BoyFriend Guilty of Cheating After Many Mo. of Dating....How Should I End It?

[Geminigyrl_2003]

Me and My boyfriend have always spent so much time together and had fun. That is until we both got jobs. Now we hardly see each other. When I call him he immediately tells me he's gonna call back and i dont hear from him unless i call. His grandmother would tell me that she has something to tell me but she doesn't wonna break my heart so she hasn't told me but i already know what it is. When i go over, He hides things from me like letters and when i try to use to phone he wont let me because he's afraid of me checkin the caller id. That makes it obvious he is. My best friend/cousin told me every girl he's going with including me and i believe her because they are his ex's. But he still comes over and he's tried kissing me and for the first time i refused and i think he knew something. But he just let it go and he now he's callin me all the time. I wonna let him go but we've been thru so much and i neva thought he'd cheat on me... i haven't. He's already protected me and stood up for me and i like that but i'm willing to let it all go if I dont deserve this and i hate to let him go but i refuse to let stay if he's gonna continue to cheat on me like i'm dumb.....i just dont know what the hell do i say when i tell him. Got N E advice?

[WhiteDragon]

Heres advice from a guy. Sounds like he is cheating on you. Thats not fair to you. There are plenty of guys out there that don't do that. Don't let him use you like this. Be straight up with him and leave him. Lose all contact with this guy and do not take him back. If hes still trying after 6 months....then only consider it.

Good luck.

[Geminigyrl_2003]

Thanks man.....I've talked to him but i couldn't prove he's cheated on me but today i'm just gonna end it like ya said.....Thanx on the real!!!!

[unclejo23]

Not proud of it... but I did it none the less...

 

It is unfair to do that to a person you care about... They say once a cheater always a cheater... I only believe that to be true per relationship... He may like what you two have... but if he keeps "testing the waters" elsewhere, then he's doubting your relationship and thats not fair to you!

 

I am older now(26) and I would never do that to a girl again! You'll still hurt a person when you call off a relationship... but it's a much better outcome to call it off before cheating, or even having thoughts of someone else!!! I learned the hard way!

 

Scrap him girlie... and most important... Practice NO CONTACT... you are probably his safety net and he will try to rekindle right after you leave him. AVOID temptation and go no contact for a while. Figure out what YOU WANT!

 

Good Luck

[YellowLioness]

Even if he isn't cheating, he's treating you like crap.

 

Why stay?

 

IMHO, cheating and lying are the same thing.

[Geminigyrl_2003]

He's movin back home with his mom and he doesn't want to. Today when he seen me he was tryna be all under me and i was avoiding him. Right before i walked past his house, at least 5 girls came out. I have cheated on other boys but i thought about getting serious with him but i guess things aint turn out like i wanted. When he moves i can forget all about him and move on. 3 boys have already approached me so.....wut i gotta trip for. Thanx to yall i know wut to do and i wasn't hard. Me thinkin he was older than me...15 and 17....thing'll go kool...but i got feed up with all the secrets and s**t.