honeyboobonnie Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Why are men a**holes? Don't get me wrong...I know there are some decents ones out there..I just have yet to find one. I was dating this guy, just a little over a month (thankfully not that long). I thought he was great! Cute, honest, genuine, intelligent, etc. However...I was also wrong! I did meet him on yahoo personals. After going out a couple of times, I decided to get rid of my profile. He said he was only dating met, etc. We even talked on the phone every day (him calling me). I discovered that he did not get rid of his profile, that he has even checked it several times (looking for something better? but what's better than me?) Anywho...to my dissatisfaction, he updated it last night, new pictures etc. I am so pissed! Do you think he could have been a MAN and told me that he isn't interested anymore. Nothing has changed, but his new profile...lol. I have changed though and am finished with him. What do you all think?
Kat Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Did you discuss it or did you just assume that because you got rid of your profile he would get rid of his? Men aren't mind readers. They are actually very simple creatures. Hints don't work
Author honeyboobonnie Posted August 14, 2004 Author Posted August 14, 2004 We did discuss it. He said he didn't need it anymore...just hasn't removed it.
Author honeyboobonnie Posted August 14, 2004 Author Posted August 14, 2004 Yes...I did ask him to remove it and he just hasn't. I wouldn't have a problem if we were seeing other people, but he told me he was just seeing me and doesn't date more than one girl at a time. I just wish if he was finished with me, he would have said something before chaning/editing his profile, etc. Like I said..we talk on the phone every day so I really didn't see this sh*t coming. I just think he should have been a man and stepped up and told me either, he doesn't want to see me anymore or he wants to see me and date other people. That way..I could date others too if need be.
Samson Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Men aren't mind readers. They are actually very simple creatures. Hints don't work WOW, KAT!!!!!!!! Either you are a male, or you are an extraordinarily wise female.
padparadscha Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 It is just my personal opinion, but on line dating is nice to meet friends, travel partners, etc. But dating???? Most people you meet are posting an ad for free. They have no money invested in this and tend to play around too much. Next time you have to discuss it right away. I would have simply reposted my profile and let him sweat the way you were sweating!
Author honeyboobonnie Posted August 14, 2004 Author Posted August 14, 2004 My profile is reposted...no doubt about that *smile* I'm cool with everything...it just pissed me off that he couldn't be upfront and freakin' talk to me.
faux Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Originally posted by honeyboobonnie Why are men a**holes? Don't get me wrong...I know there are some decents ones out there..I just have yet to find one. One might also ask, why are women psychotic bitches? This is not a gender specific issue. This is one of those "not being able to find the right people to become involved with" issues. Maybe. I was dating this guy, just a little over a month (thankfully not that long). I thought he was great! Cute, honest, genuine, intelligent, etc. However...I was also wrong! I did meet him on yahoo personals. After going out a couple of times, I decided to get rid of my profile. He said he was only dating met, etc. Ah. So you met via the internet, and you two were casually dating. So far so good. We even talked on the phone every day (him calling me). I discovered that he did not get rid of his profile, that he has even checked it several times (looking for something better? but what's better than me?) Anywho...to my dissatisfaction, he updated it last night, new pictures etc. I am so pissed! Do you think he could have been a MAN and told me that he isn't interested anymore. Nothing has changed, but his new profile...lol. I have changed though and am finished with him. What do you all think? You two were dating. This man told you that he considered the relationship to be a casual dating thing, where you could see other people I'd take it; "Dating" usually means being able to date other people, and doesn't involve exclusivity. It would have been better, I think, had you made sure you were both on the same page from the start. If he wasn't in an exclusive relationship with you, why are you upset that he kept his profile and updated it? I don't see any reason to think that he wasn't interested any longer. I think he was dating around, and I think that he told you that. I would suppose that he thought you understood. Edit: Reading over things again, I notice something which conflicts. In your initial post, you mention he claims to have been only dating you. Then, later, you post claiming that you two were exclusive and he admitted this to you. I guess internet dating isn't all so grand.
treddo Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 I can tell you that men don't like to be bossed around. You need to discuss things in an adult manner and reach conclusions together. Your conclusions aren't always going to work for your partner so don't try and force them down his throat. Women are far more sensitive and intuitive than virtually all men. Men are usually more physical and curious about things around them. What you may find deeply disturbing about what he's doing or not doing may never have even crossed his mind. If you don't believe it then you'll never find a guy you'll be happy with.
honey2005 Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Lots of guys are a**holes, but then again, so are alot of women. You just have to be careful with the people you get yourself involved with. I would have been angry if someone had told me they were only dating me and they had updated their profile. I would get the same idea as you, that they were looking for something better. If you feel like he betrayed you and you don't want the relationship to continue, end things with him. If you want to figure out why he did it, talk to him about it and see what is going on. I guess internet dating isn't all so grand. I don't think anything is wrong with Internet dating, you just have to be careful with who you get involved with, just like with traditional dating.
Kat Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 Originally posted by Samson WOW, KAT!!!!!!!! Either you are a male, or you are an extraordinarily wise female. Three years with a male makes you realise things
beautiful Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 You are not being realistic here at all. One month? C'mon! You can't be for real with this one. I think that you have self esteem issues big time. Don't rely so much on a guy to rule your world. This looks to me like you were ready to marry him after one month and he was not:-). A real woman................................doesen't speak much, she let's her actions speak and has her own life and is happy in it....why? because she is a healthy individual that knows she is the only one that can rock her world..........................having a man is only the icing on her already cake:-) In regards to you asking WHY ARE MEN A**HOLES? Men are not a**holes it is what YOU allow to happen and how YOU handle yourself. Don't blame your issues on someone else and than make a statement like that. Men are wonderful and even the so called bad boys like women that do not allow them to treat them like doormatts. So this is all about YOU!
HokeyReligions Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 Hokey would like to know why you were looking at other's personal ads if you were dating him and taking your own ad down?
Aonz Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 I wonder what response a guy would get if he posted that 'all women are a**holes'?
com-municate Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 is this a dating site too? how ab't geographics? is there a way to sift through loc's? pls lemmyno. seeking is sucking.
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