8mia8 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 It's been a long time since the BU and it was only lasted a few months, but I was someone's rebound. I still feel so used, like an object being tossed around, and then thrown away like garbage. Being hurt I can deal with and I know I'll keep hurting for a while (I always hurt for a long time) but feeling used? How does one get over this feeling?
Samilia Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 It's been a long time since the BU and it was only lasted a few months, but I was someone's rebound. I still feel so used, like an object being tossed around, and then thrown away like garbage. Being hurt I can deal with and I know I'll keep hurting for a while (I always hurt for a long time) but feeling used? How does one get over this feeling? Don't let it happen in your everyday life, don't let it happen again in your love life. If you hear " I just broke up.." , run. Some people do go from a relationship to another but let's face it it's not the majority doing so. Also, the ex might have not consciously taken the decision to wipe off the old relationship on you, people don't always realize they need time in between relationships.
justin8 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Happened with me - the girl said she is still missing her bf of an year back. I was surprised that even after a year she's missing the guy. Anyway, she showed interest in me, I liked her at the time - and we got together. After getting into a relationship with her, I asked her that did she really didn't get into any relationship after breakup with the guy she still misses. She said no. And 2 months into the relation, I find out - she broke up with a guy just before moving to this new place (college campus). She used him as a rebound. And guess what, I was the second rebound. She dumped the 1st rebound for me. And after 3-4 months with me, said doesn't like me too. And I was still in love with her (poor me). Stayed on to win her heart even after she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. Used is just a word - what I sacrificed for her - my grades flunked big time, my social circle shrunk to zilch, my friends were fed up of asking me to stay away from her. You just need to stop being too hard on yourself - you were in love with the wrong person, and you did some things that you feel weren't right in retrospect. It's all right. "Love is blind" is not just a phrase - people indeed lose sight of things. So just forget about whatever happened - forgive yourself first. Although I know me asking you to do so won't make you change perspective just now - but hope sharing my experience shows that things do work out fine eventually.
MyAngel Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Whatever they did, it wasn't your fault. You are not to blame for being someone else's rebound. It is awful and would hurt so much feeling used. Try not to let this experience taint your everyday life - just because one person did this doesn't mean the next will. It might be hard to trust for a while though. I hope you can come through this quickly and put this behind you.
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