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kandygurl22 Established Member

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My BF & I have been together 10 months. He's 10 years older than me..

 

We were talking last night, and I mentioned NYE, and he's said he would either be staying at home with his kids (which I totally understand and obviously don't have a problem with) .....or going with the guys like he does most years to just chill out and have an early night. He assumed I was going to go out partying with my friends, but I'm a little upset that he didn't even consider spending it with me - He doesn't see the big deal and said it was just another night and he wasn't up to doing much, and didn't get why I was saying that BF & GF usually spend it together cause he never did that in previous relationships. But this is our first NYE since we met.

 

I'm upset - does anyone else feel like it's a special night and you'd want to bring the new year in with the person you love?

 

He's always so busy at work too and been sick lately so we don't get to spend much time together, maybe once a week, and we don't talk too much every day so I figured that with a mini break off work over the holidays he would want to spend some time with me. I know he loves me, when we are together he always shows it, but does this mean I am just not really a priority to him, or do I take it as he just wants some time out with his friends? I haven't spoken to him yet today and don't want to make a big deal about it until I've gotten some opinions!

 

I'm happy to spend it with my friends but I'm more offended that the thought didn't even cross his mind to be with me at all and doesn't understand why I was a bit taken aback by it.

 

Would this be a deal-breaker to you? As much as I care for him, I've already started pulling away from this relationship a bit due to the lack of time he has for me.

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Honestly, I am not a big NYE / Christmas person, but I do view these days as occasions to spend time with family and loved ones. i would want to spend those days with my bf if possible, and would be upset if he didn't want to, unless he had something pressing to do... I wouldn't say it's a deal-breaker though.

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