Moparman Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I met this girl about 4 months ago, at first I didn't really think anything of her, wasn't even really interested in her. I maybe saw her 2 or 3 times over the next two months. Me and my roommates were about to move so we had a few parties and this is when me and her hit it off. She kept coming to these parties and me and her would sleep in the same bed because of all the people there, and I have a big bed. We would cuddle up and talk For awhile. At this point I didn't want a relationship with any girl, I was living my own life and having fun doing it. But things got closer between up, we started going on dates more and more over a month or 2. We both had full time jobs and and live with roommates so there isn't much personal time between the two of us. Anyways we hang out a decient amount now, kiss when we meet up, and hug and hold hands on dates. We cuddle on the couch. And still slssp in each others beds we go over. I really like this girl now. I was afraid to rush things and get intimant at first because I didn't really want a relationship. And I really dont want to have a ****ty relationshiop that won't last. Now my friends are giving me **** because we habv out and we still haven't had sex. She doesn't make any move first And never has, I kissed her first, hugged her first, invited her to sleep in my bed. Etc, but she is always open to my advances. But now it almost seems weird to just spring and have sex with her. Or is she just waitibg for me to make the move? We are NOT "officially" dating buf I know we are exclusive to each other so I never pushed the issue.
PogoStick Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You need to figure out whether you really want to be with this girl or not. She must be on the young and innocent side so don't have sex unless you're really into her. If you really want to move it forward then just tell her that and ask if she feels the same way.
BS76 Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 This poor girl probably thinks she's ugly or that you don't like her since you never made a move. I'm surprised she's still showing any signs of interest at this point to be honest. My advice to you is to crap or get off the pot.
ascendotum Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 This poor girl probably thinks she's ugly or that you don't like her since you never made a move. I'm surprised she's still showing any signs of interest at this point to be honest. My advice to you is to crap or get off the pot. I second this. I was going to say don't bother having sex with this girl now unless you want to make something of it. Its a little weird now to just bang her and then go back to just being activity friends, but I reread your post and you say really like this girl now, so its sounds to me its just up to you to pick the right time now. "And I really dont want to have a ****ty relationshiop that won't last" From what you wrote I don't think this will apply to this girl. If something happens in a years time and you breakup oh well, you're a free agent again, with some good memories.
Author Moparman Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 Thanks for the reply guys. Bear with me because all of this is being typed on my phone. But to be honest I'm 21, and she is 24. Both college graduates working full time jobs. We are both in a good spot in our lives, and neither of us are looking for some to goof around with, but more of a serious long term relationship. I made this obvious at the beginning. So I dont wanna rush anything with her. I guess the reason I was asking is because I'm pretty inexperienced with having sex. I'm a pretty confident and smart guy, but i never really cared about a relationship, and never tried when I was younger. I have had sex, but most of the girls I've dated were a lot more straight forward, they made it obvious. This girl is different, and I think that's a reason I like her. And I'm starring to really like her now. I feel like I can trust her and I'm ready to maybe try something more serious with her. We are DEFINETLY exclusive to each other, and we hang out and do things a lot.I'm just not sure if she feels the same way. She keeps bringing up how much older than me she is, and like she is playing hard to get. But I know if she wasn't Interested we wouldn't be where we are now.
Mint Sauce Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 so you sleep in the same bed, but resist the temptation to any fondling? I mean, the jump from cuddling to sex is not black and white. There are several intermediate steps you can take to bridge a few weeks before the act. What keeps you from exploring her a bit when you're all cuddled up?
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