noclobber Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Last Thursday I went to a Speed Dating event and met a nice lady there. She was actually the last in the line and so we were each others' last person from the event. We started talking and the conversation went very well. At that point the event got over and people started leaving the bar but we both continued to talk. I could easily see that she really enjoyed talking to me and liked me. At one point she gave me a hug and also got me a drink. We continued to talk and she then revealed that she had dated an Indian guy before but it didn't go well because his family opposed him from getting married to a white American woman. I am from India as well but I have lived in the USA for a long time now. I explained to her that my family is very liberal and they would accept who I bring home (regardless of whether it is Indian or American). I also told her about one of my sisters that met a man from a different country and religion, fell in love, and got married to him. But some how it appeared that she had some serious doubts and continued to keep asking me questions. The conversation did go well and after a while she leaned forward.. I thought she wanted to hug me again and stretched my arms but she nodded her head and kissed me on the lips. We continued to talk and also kissed some more. I asked for her number and she gladly gave it to me. I said I wanted to take her for dinner during the weekend but she said she is busy on both saturday and sunday. Then I said I will call her during the weekend and then make plans to meet for coffee during the week and she happily agreed. She kept telling that she loved talking to me… She also mentioned that she found me "emotionally intelligent". Then finally it was time to leave as the bar was about to close. I said I will walk her to her car and she gladly agreed. She held my hand on the way to the parking garage… she again asked me some questions and I answered and also said we can discuss more when we meet for coffee. Then I hugged and kissed her and said goodbye. Next day (Friday) I gave her a call and left a vm. I just mentioned that I was calling to say hi and will call again on Sunday. She didn't call me back. On Sunday I called her at 1pm and it again went to her vm. 2 hours later I got a text from her "hey there… sorry I missed your call. please feel free to try later". I got a bit confused by her text but after around an hour or so I called her and again it went to her vm. But this time I didn't leave any message. I probably shouldn't have done this but after around 25 mins I sent her a text "called but missed you again . well anyway… would you like to meet for coffee some time this week?". I still haven't heard back from her…. I am starting to get very worried now. Has she lost interest? if so why? did I do anything wrong? very confused
CptSaveAho Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Throw her number away... Called twice... left voicemail twice... she sent you a text message back... waste of time Next time, dont call on Friday and say you are going to call on Sunday, just wait until Sunday to call (sign of insecurity doing this... seeking approval)
Author noclobber Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Throw her number away... Called twice... left voicemail twice... she sent you a text message back... waste of time Next time, dont call on Friday and say you are going to call on Sunday, just wait until Sunday to call (sign of insecurity doing this... seeking approval) Thanks. I am confused though... why would she show so much interest only to ignore me later?
CptSaveAho Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Should have slept with her that first night... That's all she was looking for... your two agendas didnt match... If a girl kisses me first on the first night out... i'm taking her home
Author noclobber Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Should have slept with her that first night... That's all she was looking for... your two agendas didnt match haha.. wow. this never even crossed my mind My assumption was she just could never get over the whole 'He is an Indian guy and it will not work out' thing.
CptSaveAho Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 haha.. wow. this never even crossed my mind My assumption was she just could never get over the whole 'He is an Indian guy and it will not work out' thing. Stop assuming, dont listen to their "words", just watch actions.. she kissed you.. grab her hand put her in the car.. take her home (lead)
yongyong Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 You just got # from some chick and you wrote this long to describe 'oh I met this special girl and we hit it off blah blah but WTF?' I bet you don't really approach girls often. this kind of flakes just happen and will happen. Forget about that 'special time' you shared with her. Look at it this way, you basically wanted to get her pussy. Now if you go outside, how many girls do you see who's like her or even better looking with a same pussy? "hey there… sorry I missed your call. please feel free to try later" This is not confusing. she treated like you a loser going all over her and you didn't mind contacting her even after that??? When you think in a simple manner 'hm this other girl has a pussy too, why should I worry about that one single chick' , you will get less frustrated.
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