frederickkk Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 right, so its xmas time. she isnt responding to any of my emails. they could be blocked. i dont know. if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. if i phone her house, i could be told to never call again. if i write her a letter, she may never get it. what move do i make? if you love someone, and you know you will never get over them, whats the next move?
geegirl Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. if i phone her house, i could be told to never call again. if you love someone, and you know you will never get over them, whats the next move? Your next move: 1. Go and see her in person. If it is disastrous, it will help you move on. 2. Phone her house. If you are told never to call again, it will help you move on. 3. You know you will never get over her because you have not invested 150% of yourself in the grieving and healing process. If you choose not to invest in letting go, your next move is 1 or 2. There is nothing else to do aside from that.
Mr Scorpio Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 The next move? Not moving. Let the feelings wash over you and get to know them, then challenge them. You dont need a particular person -- or any person at all -- to be content or happy with your life. All contacting your ex will do is make you feel bad due to rejection, and then shameful due to your weakness is having contacted her. 1
geegirl Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 The next move? Not moving. Let the feelings wash over you and get to know them, then challenge them. You dont need a particular person -- or any person at all -- to be content or happy with your life. All contacting your ex will do is make you feel bad due to rejection, and then shameful due to your weakness is having contacted her. To best understand Frederickkk, you have to read his threads. The above advice won't help.
Author frederickkk Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 at the moment, im sleeping around 2/3 hours a night. constant state of anxiety. ive emailed her twice today. im going to keep my distance, this is the best form of doing it.
sadpanda87 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 if its been NC, dont make a move. otherwise a simple card will suffice.
thekarmacist Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 right, so its xmas time. she isnt responding to any of my emails. they could be blocked. i dont know. if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. if i phone her house, i could be told to never call again. if i write her a letter, she may never get it. what move do i make? if you love someone, and you know you will never get over them, whats the next move? .....*drumroll*......THERAPY
Mr Scorpio Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 at the moment, im sleeping around 2/3 hours a night. constant state of anxiety. ive emailed her twice today. im going to keep my distance, this is the best form of doing it. Not e-mailing her would be a better form.
spaniard Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 At least it seems he admits now that his ex-gf is no longer in love with him. It's something!
Sav Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 At least it seems he admits now that his ex-gf is no longer in love with him. It's something! uh uh, note he didn't admit his ex is no longer in love with him. Until he specifically states that, you can't infer because his mind is a complex maze. Ordinary people like us can't comprehend;)
mammasita Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 OP - I went back to look at your threads. Your ex broke up with you in August. I understand you are having a hard time, BUT have you honestly done anything to move on from her? She's only 19 - she has a ton of maturing to do. Fake it till you make it!! Talk to other women, go out on dates. Do something to move forward instead of dwelling on your ex and hoping to win her back.
spaniard Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Get all the money you have/can find and/or borrow from friends, relatives, banks and strangers.. yaddayadda She will be so happy to see you arrive. All the best. Fred, my old chap, stupid.fool he has some point, but he forgets something that is absolutely necessary, if you really want to marry her. The car. Borrowing money the way mentioned above is good. Friends, dangerous-looking strangers and banks are all great ways to get some money you never have to repay. But for God's sake, rent a car, an expensive one, if you are serious. Girls love when you vomit your shirt before a proposal, but hate it if you do this without a rented Porsche or something. Pls keep us updated how it went. Fingers crossed, buddy. 1
GorillaTheater Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 right, so its xmas time. she isnt responding to any of my emails. they could be blocked. i dont know. if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. if i phone her house, i could be told to never call again. if i write her a letter, she may never get it. what move do i make? if you love someone, and you know you will never get over them, whats the next move? Do what you need to do. I think a Restraining Order and an arrest or two will do you a world of good.
Renard99 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 right, so its xmas time. she isnt responding to any of my emails. they could be blocked. i dont know. if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. if i phone her house, i could be told to never call again. if i write her a letter, she may never get it. what move do i make? if you love someone, and you know you will never get over them, whats the next move? You just keep doing what you are doing and continue to be miserable and only sleep 2 or 3 hours a night forever more. You are clearly terrified of hearing that she doesn't love you or want to be with you so you're avoiding all contact where you know she could come outright and say it. Because of this you are content to sit there and email, knowing that you'll never get a response. In your head, the realtionship can continue like this because she's not saying 'no' to you and you're still in contact. You've constructed a little fantasy world for yourself where you're clinging on to the relationship with your finger types, when in reality, everyone else can see that it's over and it's time to move on. You even claim you're a 'fighter' yet there are things you won't do to save the relationship, like go to her house......why? Because you don't want to hear the answer and never will. You don't want to hear anything anyone has to say here so why bother asking the question?. We've tried time and time again but your stubborn nature combined with the lure of your own little fantasy world is too great for you. Until you realise yourself that the relationship is over and there's nothing left to fight for, or, you realise that you need professional help, then just keep doing what you're doing, there's no way you can exist otherwise. I just feel really sorry for her, having to deal with your constant emails whilst she's trying to move on. I await the reply stating that I'm all wrong, you will be together, you're a fighter and will do anything to get her back that always comes. 1
spaniard Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 if i go and see her in person, it could be disastrous. ...because you will find out that she is no longer in love with you. Well, yes, it can be interpreted as a disaster, but I think you definitely need this disaster to wake up. You said you were a figther. Prove it by facing the truth.
Mcnulty Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Next move?? If it were a game of chess, you were check mate ages ago and dragged kicking and screaming out of the room!
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