neveragain34 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 An affair is often compared to an addiction due to the "high" you get from being with the WS or OP so your husband is in a sense "recovering" from his addiction. If he was a recovering alcoholic, would you put a beer if front of him knowing how tempting it would be for him to have just one taste?? Same thing applies to the OW; knowing there was a chance she could be there, he should not have gone; the temptation is too high. Sure, they see each other at work, but work is necessary, not optional. 1
Decorative Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 what can I say to that? What reply would convince you? why do I need to convince you? I can' t prove a negAtive.I could only potentiAlly prove that he is still in the affAir but there is no evidence that he is. Nobody is asking you to prove anything to us. I promise. It's just that some of us have experience- and see things that you might miss from your vantage point ( and we've been there, and missed them, too) - and we want you to have a better experience than we did. Nobody is asking you to prove a negative. But some of us who have been former betrayed spouses, in successful and happy reconciliations- are telling you that this situation is ringing some alarm bells. What you choose to do with that is up to you. It's being said out of genuine concern for you. 4
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