Themoores Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Long story made short He is 27 and im 21. We live 4 hrs apart. I'm in state of MA...he is in NY Back in august this friend on Facebook started messaging me, showed so much interest in me. He ask me for my number, I gave it to him even though i was not interested. He pursued me for 3 months. He would stay in contact with me everyday, throughout the day....even when i ignore him. On December we finally met in person. It was Instant connection. We had 3 dates in a row...he treated me like his girlfriend, we did not act like strangers to each other On the 3rd date....things got a little heated, one thing let to another..and the next thing is that I ended up sleeping with him in his hotel room. (please don't judge me, this was a mistake. I only slept with 2 people my whole life and this guy is the 2nd one) After that, he went back to NY...2 days later he started acting distant with me. He still contact me, but its not the same He is less romantic in his textDoes not call anymore, only textHe keeps the conversations short, but still initiate contactwe went from 50 texts a day to 5 textswhen i gave up on him and ignore him, he tries to keep contact with me. I just don't get it, from the beginning he said he wanted me to be his girlfriend and now he is acting so weird. I feel like he wants me around, but can't make up his mind. So please give me your opinions...what is wrong with this guy?We both really liked each other, had a great time on all 3 dates and now he is acting distant.....please give me your opinions:(
truth_seeker Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 He totally played you. You are just another notch on his belt. 1
edgygirl Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 (edited) Typical modern day male behavior. I am double your age and the men I've been meeting do exactly the same thing. I am learning the hard way and a lot through this board. Basically my advice is do not sleep with anyone until you've gone on enough dates to determine with 100% certainty you are both looking for the same thing. (Most) Guys these days initiate sex with us not because they like us or have affection for us as we'd like to think when they're being kootshikootshi in the beginning in order to win us over. They'll try to initiate it with anyone who they deem attractive enough to get laid. Keep this in mind before going to bed with anyone before you can determine what they're looking for. Also, read this: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-do-men-blow-hot-and-cold/ Edited December 20, 2012 by edgygirl
FitChick Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Maybe if you two lived closer he'd be interested. It sounds like he doesn't want a long distance relationship.
SureYeahWhyNot Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Regardless of any of this, I would think having a fulfilling relationship with someone who's 4 hours away is a bit unrealistic.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Seems like he likes chasing especially since the endresult is sex.
yongyong Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Instead of blaming him, why don't you look at yourself like Men do? that's typical modern men's behavior 'I wasn't good in bed?' 'I look worse than my pics?' 'I scared him off after washing my makeup?' 'I played it long too much?' I wouldn't blame you if you fell in love with him and slept with him right away. But you ignored him in the beginning. I keep saying here. 'When a guy detects she is playing with him, his intention changes from treating her right to just cumming on her face' If you don't like the guy, just totally ignore him. If you have a bit of interest, at least respond to his messages.
truth_seeker Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 I keep saying here. 'When a guy detects she is playing with him, his intention changes from treating her right to just cumming on her face' Ladies, take note.
Author Themoores Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 Instead of blaming him, why don't you look at yourself like Men do? that's typical modern men's behavior 'I wasn't good in bed?' 'I look worse than my pics?' 'I scared him off after washing my makeup?' 'I played it long too much?' I wouldn't blame you if you fell in love with him and slept with him right away. But you ignored him in the beginning. I keep saying here. 'When a guy detects she is playing with him, his intention changes from treating her right to just cumming on her face' If you don't like the guy, just totally ignore him. If you have a bit of interest, at least respond to his messages. well i don't wear make up, and my pics according to others is the same as me. I never played him, i was just not into the idea of getting into a relationship at first. As for the sex, im sure he enjoyed it cause he said so himself....all I can see now is that I have made a terrible mistake to consider this guy in the first place.
Author Themoores Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 Typical modern day male behavior. I am double your age and the men I've been meeting do exactly the same thing. I am learning the hard way and a lot through this board. Basically my advice is do not sleep with anyone until you've gone on enough dates to determine with 100% certainty you are both looking for the same thing. (Most) Guys these days initiate sex with us not because they like us or have affection for us as we'd like to think when they're being kootshikootshi in the beginning in order to win us over. They'll try to initiate it with anyone who they deem attractive enough to get laid. Keep this in mind before going to bed with anyone before you can determine what they're looking for. Also, read this: Why do men blow hot and cold? | Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue thank you;)
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