cirus Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 I was with my girlfriend for 6 and a half years and i LOVE and still do LOVE her. We decided to have a break a week ago but ended breaking up. I am upset but she feels she needs to be alone to grow and be on her own. She has never not had a boyfriend but she said she also had feelings for another guy, but this is not the reason we were breaking up. She said she still loves me and believes we will end up together in the future. I am not wanting to wait around like a twat 4 her and not going out looking for a someone. I want to leave her to be alone and understand what she has lost in the relationship, but dont want her to make mistakes with this other guy if she does decide to rebound and do something silly. She said she wont be able to love anyone like me and will always compare other boys to me. I am hoping she will see how great we were together and see what she has lost before it is to late. Advice please there is more to it then this but that the short version!
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Move on, she is. First it was just a break, then it was a break up but she said she thinks you 2 will ultimately be together. Next week she'll be banging a new dude. A week after that she'll tell you how much she likes you more than the new dude. A week after that you're back together. A week after that you've broken up again. A week after that she finds a new new dude. She just can't rip the band aid off--she's slowly peeling it back in the hopes of not hurting you. Just walk away or waste the next months of your life in this terrible limbo.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 You ever look back over your own posts and find out the answer is clearly staring at you right in the face? She is lying if she's telling you there isn't anybody else. The guy she is crushing on is it! And that is why she's agreeing to a break up, she's giving herself space to date the guy and if that doesn't work out, she has you as a back up. Don't be the cuckolded guy who the ex has around her finger. Move on. Because the more you pine for you the more it's going to hurt for you. You don't a girl who hasn't made you her priority.
newmoon Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 it sounds like she's trying to be kind to you during the break-up, by telling you she will always love you/have feelings for you, etc. women will often say that stuff just to let someone down a little easier. she obviously wants to move on, so let her, and don't wait. sadly, when people break up one person (in this case, you) usuallly still wants the relationship to work, but it needs to be both people who want that. six years is a very long time for a woman to be a with a guy who isn't offering up marriage/children and a secure future - what were you bringing to the relationship and had you even gone in that direction? perhaps this new guy is willing to offer her more, and it doesn't mean he'll be a rebound; he could be her match, so let her go and figure that out. it sounds over...
truth_seeker Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Let her go and explore. She might have another guy right now or she is interested in other men. She knows what she has with you, so she could be trying out another guy to see if they will work and, if not, she will come back to you. She might just want a break and be free. 6 years for a non married couple is a long time. I have a friend who had a gf for 10 years. She wanted a split and he was cool with it. They dated other people and then a year later she came back to him and they got married. So, in some cases, a break is needed in order to grow. If I were you, I would consider her gone, date someone else, and if she comes back down the road and you're single, then you know it's meant to be and marry her.
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