ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Quick rundown Me and this girl have talked etc she replies back to any and all my texts I know she is interested. I asked her out to coffee today and she said she is busy so I didn't bother talking with her all day till about 5 min ago when I said how was your day she replies back saying "Where did you want to grab dinner" I had a feeling the text was for me and i Replied 10 min later with " what food are you in the mood for?" She replies "oh this is so awkward but that was for someone else lol" wtf is this just some kind of mind game im not understanding... or was it an accident because i would assume she would have said wrong person instantly after the text and also its funny she was obviously talking with someone else about going out to dinner even though she tells me she is busy all day mhmmmm...
sweetkiwi Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Hmmm is right. It could be the truth. It could be a lie. The person she was testing could be a dude or a girl. But just because she replies back doesn't indicate interest. You should ask her on a REAL date. Wth is all this coffee date crap? Its not just you. Everyone my age seems to do it. Its strange.
amaysngrace Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 You aren't in an exclusive relationship with her. Chill. 1
MrCastle Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Just drop her. A lot of these problems people seem to have on here is wasting time on people that aren't giving them what they want, when they want it. Life is too short for that. Talk to other girls. You'd be surprised how little you care about these things when you have other options.
MrCastle Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Wth is all this coffee date crap? Its not just you. Everyone my age seems to do it. Its strange. Right? How lame is that! I've had coffee maybe twice in my entire life, but the disgusting taste of coffee aside, just sitting there in a coffee shop talking? That's so over done. Over on the PUA forums. 9 out of 10 guys take the girl out to a bar. Not very imaginative. I can't complain though. Everyone around me doing the same things and going on the same kind of dates just separates me from the pack and makes me look better. 1
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Right? How lame is that! I've had coffee maybe twice in my entire life, but the disgusting taste of coffee aside, just sitting there in a coffee shop talking? That's so over done. Over on the PUA forums. 9 out of 10 guys take the girl out to a bar. Not very imaginative. I can't complain though. Everyone around me doing the same things and going on the same kind of dates just separates me from the pack and makes me look better. I take girls to dinner everytime. Reason why me and maybe others you have experienced this with that ask you out to coffee is because they want to get a feel for the situation and if you are worthy then the guy will ask you to dinner. Thats how i've been doing it idk.
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 But here is the real question what do I respond back to her with? (i still have not responded)
somedude81 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Right? How lame is that! I've had coffee maybe twice in my entire life, but the disgusting taste of coffee aside, just sitting there in a coffee shop talking? That's so over done. Over on the PUA forums. 9 out of 10 guys take the girl out to a bar. Not very imaginative. I can't complain though. Everyone around me doing the same things and going on the same kind of dates just separates me from the pack and makes me look better. And where do you take girls do?
SmileFace Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 But here is the real question what do I respond back to her with? (i still have not responded) You don't. Point blank 2
somedude81 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 You don't. Point blank Seconded. Forget it happened. If you want to keep trying with her you can contact her in a couple of days. If she turns you down, then forget her. 2
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Seconded. Forget it happened. If you want to keep trying with her you can contact her in a couple of days. If she turns you down, then forget her. K sounds good. And next time I text her in a couple days i was thinking should i just outright ask her to dinner?
MrCastle Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 And where do you take girls do? It depends on the girl. I (believe it or not) listen to what she says when we talk. Get a feel for her likes and dislikes, and base the date off that. When we get more familiar I start doing things like going for a walk on the beach at night and stargazing. I certainly don't do coffee shop/movie theater/bar. I've wrote about this before. Being different gives me an edge and one of the reasons for my success. I'm not doing what other guys are doing. I have my whole life to go on crappy, typical dates. Right now I'm young and very much a dreamer/romantic--I'm gonna do things guys my age aren't doing. 1
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 It depends on the girl. I (believe it or not) listen to what she says when we talk. Get a feel for her likes and dislikes, and base the date off that. When we get more familiar I start doing things like going for a walk on the beach at night and stargazing. I certainly don't do coffee shop/movie theater/bar. I've wrote about this before. Being different gives me an edge and one of the reasons for my success. I'm not doing what other guys are doing. I have my whole life to go on crappy, typical dates. Right now I'm young and very much a dreamer/romantic--I'm gonna do things guys my age aren't doing. i do similar stuff but its winter what do you suggest? cold and snowwy out
somedude81 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 K sounds good. And next time I text her in a couple days i was thinking should i just outright ask her to dinner? Sounds good. It depends on the girl. I (believe it or not) listen to what she says when we talk. Get a feel for her likes and dislikes, and base the date off that. When we get more familiar I start doing things like going for a walk on the beach at night and stargazing. I certainly don't do coffee shop/movie theater/bar. I've wrote about this before. Being different gives me an edge and one of the reasons for my success. I'm not doing what other guys are doing. I have my whole life to go on crappy, typical dates. Right now I'm young and very much a dreamer/romantic--I'm gonna do things guys my age aren't doing. That's pretty much what I like to do. I hate the thought of taking them to coffee shops, bars or dinners. Sounds boring.
SmileFace Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 K sounds good. And next time I text her in a couple days i was thinking should i just outright ask her to dinner? I really don't think you should ask her out again? When she turned the first time - did she offer a next date?
MrCastle Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 i do similar stuff but its winter what do you suggest? cold and snowwy out Indoor activities can be fun too. I really like going to museums. It's easy for me since I live in New York, there are a lot of really great ones. When getting to know someone, I think it's better personally to have something to talk about to break up the awkward silence that will inevitably come. So as you're strolling through the museum, you chit chat about your personal lives, and when awkward silence rears it's ugly head, you can say "hey check this display out!" or something else to break up the awkwardness. Sitting face to face with someone you barely know as a first date is just brutal. The only thing worse I can think of is dinner, which is longer, and then you have to eat in front of them (I hate eating in front of people).
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 I really don't think you should ask her out again? When she turned the first time - did she offer a next date? She said i would really like to but i work all day from 8-5...
somedude81 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 She said i would really like to but i work all day from 8-5... Did you ask her when her day off was? If she gave some sort of BS answer, that would be your clue to move on.
SmileFace Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 She said i would really like to but i work all day from 8-5... She didn't offer an alternative which will be a automatic next for me. However - why didn't you ask when she was avail?
Author ssd360 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 She didn't offer an alternative which will be a automatic next for me. However - why didn't you ask when she was avail? I didn't want to seem too needy by asking her when she was available. Think i will shoot her a text and ask her when she will be available etc. how do you guys think i should say it? Just might as well clear it up get it out of the way and ask her so i know for sure if she wants to get together or not..
truth_seeker Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 i do similar stuff but its winter what do you suggest? cold and snowwy out Get bundled up and go ice skating. 1
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