justin8 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Well, just when I recovered from my breakup, a friend of mine at college campus (who helped me during breakup) has hell loose upon him. So he got together with a girl at campus few months back - initially she was the one getting close to him. Then, when he asked her - she freaked out and said she's committed to a guy (in a Long distance). 2-3 weeks of uncertainty, the two get together in a relationship, the girl tells him that she's broken up with the long distance guy. All goes good, but since last month, she started spending less and less time with him - telling she's busy with her other friends. I suggested to my friend at the time that give her space and you too indulge yourself in other activities for a while, but he couldn't. Anyway, 2 days back, he finds out she's sending "I love you" messages to another guy in college - whom she was talking and going around campus since last couple of months. Also, after my friend found this out - he checked other messages, and gets to know that she was constantly talking to the long distance guy too. He had a big fight after discovering all this. Our end term exams are underway, so I just said ignore the girl's calls and study. He couldn't ignore them and went to her again. She kept crying all the time, sometimes threatened suicide - by scissors lying nearby. So he stayed with her. Now he tells that he'll hang on with her till things get better for her - she's out of the trauma of him and two other common friends (including me) discovering what she did. Now, my question is - although I'm staying out of it all, but I am suggesting my friend to break all contact with her - for his own sake. Because I have witnessed him crying, worried and insecure almost every third day last whole month because of the girl. What would you suggest on the issue?
Mike_d Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 but he couldn't. fatal mistake, she is a drama queen, and doesn't sound emotionally balanced. for some of us that "girl in peril" dynamic is too much to be able to avoid, fires all our protection triggers. for you - keep your distance, don't get tangled up, he needs to make his own mistakes. listen to his stuff at a reasonable level but don't become his emotional tampon. you've tried talking to him, he won't listen, short of kidnapping him there isn't much you can do here 1
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