clipper412 Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 i as the other woman want to tell his fiance of our "affair" it's been going on for half the length of their relationship and i think she has a right to know.... not for vengeful or selfish or jealous reasons i just feel she has a right to choose who she wants to marry..... i told him i wanted to tell her, he got very very mad at me for considering but we're still "friends" .... so i wrote an anonymous letter. haven't sent it yet. i want to but i am afraid of the reaction / consequences after.... what will he say to her to cover it up? how will he portray me as a person?? (make me look psycho?) will she believe anything?? i don't know her so i don't know if she is going to come after me... am i beign paranoid? what should i do? should i just send the letter..... or just move on with my life and try my hardest to get him out of it?
littleflowerpot Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 to get him out of what? his relationship with her? is that your motivation for telling? no, i don't think you should tell. what you should do is to leave this guy and find happiness with someone else that can give you ALL of him. don't hurt his gf just because you want to hurt him.
Author clipper412 Posted August 14, 2004 Author Posted August 14, 2004 huh? to get him out of what?? sorry i'm confused.... no as i said, it is NOT for revenge or anything like that.... i don't want to hurt him. that's why i'm having a hard time telling her or doing any of this..... my motivation is NOT to break them up what so ever... if that were my motivation i would have done this 2 years ago and not waited so long..... i just feel she has a right to know..... thank you for the reply.... i don't mean to sound rude! sorry if i do!
SoleMate Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 She may or may not have a "right to know" - but you do not have any obligation, or indeed perhaps any right, to tell her. To her, you are a stranger. The fact that you have been having it off with her fiance does not change this. And it is very busybody-ish to go around telling strangers things you think they "ought to know". Wondering...hasn't her "right to know" existed for two years? So why are you just considering this now?
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