123321 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 You are admitting to looking like the male equivalent of that woman? I'm 40ish. My figure is similar to Eva Longoria's. But my 40ish man is in great shape, too! Both women and men can be hot at 40 I didn't look, I don't care how she looks I have a beautiful GF and I'm not curious. But I freely admit I'm not a figure model.
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Cool! I would say I am a mix between Zooey Deschanel and Kylie Minogue. Just got a message at my OLD site from a mega hot 37 yo guy who looks like Pierce Brosnan 10 years ago. So yes, I am very comfy in my skin But I think now I understand what these guys here think about when someone mentions 30+ or 40+. lol. Amazing how some people can have skewed views of things. You are admitting to looking like the male equivalent of that woman? I'm 40ish. My figure is similar to Eva Longoria's. But my 40ish man is in great shape, too! Both women and men can be hot at 40
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I've wanted to see Thailand, didn't yet. I saw a few movies that claimed to be filmed there and some travel shows, looks nice. Moving on, I see it all the time but maybe my idea of being fat is different from yours, I'm pretty self critical. The phrase "attractive confident woman" is a red flag though. It's usually code for "worn out bitch", but maybe not always. Ha ha, nice words! Your GF is sure lucky. "I'm pretty self critical" is usually a code for Narcissistic Worn Out OCD Prick.
suladas Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 And honestly. Do you guys think older women are dying to be with younger guys? Guys talk as if they were gawd gift's to Humanity. Ah. Seriously. Keep in mind - younger guys usually: suck in bed; (as much as you think you're awesome) are immature; can't keep up with us emotionally, mentally or socially; can't keep up with us financially. can't keep a decent conversation that is satisfying to someone who've lived life longer and has more experiences; and so on. Sorry for generalizing obviously there are plenty of younger guys who are extremely interesting - but I am talking about people that feel the constant need to slam others here. And we usually: Don't care for a young pretty face or toned body as you might think, in the same way young guys here seem to think those are the only important attributes in life. Given the choice, I'd go for an older man who doesn't have a toned body and whatnot anytime. They are more charming, more sexy, more confident and usually have more interesting brains and more social skills. They usually don't have to play and transform themselves in something they are not to conquer/seduce us. No, and before someone strikes back, it's not about them having money or being successful - I am talking specifically about the level of how much they are interesting to us emotionally and mentally and even physically. I agree with some of those things having dating someone who had 12 years on me. The sex part I don't know, age has zero bearing on skill level and I got no complaints I did get the surprised "You can go again already?" A lot of the times though Generally not financially, but actually I made more money then her, I do very well for my age. The other things I do agree with to a point, it does make it a bit of a challenge for the younger partner but I really enjoyed it. The biggest thing i think is the younger person has to be much more ahead of the game then someone typical for their age for it to have any chance of working. There is also advantages to. Generally younger guys are not jaded and approach relationships a lot better and with a refreshing view. Not sure exactly how to put it but younger guys are generally more sweet and caring to their partners. Personally I would date someone up to about 35 again in a heartbeat, it was a great experience sadly most women don't feel the same way about dating younger. I just don't connect with younger ones.
123321 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Well the teenage hookers there will love you....errr your money. So maybe you should check it out. Bitch cause they won't sleep with you? I'm sure it's a red flag to you cause you know you'll be rejected. I'll keep it in mind but I'm taken for the foreseeable future. Bitch because the ones I've dated (quite a few, sorry to say) have usually been really bitchy after we "did it" for a while. Entitled, whiny, clingy, and so on. The hardest part about having sex with the self described "attractive confident" women I've been with has been getting them to stop calling, actually. The woman I'm with now has a little of that going on but at least she's smoking hot so I sort of expected it.
123321 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 And honestly. Do you guys think older women are dying to be with younger guys? Don't generally think about it. And we usually: Don't care for a young pretty face or toned body as you might think, in the same way young guys here seem to think those are the only important attributes in life. Given the choice, I'd go for an older man who doesn't have a toned body and whatnot anytime. They are more charming, more sexy, more confident and usually have more interesting brains and more social skills. This is what my GF says too but maybe she's just trying to get into my wallet, on a sort of long term plan.
123321 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Maybe they're biatchy because of you and how you treat them or your emotional baggage? The only times I'm biatchy is when I realize I am dating a loser or narcissistic dicks. lol. So you're saying that only older ladies would get all bitchy over my alleged baggage? Or what? Because I never get that reaction with the younger women.
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Yes it happens a lot actually, you're absolutely correct. It's funny how older guys say older women are biatchy but the truth is a few of them are moody, boring and absolutely not refreshing as you put it. Then they go to younger "hot"girls who are the only ones who can put up with their bs and make them feel like they are not the losers they are. Or they go to Thailand. lol. There is also advantages to. Generally younger guys are not jaded and approach relationships a lot better and with a refreshing view. Not sure exactly how to put it but younger guys are generally more sweet and caring to their partners.
fonewear Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Nothing wrong with a 40 year old woman as long as she doesn't have like four kids I would be interested.
yongyong Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Exactly. If I see a fat guy like that complaining about chicks like him at a bar, I would laugh at him. When guys are bashing about older women, they are talking about those kinds. So if you are not those kind, you can just ignore. If not, I feel bad for you and you should do something about it. I occasionally see well taken care of women in late 30s or even 40s. Of course, I don't mind banging those women but I can't date them due to age differences. what they should do is be confident about themselves and find a man around their age (40s or early 50s) who resembles their appearances. Guys equivalent to her? Are you saying there is no fat man with no sense of fashion? Tons of them and let me tell ya, they're not getting the young hotties.
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 what they should do is be confident about themselves and find a man around their age (40s or early 50s) who resembles their appearances. They should do whatever they want to. Because they can. Any guy 20s and 30s "resembles my appearance". If you're not interested in older women, don't date them. But you seem somehow extremely concerned about who older women date for some reason. Any traumas?
mesmerized Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I'll keep it in mind but I'm taken for the foreseeable future. Bitch because the ones I've dated (quite a few, sorry to say) have usually been really bitchy after we "did it" for a while. Entitled, whiny, clingy, and so on. The hardest part about having sex with the self described "attractive confident" women I've been with has been getting them to stop calling, actually. The woman I'm with now has a little of that going on but at least she's smoking hot so I sort of expected it. Lol by what I remember you were saying this current one might not last because she is getting in her head that she wants to be more serious with you. And no, if you are fat and old, I don't believe many young confident attractive women dated you, obviously you can Claim it on internet. And men don't call a clingy woman bitch but the ones who reject them.
yongyong Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I am just talking about common sense here. Don't try to argue with Common Sense. how much % of guys in 20s and 30s would date women in 40s seriously?? Although these guys are really interested, how much % of women would take them seriously without a doubt? ('is he going to use me just for sex? what if he finds a younger girl, can he support me?' Let's say you are in your 40s. you brought a hot 30's guy to your parents. will they be proud of you? or will they have a concern? (the answer will depend on whether you came from a normal good family) They should do whatever they want to. Because they can. Any guy 20s and 30s "resembles my appearance". If you're not interested in older women, don't date them. But you seem somehow extremely concerned about who older women date for some reason. Any traumas?
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 You are talking about your common sense. I have brough a guy home who was 10 years younger. We had an amazing relationship. My parents loved him. My family is very "normal", loving and caring. They believe people should do what they want to and they want their kids to be happy with whatever they chose, not what society or an anonymous guy in the internet (who btw I never agree with) thinks is right. btw the relationship ended for reasons unrelated to age and it was an exception as I prefer guys my age who are more mentally interesting to me than most younger guys. Not sure what culture you come from, you are obviously not American i.e. (I can tell by your way of writing), but to me you seem to come from a pretty conservative background or culture. People should do whatever they want. Everyone is free to do what they want. You seem to have a problem with that. Because you have rules on your head or what your family or society told you of how things should be. I am just talking about common sense here. Don't try to argue with Common Sense. 1
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I know when I say Truth like this, some older women will get mad. I am saying It Goes Both Ways. Think about in women's shoes. will they take a lot younger guy seriously? I don't want to be seen with obviously older women in public. Isn't it the same for women? they don't want to be seen like a cougar or sugar mama in public? In the end, it's hard to tell who's using whom for sex. It may not be right, but there are many hot older women, who have side dishes with hot young studs, women are smarter than men, you do know this, right? Men just 'think,' they know how women operate.
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 thanks gawd for people with "Common Sense"! If they are in love it wouldn't matter. I was with a 35 year old, and no women in their 20's didn't tempt me one bit. Looks is only part of it, attraction to someone is huge and doesn't fade with age. 1
yongyong Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Am I a dictator here? Why do you take my words so seriously?? I didn't say they must follow my guidelines or they will be unhappy It's like I tell guys 'go for the girls who are shorter than you' Of course, 5 feet guy can date 6 feet chick. it's possible and he can do whatever the f-ck he wants. But Generally, it's easier, he doesn't have to feel awkward, they won't get public eyes and it's just More Common. I am just talking about General Stats here. You know how silly it is to talk about your exceptional case?? You are talking about your common sense. I have brough a guy home who was 10 years younger. We had an amazing relationship. My parents loved him. My family is very "normal", loving and caring. They believe people should do what they want to and they want their kids to be happy with whatever they chose, not what society or an anonymous guy in the internet (who btw I never agree with) thinks is right. btw the relationship ended for reasons unrelated to age and it was an exception as I prefer guys my age who are more mentally interesting to me than most younger guys. Not sure what culture you come from, you are obviously not American i.e. (I can tell by your way of writing), but to me you seem to come from a pretty conservative background or culture. People should do whatever they want. Everyone is free to do what they want. You seem to have a problem with that. Because you have rules on your head or what your family or society told you of how things should be.
xxoo Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Looks is only part of it, attraction to someone is huge and doesn't fade with age. Some people will never experience or understand this kind of attraction. I feel sorry for them. 2
yongyong Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 hey designer girl, have you ever read a real book or even took stat 101 class?? Married Couples by Differences in Ages Between Husband and Wife: 1999 statistics - USA Census numbers This actual stat is more conservative than I thought. I hope you know how to read those. If you were married with that young stud, you would fall into .9 percent Like I said, Men generally marry Women who are several years younger than them. ahm... it's exactly the opposite? I do not take anything you say in any post I ever saw from you seriously. I just reply cause people who don't make sense and are not compassionate and real kind of annoy me. Congrats! You annoy me. Again - you are talking about your general stats and your PoV. Which most often I completely disagree with. Let's agree to disagree and be done with it? I don't think discussing things with you adds anything to my brain. Thanks.
mesmerized Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 ^^^^I think you have valid points, Yong. Personally, who needs younger men when you have older men like Daniel Craig, who, by the way, is in his 40's like me? Ooooh, I could really enjoy Daniel Craig, or men who take care of themselves like him.. When he took off his shirt in "Skyfall" my jaw dropped. It was stunning...;):bunny::bunny: And he is married to woman his own age. On ls, It seems like the less attractive a man is, the higher expectations he has. Kinda funny actually. Oh well. 2
xxoo Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 And he is married to woman his own age. On ls, It seems like the less attractive a man is, the higher expectations he has. Kinda funny actually. Oh well. It reeks of insecurity to me when a man needs a younger woman. A wise woman would not choose a man with that attitude, regardless of her age. 4
mesmerized Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 It reeks of insecurity to me when a man needs a younger woman. A wise woman would not choose a man with that attitude, regardless of her age. Absolutely. That's how I can easily say that women who date the 123 dude are not very smart and confident. And tbh it doesn't affect me what this typical type of males on ls want as I wouldn't date them anyway. 2
xxoo Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Rachel Weisz is another example of a highly desirable woman in her 40s!
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 ohmygawd she's gorgeous. I had no clue she was in her 40s. People could easily think she's late 20s or 30s.
suladas Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Absolutely. That's how I can easily say that women who date the 123 dude are not very smart and confident. And tbh it doesn't affect me what this typical type of males on ls want as I wouldn't date them anyway. As long you as you don't include me in the typical ls male it's all good
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