sally105 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I have recently been seeing this guy. He's been a family friend for years and I've had a crush on him since I was 16!! We almost dated back then, but I met my ex husband. I then got married and had a baby and we list touch. He still remained friends with my stepdad, and I saw him here and there. About a year ago I left my ex. And about 5 months ago me and this guy reconnected. (He rescued me when my car broke down on the side if the toad ) we've been seeing eachother ever since. It's been hard tho because we both work a lot and we don't get to see eachother much. But we talked everyday, and we always made it a point to get together at least once a week. One really hard thing about this guy was, honestly, he is the most private person Ive ever met. Not sneaky, just shy I guess. He would get very uncomfortable if the conversation turned to feelings. Anyways, about two weeks ago we were texting while I was at work. I was also getting some pretty nasty messages from my ex at the same time, and I started feeling pretty sad. i asked this guy if I was bothering him, and that was the last time I heard from him. After about 5 days I git really mad and told him not to text me again. I felt horrible after and since apologized but he still don't respond to me if answer my calls. Idk what to do, its been almost 3 weeks and I miss him. Any suggestions?
newmoon Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 suggestion = move on. a guy who is interested won't be out of contact for 3+ weeks. he's not interested. it sounds from your post that you're not in perfect dating shape yet - carrying some past issues around from the ex and all, and perhaps this guy doesn't want anything to do with that. it seems a bit demanding to want an immediate response to your texts, and bothering men with your personal problems rarely encourages their romantic interest, imo. if you wanted him to like you then you should hav ebeen focused on positive stuff in your life and not your issues with your ex. talk to your gfs about your man troubles, and not your crush. you might also be a bit blinded here - making him out to be something he's not - since you've admired him for so long. 1
Author sally105 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Lol, stupid autocorrect I meant road. Also, he had no idea about the texts from my ex. I never spoke about my ex very much to him.
NoMoreJerks Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I agree with newmoon on this. you spooked him, and he is gone for good... your best bet is to just move on. Did I miss something? How did she spook him? Other than appearing a bit unsure/not very confident by asking if she was bothering him, I don't see how else she spooked him. Did she tell him her ex was contacting her, and that she was feeling sad? I didn't get that from the way she described it. She was just feeling bad, and I don't know if her post tells us whether or not she told him that she felt bad cos of her ex...
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