Optimistin Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Why do people break up? I mean the person you are in a relation ship with is also your friend- even more then a best friend- I would guess. Who breaks up with a friend? You must have stopped believing in your friend. But nobody actually breaks up wit a best friend. People argue over things. What is right what is wrong; was something a good decision or not. Everybody has different opinions and interests but is that a reason to break up with a friend? In fact a lot of times we do appreciate the differences. But maybe sometimes if they are difficulties some people are too proud to admit that they did a mistake or were wrong. Sometimes they get mad at the other person and just say - F*** it But why did those 2 people decide in the first place to become close? There must have been something?! People change but isn't there a little appreciation you must have for your friend/ partner/ boyfriend/ girlfriend???!!! Also statistically young people are breaking up more often then older ones. Is it because they think they can have or deserve better? Maybe but maybe if you are older you just care less about drama. Or you know better what you want. Or they just getting too lazy to fight over things. Life is so short why do people break up with their loves over something maybe for another person not important? is it more self-confidence or laziness? I think people getting more lazy getting tired/bored. They think another person could complete them BUT in fact you should complete yourself and your "Love" should just support that. So if you break up don't you break up with yourself as well? Running awau from some problems? Nobody is perfect. Everybody can find a new "Love" but there is never a warranty that it works out. As soon as you get lazy for fighting what you already have, it's gonna be a break up. Instead of giving up they should believe more in themselves and start to believe more in their friends/partners/boyfriend/girlfriend and it all gonna work out 1
Sugarkane Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 (edited) I agree with the exception of eg someone abusive, the in thing to do seems to be a player. When I went on a well known dating site most guys I found lied their butt off that they wanted a relationship, when all they wanted was sex. It seems people take for granted what they had aswell. I've found in real life some people threw away a great relationship, just for someone really toxic and who treated them like garbage. Edited December 20, 2012 by Sugarkane
movingon12 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Is your best friend *now* the same best friend you had when you were 5? I'm guessing not. *That's* why people break up. People change. They want different things in life. They develop different interests. They are offered different opportunities. Their priorities change. What is important for one person isn't important to another. It's nothing to do with laziness, or self confidence or anything else. For a relationship to be successful you need to be going in the same direction, at the same speed, and heading for the same location. Younger people are often still working out where they want to go to. *That's* why they break up more often. Having 'appreciation' for a person you once loved is in no way a good enough reason to stay with, marry and start a family with someone you don't love anymore. Be honest with yourself, be honest with them. They deserve someone who loves them completely. Let them go and find that person.
denxnis Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Only reason I break-up with someone is because I do not see them being fit to be my wife. If you asked me, "why do people get divorced" I would say because they rushed into marriage and would rather take the easy way out than resolve things; with a few couples being the exception.
Samilia Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 People break up because they either fall out of love or because love doesn't conquer all.
shadow15 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 People break up because they either fall out of love or because love doesn't conquer all. but how does one fall out of love? Is it their view they want out of life changes, maybe they find someone new, or do they just get bored?
movingon12 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 but how does one fall out of love? Is it their view they want out of life changes, maybe they find someone new, or do they just get bored? All of the above.
Pinky777 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 (edited) Something that's significant about lovers, is that they are friends, or at least should be. However unlike platonic friends people in a relationship are expected to be exclusive, whereas one can have multiple friends and that's seen as a positive rather than a negative. If anyone's BF or GF had a whole group of other lovers that'd definitely be a problem. Yet we trust our friends to love us and have our best interests despite them having other friends, we don't do this with lovers. No matter how much a person may actually love and care for us and truly mean it, it means little to us if they're also running around with someone else. There's absolutely that extra something, that which makes the world go round that separates lovers from other friends. Mostly it's sex and that trust to make things exclusive. Are human beings really meant to be manogamous? We can love each other so much and then someone else catches our eye, we get bored, fall out of love, move on, go through heartbreaks and affairs and what have you. People always say how hard it is to stay married and congratulate each other when they're together for a long time and still in love. Isn't the way it's supposed to be? I just think it's so sad when a couple breaks up and just stops having anything to do with each other. Two people who could have been as close as anything, loved each more deeply than anyone else and then one cheats, or things just unravel. Before you know it these two lovers may eventually become strangers to each other. We can't stay friends with our exes and it's hard to get together. Egos get involved and of course sex again. Pepole do grow apart and change, friends as well as lovers do this. If we really care about someone we'd want the best for them right? Even when they're not with us? Not exactly, or at least it usually doesn't work out that way. When two people break up, the friendship as well as the relationship is over. So sad. I'm not sure i have a point here just an interesting observation at 4am and 36 hours now of no sleep. Edited December 20, 2012 by Pinky777 1
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