Stephanie Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 On topic posts please; Lets keep the mentioning of posters on Loveshack off of this thread and keep to the topic. Thanks
musemaj11 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Someone seems to have personal insecurity issues that she is obsessed with proving that old women are still desirable ... 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I think we need to keep in sight the one hard biological fact that makes men want women under 40, fertility. Men's fertility drops as they age, but not to zero. At some point between 40 and 50 most women's fertility drops to zero. A man in his 40's who perhaps dosen't have but really wants children needs a woman who can give him that, or he needs to adopt. Not everyone has the right psychology for adoption. Now that may sound biologically unfair, and it is. Men on the other hand need to build up the social status and resources to properly support mother and child. Unless he's a hunk, or wealthy when young, he may not have much luck. That is the way things have been at least since Australopithecus walked the Savannah's. 2
Lonely Ronin Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 this bugs me, ask the "cougar" herself for sex based on her maturity, ask kim catrall, i am "cougar"-material but i say no thanx to being expected to be screwed and dumped I was more referring to a woman who has reached a level of maturity where she is comfortable with her own sexuality.
darkmoon Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I was more referring to a woman who has reached a level of maturity where she is comfortable with her own sexuality. what do u mean by "comfortable"? n what does uncomfortable, then, feel like?
Vercetti Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Not my type nor is any escort. Seen lots of " older " women that are simply killer. Type that knock ya out across the room only get better as get closer and make your mind pop 40 don't matter. Once was in a waiting room with this lady on the phone talking about a guy she was dating but not sure about and blah blah blah. Guy was a mid-50s plumber and I was thinking she is underestimating herself to a crazy degree, mid 40s and could drop kick any of that ke$ha / gaga crap out a window.
Later82012 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I think I am representing most younger men here when I say I will have sex with a woman over 40 if she is fit and attractive and I know she will not expect a relationship or more out of me. I automatically assume she is an easier target to obtain sex from than from women in their 20s and 30s and generally their expectations are more if they are sleeping with me. 1
edgygirl Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I honestly couldn't care less about what younger men think about older women. I am not sure why younger men in this board keep slamming older women and want so hard to prove how they are unworthy of a normal healthy relationship, are just good to be used for sex, or so. We can read right through why you feel what you feel as we've been your age a few years ago, in case you forgot. It seems to come out of immaturity and ignorance as someone pointed out in another post. And it's offensive. Although it doesn't change anything in my life. Get a grip people. Go hunt 20 yo and let us be. We come here for constructive advice, not to hear juvenile comments of people who don't have a clue about life yet. 2
Brit Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Regardless of your age, if you are self confident, there is not a single poster who posts anti ageism remarks who will get your goat. There are insecure people in all age groups. There are fabulous people of all ages. You feel it; you are it. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 what do u mean by "comfortable"? n what does uncomfortable, then, feel like? Just to clear, I mean she is comfortable in a holistic sense. She knows what she wants from life, what she is looking for from a guy, she is comfortable with her body, knows whats she wants sexually, and isn't afraid to speak up/talk about any of it. I can think of a perfect example, In my early 20's I went in for a kiss on like the second date (maybe 3rd), and the girl gave me grief about it afterwards. She said something like "it's about time". I mean wtf..... I'm now in my early 30's and that crap doesn't happen anymore. If a woman want's a kiss or whatever now, she is going to make it happen and not wait.
edgygirl Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 And honestly. Do you guys think older women are dying to be with younger guys? Guys talk as if they were gawd gift's to Humanity. Ah. Seriously. Keep in mind - younger guys usually: suck in bed; (as much as you think you're awesome) are immature; can't keep up with us emotionally, mentally or socially; can't keep up with us financially. can't keep a decent conversation that is satisfying to someone who've lived life longer and has more experiences; and so on. Sorry for generalizing obviously there are plenty of younger guys who are extremely interesting - but I am talking about people that feel the constant need to slam others here. And we usually: Don't care for a young pretty face or toned body as you might think, in the same way young guys here seem to think those are the only important attributes in life. Given the choice, I'd go for an older man who doesn't have a toned body and whatnot anytime. They are more charming, more sexy, more confident and usually have more interesting brains and more social skills. They usually don't have to play and transform themselves in something they are not to conquer/seduce us. No, and before someone strikes back, it's not about them having money or being successful - I am talking specifically about the level of how much they are interesting to us emotionally and mentally and even physically. 4
Ophelia11 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I'm an attractive, fit 38 yo single mom of three and all I get are men younger than me (26-33 yo range) who are ready to take it all on. Hot, successful, Relationship minded men. Men who want to take me AND my three young kids out to dinner. It is frusttrating because I really just want an affair. 2
GorillaTheater Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I'm an attractive, fit 38 yo single mom of three and all I get are men younger than me (26-33 yo range) who are ready to take it all on. Hot, Relationship minded men. Men who want to take me AND my three young kids out to dinner. It is lot frustrating because I really just want an affair. This seems like a refreshing attitude, oddly enough. 1
edgygirl Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 lol. I agree as my experience is the same. In fact my experience is quite the opposite of what is usually stated here. Younger guys contact me all the time on OLD, (I lost count really and it's a bit annoying as I stated I want someone above 35 but it doesn't stop them, guys from 21 yo to 34 yo), and a few late 20s / early 30 guys I did meet have fallen hard for me as you're stating and did want a real relationship as opposed to what is usually stated here. I got smarter though with time and experience and stopped agreeing to meet guys who are not age appropriate for me a while ago. I'm an attractive, fit 38 yo single mom of three and all I get are men younger than me (26-33 yo range) who are ready to take it all on. Hot, successful, Relationship minded men. Men who want to take me AND my three young kids out to dinner. It is frusttrating because I really just want an affair.
darkmoon Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Just to clear, I mean she is comfortable in a holistic sense. She knows what she wants from life, what she is looking for from a guy, she is comfortable with her body, knows whats she wants sexually, and isn't afraid to speak up/talk about any of it. I can think of a perfect example, In my early 20's I went in for a kiss on like the second date (maybe 3rd), and the girl gave me grief about it afterwards. She said something like "it's about time". I mean wtf..... I'm now in my early 30's and that crap doesn't happen anymore. If a woman want's a kiss or whatever now, she is going to make it happen and not wait. i think you confuse confidence with sexual availabilty
Lonely Ronin Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 i think you confuse confidence with sexual availabilty huh? (10 characters)
darkmoon Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 huh? (10 characters) WOO I meant this i think you confuse comfort with sexual availabilty, they're not an automatic blend, but you must b attractive n lusty, all those women over thirty leaning in for kisses and requests for sex - edgy says the same - enjoy it while you may lol
123321 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Women that age are great for sex, but I wouldn't consider one for an LTR. But then her wh*ring wasn't about guys wanting her for an LTR was it?
todreaminblue Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 you know what really gets to me...is who outed her? What made her decide to go public was it necessityor someone decided to alert and flag her ...... one fo the reasons i come clean abotu history is i know there woudl always be a chance of that person finding out anyway...i would rather it was me that said it and that i was open and honest if they choose to walk away they walk away...haven't had that happen yet...but then my track history is not so good......and yes guys automatically assume .....a sure thing...... this actually makes me hesitant to date..its a big leap to tell someone.....and i honestly dotn have much of a chocie if i am serious abtou someone i have to tell.....its shaming...i feel humiliated and it isnt fun...deb
Sugarkane Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I thought she looked very fit. Even a lot fitter than a lot of 20 something's I know that's for sure. 1
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 I hope she gets someone with a soul who is a decent person. Things that some people obviously lack. Only because this woman specifically has or doesn't have sense of fashion, is overweight or not, it doesn't mean she doesn't deserve and won't get love and respect. Give me a break. 1
edgygirl Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 True. I just said that because I find it extremely annoying that people here would judge a nice woman like her only because she is not fit, classy, doesn't look "hot" or whatever. It's just mean and disrespectful. And... as if ALL women after 40 looked like that. There are many 20 yo who look like that as you guys just said. And it's totally besides the point of this thread too, as I believe the discussion here is about people who look good whatever their age might be. There are homely and heavy people matched up everywhere and seemingly happy and content with who they are. Some people do not care how they look. 1
Brit Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 True. I just said that because I find it extremely annoying that people here would judge a nice woman like her only because she is not fit, classy, doesn't look "hot" or whatever. It's just mean and disrespectful. And... as if ALL women after 40 looked like that. There are many 20 yo who look like that as you guys just said. And it's totally besides the point of this thread too, as I believe the discussion here is about people who look good whatever their age might be. It has gone waaaaay past it's point, you should feel confident at any age, and work with what you have been given. They did not coin the phrase jolly and fat for no reason. Many happy looking out of shape, homely people out there.
xxoo Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Actually I am. I guess maybe women evaluate men differently from how men evaluate women. Shocking. You are admitting to looking like the male equivalent of that woman? I'm 40ish. My figure is similar to Eva Longoria's. But my 40ish man is in great shape, too! Both women and men can be hot at 40 1
123321 Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 Meh you still have very limited options. I would never give you a second look nor almost every attractive confident women I know. I very rarely if ever see an old fat man with hot young women. Maybe in thailand... I've wanted to see Thailand, didn't yet. I saw a few movies that claimed to be filmed there and some travel shows, looks nice. Moving on, I see it all the time but maybe my idea of being fat is different from yours, I'm pretty self critical. The phrase "attractive confident woman" is a red flag though. It's usually code for "worn out bitch", but maybe not always.
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