Need Support- Saw STBXW today

[edwardo47]

Feeling pretty low right now. I took your advice on the children and I am seeing them whenever possible. W moved out on Saturday. Left a mess. I packed away the stuff she forgot and she came over to pick them up. Asked her to be an adult and admit the affair with OM. Said there was nothing going on but she "likes him". How can someone who was my best friend over 8 of the last 9 years lie to me? I am feeling rejected now. I know I don't want her back yet I did everything possible to be the "great provider" to the family. Sick of being sick and tired!

[TaraMaiden]

Then care less about her, and more about you and the relationship you need to maintain with your kids.

[Mr. Lucky]

Sick of being sick and tired!

Edwardo, it's a process, not unlike multiple root canals or chemotherapy. And while hope and optimism are assets, you still have to get through it one day at a time. Try and stay busy and focused on the important stuff - your kids and your new path in life. During my divorce, I took up tennis and played every night I didn't have my kids. Others have mentioned running, bike riding or hitting the gym - all alternatives to sitting in an empty house and staring at the walls. If you have close friends or family, now is the time to lean on them. If you have a job you enjoy, put extra effort into it. Find constructive, high energy outlets and you'll be too tired to be sick and tired.

 

I'm glad you're seeing your kids and putting them first. Keep posting...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Caldespair]

Mr lucky, I've had chemo in the past, but this relationship blow up is worse. 5 years ago I dodged the cancer bullet, now I'm in remission. There were tough times in the hospital for 6 weeks, BUT I had the love of my stbxw to sustain me.

My brother said similar, if u made it through a brush w death, then this sep/div should be easier. I just agreed with his words of encouragement, but this is tougher overall.

Also great advice above about how to keep positive .