grkBoy Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I'm talking about the men and women who ask us if we think they're good looking or not. The ones who post how they're so ugly or even talk of how you can "fake" being a good looking person...believing you'll instantly be loaded with quality people to mate with. Do you all seriously think looks alone will get you success? Do you think if we all say you're good looking that you're entitled to a girlfriend or boyfriend? I've seen men who claimed they were good looking, but couldn't understand why they can't find "quality women". They never seem to "get it" that their personality, lifestyle, and lack of any goals in life are much of what drives women away. "Loser" isn't relegated on looks. 11
mesmerized Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I don't think they ask because they think good looks entitles them to a mate but rather they want to make sure if looks is what's holding them back. Looks are a big deal, specially women's looks...not something you can deny.
Ross MwcFan Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 What's 'being entitled to girlfriend?'.
GorillaTheater Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I'm always tempted to say one of two things. <=== Either ask them about "my" looks, or Tell the guys "hell yeah, man. If I was drunk and you were wearing a dress and lipstick, I'd do you." 7
IT Geek Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Do you all seriously think looks alone will get you success? They may not get you success, but it will get you noticed, garner initial interest, and let you get the proverbial foot in the door to get to know each other better. 1
Revolver Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 While its true Looks dont guarantee anything(nothing in life really is guaranteed) it does make things MUCH easier and gives you more options. I don't even think that's deniable, especially if your a girl. 2
sweetkiwi Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 If i posted pictures of half my LTRs next to my photo ya'll would be like "holy crap!!!! Im not that fat or hairy or awkward looking!! Why can't i get hot chick like sweetkiwi?" Well its because they were funny and intelligent and had mad skillz. And that's what made them sexy. Not a six pack or blonde hair or a well defined chin. They were poor and genuine and could make me smile so much my face hurt. Stop feeling bad for yourself and start getting happy. Its contagious. 3
Necromancer Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I'm around 20 years younger than you. Late teens, what else matters at that age more than looks?. I have seen guys I know 10000 times get gals dying over them because of their face. People on the internet claim often to be good looking while they are not. Quality women are very rare, so no wonder they are hard to find. 1
Necromancer Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 If i posted pictures of half my LTRs next to my photo ya'll would be like "holy crap!!!! Im not that fat or hairy or awkward looking!! Why can't i get hot chick like sweetkiwi?" Well its because they were funny and intelligent and had mad skillz. And that's what made them sexy. Not a six pack or blonde hair or a well defined chin. They were poor and genuine and could make me smile so much my face hurt. Stop feeling bad for yourself and start getting happy. Its contagious. Picture, If you really are a hot woman, i think you would do better than that.
GorillaTheater Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Picture, If you really are a hot woman, i think you would do better than that. Kiwi is wildly, rabidly hot. I don't even need a picture to know. How do you look in a dress? 2
Juventa2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 While its true Looks dont guarantee anything(nothing in life really is guaranteed) it does make things MUCH easier and gives you more options. I don't even think that's deniable, especially if your a girl. Have any of you ever heard the phrase "beauty is power?" I've seen it work!
sweetkiwi Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Uhhhh <============that's me. Hot implies sexual attraction. But as we know most men would **** something Waaaay grosser than the average woman. So that is not a compliment. I am so much more than the sum of my "parts". And so are you. And so is everyone!!!!! My god If you are so hung up on superficial beauty you WON'T get women approaching you. Because we can smell insecurity a mile away. And genuine PEOPLE are hard to find. Especially when you posses a narrow mind.
Necromancer Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Kiwi is wildly, rabidly hot. I don't even need a picture to know. How do you look in a dress? Like a Victoria secret model..... at worst. 1
iris219 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I'm around 20 years younger than you. Late teens, what else matters at that age more than looks? Popularity. When I was in high school, it was the popular people who were dating the most and being popular didn't mean being good looking. The guy and girl voted best looking (do they even allow those kinds of polls anymore? I hope not) were not good looking at all; they were merely popular. Hate to tell you, but looks matter more now than in high school. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I agree with grkboy even though I've posted just such a thread myself. No one should think that looks alone entitle them to a real relationship. The reason I asked this board if I was like gruesomely un-datably ugly was because I needed re assurance. What I got was what I thought, while my non-binary gender presentation isn't everyone's cup of tea, I'm not the hunchback of Noter Dame either. As for what looks mean to me in a relationship. I can be attracted on a physical level to men and women and people who are very androgynous. 2
Revolver Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Have any of you ever heard the phrase "beauty is power?" I've seen it work! Ehh. I don't even think its so much "power" as it is more opportunity and freedom. For example lets look at approaches. A guy who's considered really attractive can get away with saying things or being far more agressive in his approach then a guy who isn't, that's just the way it is. The things that other men get called a "creep" for, the guy who is hot can say the same thing and will get a number. Now I'm not saying someone has to be knockout to be successful with dating, it just makes it WAAAAAAAY easier.
GorillaTheater Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I think you're beautiful LonelyOne :* Now I feel like a jerk. I certainly didn't have LonelyOne in mind when I made my earlier comment; it was directed towards the run-of-the-mill insecure young guys who troop through here constantly looking for validation. I think you're a hell of a guy, LonelyOne, and I didn't mean any offence to you.
ThaWholigan Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Looks are part of a synthesis of things that attract a partner - its usually an immediate factor but sometimes it can be a growing influence. Its also interesting to note that different looks often attract different people. I don't often attract people that I expect at times .
CptObvious Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 If i posted pictures of half my LTRs next to my photo ya'll would be like "holy crap!!!! Im not that fat or hairy or awkward looking!! Why can't i get hot chick like sweetkiwi?" Well its because they were funny and intelligent and had mad skillz. And that's what made them sexy. Not a six pack or blonde hair or a well defined chin. They were poor and genuine and could make me smile so much my face hurt. Stop feeling bad for yourself and start getting happy. Its contagious. The other half are bodybuilders, right? At least they held half the championships.
somedude81 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I'm talking about the men and women who ask us if we think they're good looking or not. The ones who post how they're so ugly or even talk of how you can "fake" being a good looking person...believing you'll instantly be loaded with quality people to mate with. Do you all seriously think looks alone will get you success? Yup, 100% If nothing about me changed accept my physical appearance, to be better looking and taller, I would have no problem with women. Odds are I would have been married by now. Though since I can't magically become better looking, I'll need to figure out the other ways to make it work. Do you think if we all say you're good looking that you're entitled to a girlfriend or boyfriend? Nobody is entitled to a GF or BF. But the a relationship (or at least sleeping around) is almost requirement for having a happy life.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I think you're beautiful LonelyOne :* I know your beautiful Kiwi. 2
sweetkiwi Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 The other half are bodybuilders, right? At least they held half the championships. Nahhh. One was a former tae kwon do champion and tattoo artist. The other two were skinny kinda awkward artistic types.
KungFuJoe Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 somedude, Since you always harp on the importance of looks (and I'm not disagreeing with you)...what have YOU done to improve your looks? How's your wardrobe? How's your hair? Do you do your eyebrows (yes, sounds gay, but MOST men need this)? How's your body? Are you trim and fit? All those things I mentioned are things EVERY guy can do to make themselves more attractive PHYSICALLY. If you're just sitting behind your computer, while your hair is a mess, your clothes are 2 sizes too big for you and were bought by your mom, your eyebrows look like two large caterpillars made a home on your brow, and you have the physique of Tom Arnold...well...that's YOUR fault. Also want to add...teeth. TEETH ARE MAJOR. Are they white? Are they straight?
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