Njeanne Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Hello there, first time posting on this forum. I shall try and keep my story short...but...ya know... I have been playing mmo games for quite a while, and there I met up with someone. At first we became best friends, talked nonstop with each other. Soon he expressed feelings towards me, but I rejected it as I was with someone at the time. We grew closer and closer and my relationship was going bad, he was childish and I became embarassed. At that time I began developing feelings for my friend, in my case I always have been in love with him but I was confussed with my other relationship. When leaving game for a different one, he followed me. He didn't wanted to loose my friendship, I had ended it with the other at that time. I must've hinted unknowingly since he expressed second time but this time I went for it and followed my heart. We grew closer and closer, nonstop webcam, talking about meeting up, future and real life. (what happend in the days) Everything he did he would show me, he would laugh and smile all time at me and we would have little fight over who loves who more. Everything was superb, perfect...we knew everything about one another. Where we live, what we do, everytime he went out he'd msg me after a hour. We were attached to each other on skype...and we planned on meeting at end of december. He was coming here, I was more excited about it then him, although he was the one going "I want you with me here..." We both got different ways of expressing ourselves about that. Once December hits...Uni became tougher he grew distant. We would rarely webcam, he would talk shorter. then exam happend... he ignored me for four days, but I kept my distance and wished him well. He broke up with me...after his last exam day... 2weeks before he would take airplane to visit me. He said it was best to split ways. That we are too different in opinions/view (which is bs because we felt same about stuff all time) and that he realised he was more happier when I wasn't around and that I'll find the one for sure, that I can try change his feeling, that if he'll regret he promise to tell me and that he is 100% sure i'm not one he wants to spend time with. He also said he didn't meet anyone else and that he never cheated on me during his distant times. Six months, of love and being attached to me even when I was offline it stopped...? In november it was still find, though he had to study more and went out bit more. I know two people in my game that went through same thing, they cold feet and both regretted it but it was too late for them. Did he really stop loving me? Is he afraid of meeting up with me (being fully in love) and that it doesn't work out and he'd be hurt? I doubt he played with me, we were best friends for year before coming together. Some more information...at start of the month we were on webcam and he looked at me dreamy and smiling like full of love (he has two pc screens) I had to snap him out of it or something too. Another thing is we know a girl, who is a gamer friend. She is always "you two together? common tell" we kept it secret for while and he told her this month we were. He asked me if he could tell her, which I said yes too. If you have stopped loving someone...why do you act this way? Why not tell her "no we aren't" if you know you going to break up? I am slowly moving on, I am still crying everyday but I have had no contact since 6 days ago... Part of me is hoping he'd cold feet and would regret it but... I want people's advice... PS: He also quit the mmo game at start of month, but he only played two hours a week, and he didn't like game. It felt normal too me at that point since he never cared much only kept it to stay with me, although we were always on skype.
Mint Sauce Posted January 23, 2013 Posted January 23, 2013 Hi Njeanne, Found this unanswered opening post of yours after reading your heart-breaking posts in the "post here instead of contacting your ex" thread. No idea why he so suddenly turned away from you, but keep your chin up: the cliches are true: you're still young, you will love again. You'll always remember your first love, but have faith that you'll experience a relationship with an amazing guy which goes much deeper than you can imagine now. Part of what made your first love so amazing is what YOU invested into that bond. It was not all him, it was also a reflection of what you have to offer. If you offer that again in your next relationship, it will be just as beautiful, or even more when it develops over many years. But for now, mourn the loss, find comfort with your friends and family. And go out there, live life!
Author Njeanne Posted January 24, 2013 Author Posted January 24, 2013 Hi Njeanne, Found this unanswered opening post of yours after reading your heart-breaking posts in the "post here instead of contacting your ex" thread. No idea why he so suddenly turned away from you, but keep your chin up: the cliches are true: you're still young, you will love again. You'll always remember your first love, but have faith that you'll experience a relationship with an amazing guy which goes much deeper than you can imagine now. Part of what made your first love so amazing is what YOU invested into that bond. It was not all him, it was also a reflection of what you have to offer. If you offer that again in your next relationship, it will be just as beautiful, or even more when it develops over many years. But for now, mourn the loss, find comfort with your friends and family. And go out there, live life! Thanks for this, but over time I realised I'm the one that broke down the relationship. My inexperience made him fall out of love with me. He is not to blame, I am... and I have to live with this guilt. -.- And I do not want someone else, I never cared much for men or love, till I met him. At the moment, my heart is my own no one deserves it. ps: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/117844-post-here-instead-contacting-your-ex-508.html#post4550078
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