esgirl101 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Hi all, My ex broke up with me on 25 November (I know, a month before Christmas). Have been to Hell, and back, then back to Hell in the mean time. He dumped me because he felt he'd been out of love with me for two weeks, and his dad called me right away to say he was so sorry, and this is how he ends all of his relationships. I have cut all contact, and only seen him once by accident. He was standing at the bus stop at the end of my road, so I just waved, said hi, and went on my merry way. Thing is, he owes me money. Quite a bit of money, as it happens, and I need it back. It was an ongoing loan when we were together, but now I need it. I have not been able to afford all my Christmas shopping. I texted twice to ask for the money (was very polite and civil, but no kisses or flirtation, etc) but he never responded. His mum came round last week to exchange our things. She said he gets paid today (Friday) and that he'd told her (but not me...) that he'd sort out giving me the money back today. I have heard nothing from him, and I wonder, should I get in touch? I need the money, no two ways about it. I am worried about dragging this process out longer than is necessary and being unable to move on knowing at some point I have to see him again. So in some ways I am determined for it to be over with. In other ways, I wonder if this is a blessing, because I still feel very hurt that someone who called me his soulmate, and two weeks before dumping me asked me to consider moving in with him in a year's time, broke up with me out of the blue because his feelings cooled off. So please advise me: Do I get "closure" by seeing him, getting the money, and going into 2013 with the relationship being absolutely tied up? Or do I wait until I am completely over him before I can face him again? If I saw him, I would be friendly and civil, and would avoid being angry, or begging for him to take me back. But just not sure it's the right thing to do?
cavalier99 Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Can you trust him to deposit it into you banks account? My EX paid me back that way. But even the business like communication over that was painful.
Benp Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Or he can just paypal you as a gift, no charge!
Author esgirl101 Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 He doesn't have access to a computer or internet, that's the worry with that!
datdude Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 It seems like you're in good standing with his parents. I know it's probably not advisable to get them involved, but by constantly trying to get a hold of him it seems like it'll only make things worse for you. Maybe emphasize to them how much you really need it and maybe they'll put the pressure on him. Then, hopefully, you'll have that reassurance that you'll get your money and you won't have to deal directly with him. 1
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