Farside Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 So my BF of 15 years dumped me 2 months ago. And for the whole 2 months we have had NC. Well a mutual friend saw him at an holiday party. He was there alone. She asked why we broke up and he said that his sister just had a baby and it made him think about the future and he said we wanted different things out of life. He said that at one point I wanted kids, then didn't, then changed my mind again. To be honest I was scared. That is a big thing and I am a chicken . Anyway, around Thanksgiving I wrote him an email explaining a lot (I did it to get it off my chest). I asked him to please not write me back. He didn't. We went through my bday, thanksgiving and our 15 year anniversery with no contact. I guess since this is the first xmas I have had without him in 15 years I am sad. Do I contact him? Or do I leave it alone and let him be? I think that with some honest talks this could be worked out.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 How old are the both of you now? He dumped you because you were indecisive about your life. He seems like the type of guy who wants to settle with a family, kids, wife and all. Are you the type who want a career over being a mother? Don't drudge up the past if it's something that ran it's course.
KatZee Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm kind of confused. If you wrote him an email and poured your heart out and you think with honest communication it could work, why the hell would you tell him not to respond? You kind of just said your piece and slammed the door in his face. If you want it to work out, why are you doing NC? NC is meant for those who are moving on with their lives and trying to forget the EX. You're shooting yourself in the foot with this honestly.
Jono85 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm kind of confused. If you wrote him an email and poured your heart out and you think with honest communication it could work, why the hell would you tell him not to respond? You kind of just said your piece and slammed the door in his face. If you want it to work out, why are you doing NC? NC is meant for those who are moving on with their lives and trying to forget the EX. You're shooting yourself in the foot with this honestly. my take. as a guy, having a girl that I dumped, and a girl that i KNOW didn't want to be dumped or the relationship to end, and i KNOW is hurting, say not to contact her/respond, will not actually stop me from contacting her in the slightest if i change my mind and realize i can't lose her. we just won't give up that easy IMO over girls we love and want to be with for the rest of our lives. so i think that's rather trivial in terms of the outcome of the situation. just MO.
Author Farside Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 We are both 32. But in all honesty after sleeping on it last night, I realized there were more problems than just this. And I think I got a moment of sadness and desperation. I agree with you Jono85, if he wants to come back he will. And hopefully if he ever does, he will come back a better person. So I have decided I am moving onward and upward. And if I keep moving forward in a positive direction, something good will come out of it. Thanks everyone!
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