a non model type ugh! I went out last night and I got a number! He isn't the most hottest guy ever, he is kind of nerdy and has glasses and idk but he is cute and seems nice. He asked me out again and I was like sure... so that is a bright spot of my birthday :) it was a great night.

 

I'm not going to sweat it.. I had a great birthday with great friends and I looked pretty and felt confident and it was good, that is good for me to have done that right? And I got hit on thats good.. that makes me feel good.

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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She always gets all the hottest guys, I honestly don't know if I can keep being friends with her...

 

You'd seriously consider bailing on a "great friend because she gets the ALL hottest guys? Wow. It doesn't sound like you have much of a friendship at all.

 

"HOT GUYS" come and go. Good friends are with you for a lifetime.

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The basic problem is that you're trying to compete with a white girl for white guys.

 

As a white guy, if there was a pretty white girl and a girl of another ethnicity. The other girl would have to be significantly more attractive than the white girl for me to chose her.

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She always gets all the hottest guys, I honestly don't know if I can keep being friends with her... That's extreme but I don't know if I can keep being in pictures with her because everytime I add a pic of me and her out on our birthday she gets friend requests from guys I know and that I would love to date. We celebrated our birthday together and last night and had really cute pics and I uploaded them and then she texts me and asks me about some guy who I went to his frat a lot and we texted a little, I guess he added her.. I just hate that she gets ALL THE HOT GUYS and I get unhot guys or less hot. Shes going to marry some supermodel type guy and I'm going to marry a non model type ugh! I went out last night and I got a number! He isn't the most hottest guy ever, he is kind of nerdy and has glasses and idk but he is cute and seems nice. He asked me out again and I was like sure... so that is a bright spot of my birthday :) it was a great night.

 

I'm not going to sweat it.. I had a great birthday with great friends and I looked pretty and felt confident and it was good, that is good for me to have done that right? And I got hit on thats good.. that makes me feel good.

 

Oh, the pain of not being able to get the HOTTEST guys.

 

Have you read any of the threads here about guys who can barely get women at all or have been rejected constantly by average women they just liked as people?

 

Excuse me if I don't cry a river for you Argentina.

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SilentVoice Established Member

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The basic problem is that you're trying to compete with a white girl for white guys.

 

As a white guy, if there was a pretty white girl and a girl of another ethnicity. The other girl would have to be significantly more attractive than the white girl for me to chose her.

:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

 

"Like a Seagull in a Adam Sandler Movie"

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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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You'd seriously consider bailing on a "great friend because she gets the ALL hottest guys? Wow. It doesn't sound like you have much of a friendship at all.

 

"HOT GUYS" come and go. Good friends are with you for a lifetime.

 

I think I said after that that I wouldn't give her up as a friend I should just stop going out with her and posting pics of it

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