the_sheep Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I met this girl online and within a few weeks of talking I realised that I really liked her, and she showed me a lot of signs that she liked me too so I finally told her how I felt. She told me that she felt the same so we decided to do a long distance relationship as we live 1 hour 45 mins away. Apart from the odd argument (nothing major and was always sorted quickly) we had a great relationship and it was obvious to us that we truly loved each other. We always knew that the distance was going to be very difficult and I knew at times she was finding it difficult. She would always be texting me things such as: why do you have to live so far away, and I wish I could have a cuddle from you right now. I would always support her and reassure her. But 3 weeks ago (after nearly 4 months of being together) she told me that she couldn't do this anymore and that she couldn't deal with the distance. She apologized and said she still cares about me and want to be friends. I respected her decision and told her I understood and that we can be friends etc, I didn't beg for her back because I understand it's not wise to. But I do want to try and work thing out and get back together. So when a girl says they can't handle the distance is that their final decision? Because I feel that she didn't want to do it but thought it was right because she has an extremely busy life at the moment (she doesn't even have time for Facebook like she used too) so since the breakup I have not contacted her at all except a birthday text to her, she replied instantly with this: "thank you lovely : )xxxxx So basically I don't know whether to remain in no contact or send her a text asking how she is. Do you think that reconciliation is at all possible?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Do you think that reconciliation is at all possible? Reconcillation means to fix the issues you have. So yes, its possible, you must close the physical distance between you. But before you go moving 2 hours away, make sure that's the real issue she has and not just an excuse she gave you to make the blow softer.
justwhoiam Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 we live 1 hour 45 mins away. ... But 3 weeks ago (after nearly 4 months of being together) she told me that she couldn't do this anymore and that she couldn't deal with the distance. She apologized and said she still cares about me and want to be friends. ... So when a girl says they can't handle the distance is that their final decision? How many times did you meet her during the 4 months? Once a week? I hope the answer is not "never". 1
Author the_sheep Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 Unfortunately we didn't meet up in that time because of our busy lifestyles. I understand why you think that not meeting is an issue. But I have seen it when couples take longer than that to finally meet?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I'm sorry, I gave you the benefit of the doubt and thought this was a real relationship not one that existed only electronically. My advice now changes. She's banging a real person and its over for you. Find a nice girl with flesh and blood and other girl parts that you can actually touch. 1
justwhoiam Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Unfortunately we didn't meet up in that time because of our busy lifestyles. I understand why you think that not meeting is an issue. But I have seen it when couples take longer than that to finally meet? You know what? I knew! And she did the right thing. When you lose her respect, it's farewell for good. Good luck. 1
pettie Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Lots of people commute for that long everyday... 2
Carenth Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 4 months together and you couldn't meet even once at that distance... seriously I wish my girlfriend was that close. :\ My brother lives further away than that and I go to see him a couple of times a month. My schedule is busy as well but for that distance you could easily do a weekend trip or something like that. 3
salparadise Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 If you never even met it wasn't a relationship. If you could conceivably drive there for dinner and drive back home the same day, it's not long-distance. If the whole thing was a figment of your imagination, please don't equate it with physical and emotional endurance contest that most of us in this forum are going through. 2
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