awesomesauce Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Alrighty well guess who just ran into their ex again in a weeks time, this guy. The first time i seen her she was in her car and it didnt bother me, but this time i almost fell to the ground. I was just walking by in a store and i see her checking out from the corner of my eye, i literally almost dropped, i felt like my heart fell into my stomach and then i thought my legs was going go out. And to think i thought i was doing better, but seeing her in person out of the blue, and looked into her eyes, it just made me die a little on the inside. That same person that i used to goof around with, play playfully with and know ever so well is not there anymore. Why is it so hard to let go, when you know that person just doesnt care if you exist anymore? I guess that saying is true, we are just strangers with memories.
Pyro Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 The pain will stop when you truly accept that things are over between you two and that it was for the best. Easier said than done though. Its not going to go away straight away.
LostOne1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Well with my last ex the pain took about 2 yrs almost and partly meeting my current ex to let it all go. Someone told me it takes half of the entire relationship to get over someone. To be honest you get over it when you find happiness in your life again. And that make take time.. But I'm surprised she said nothing to you? Like a simple Hi or something. Personally I don't know what I would do if I saw my ex. I'd most likely like to show I am happy. And that I am enjoying life without her. I know deep down she thinks she was the best thing that happened to me. And that by me losing her I LOSE OUT more than her. She always bugged me into saying I'd never find anyone better than her etc.. I still believe she thinks she is super good and all. I can't imagine how it must have felt. Maybe that's why my ex didn't want to see me. She probably can't handle seeing me in person. Sadly in Jan when I start my new school at her's sadly.. I hope we don't run into each other. I can't imagine how it would feel having to act all happy, but seeing here there and knowing she was everything and she was with me and how she left me and changed so much. I wouldn't be surprised if she gave me the cold shoulder and ignored me lol.
suladas Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 It get easier each time. The first time I was actually mad that day and just upset talking to her, it didn't hurt until after. But then again it was 2 days after the BU and at that point I was just hurt and didn't want her back or anything. But each time after hurt less, now it doesn't really hurt at all. It's more confusing then anything. I see how she looks at me, and her actions don't line up with it so it makes no sense.
thekarmacist Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 the pain will stop when you realize that your value doesn't diminish just because your love is not reciprocated, or that it is no longer sufficient to make the relationship work.
na49 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Even after realizing it's over, accepting that it's over and we will never have the same relationship with that person sucks. I hated seeing my ex. It actually made me angry whenever I saw her. Probably because I still have some hard feelings about the way that she treated me towards the end of our relationship. I could imagine the feeling, I hope I won't have to see her around campus next semester, but if I did see her walking with another guy (even if the guy was just a friend) I'd lose it. I don't know why, but I would. I realize she doesn't owe me anything anymore so she's allowed to do whatever she wants to, but it would still hurt me and I'd probably have the same feeling you had. I feel the longer I go without hearing or seeing my ex, the better I feel. Hopefully you won't see her again, and maybe the next time you do, time will have helped you to heal a bit more.
LostOne1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 the pain will stop when you realize that your value doesn't diminish just because your love is not reciprocated, or that it is no longer sufficient to make the relationship work. I agree. I think if you can accept you loved the person to the best of your ability and it didn't work. Then it's easier to let go knowing you TRIED... and maybe the other person didn't see your love. But you did your best and you have to leave it at that... Reminds me of my final exams. You go in and do your best and you can't cry about failing if it comes to that... because you tried your best to study as hard as you could. And if the result is a fail... then it's a fail. But you tried your best and that's all you can do and know you did at the end of the day.
LostOne1 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Even after realizing it's over, accepting that it's over and we will never have the same relationship with that person sucks. I hated seeing my ex. It actually made me angry whenever I saw her. Probably because I still have some hard feelings about the way that she treated me towards the end of our relationship. I could imagine the feeling, I hope I won't have to see her around campus next semester, but if I did see her walking with another guy (even if the guy was just a friend) I'd lose it. I don't know why, but I would. I realize she doesn't owe me anything anymore so she's allowed to do whatever she wants to, but it would still hurt me and I'd probably have the same feeling you had. I feel the longer I go without hearing or seeing my ex, the better I feel. Hopefully you won't see her again, and maybe the next time you do, time will have helped you to heal a bit more. The weird part with that is my ex left me, but she feels better not hearing or seeing me. Which is odd, because I wpould think a dumper just doesn't care much if they see you or not. Especially if they really have moved on and all.
sadpanda87 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 they say it takes half the time you've been together to get over the relationship, AFTER you've accepted the break up. good luck
Author awesomesauce Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 Hmm we was in a 2 year relationship, I hope I can move on before a year. My main problem is, she was my main friend. I didn't really have anybody else. All of my friends were at college away and I was home doing my college here and working. When I wasn't working or at class I always tried to be the good bf and spend time with her. Now that we are through its been kinda lonely for me. I have made some friends, but it's nothing like it was with her, you know somebody to talk to everyday. I guess I miss that void and attention.
flitzanu Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Alrighty well guess who just ran into their ex again in a weeks time, this guy. The first time i seen her she was in her car and it didnt bother me, but this time i almost fell to the ground. I was just walking by in a store and i see her checking out from the corner of my eye, i literally almost dropped, i felt like my heart fell into my stomach and then i thought my legs was going go out. And to think i thought i was doing better, but seeing her in person out of the blue, and looked into her eyes, it just made me die a little on the inside. That same person that i used to goof around with, play playfully with and know ever so well is not there anymore. Why is it so hard to let go, when you know that person just doesnt care if you exist anymore? I guess that saying is true, we are just strangers with memories. best option dude, stop going anywhere that you could even POSSIBLY run into her.
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