Kyle787 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Hi guys, I had a sloppy hook up/make out with a good friend and developed feelings for her over the next day or so while hanging out. Time went by, I tried to let those feelings go by dating two other women, but I could only go back to thinking about that one weekend with my friend. I ended up actually talking to her best friend about it while drunk and like most normal humans - her friend mentioned that I said something to her - she replied "I don't want to talk about it because we are like best friends" Yet we still tease the hell out of each other and get really touchy/flirty when we are near another in group outings. Is it time to tell her how I feel? Or should I just go along and try asking her on a (casual)/(romantic) date? And if it would be better to just tell her, would a phone/skype call suffice? Or might I be better off still asking her to hang out so I can talk to her? Sorry for the wall of text, we are both 20 by the way.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Hi guys, I had a sloppy hook up/make out with a good friend and developed feelings for her over the next day or so while hanging out. Time went by, I tried to let those feelings go by dating two other women, but I could only go back to thinking about that one weekend with my friend. I ended up actually talking to her best friend about it while drunk and like most normal humans - her friend mentioned that I said something to her - she replied "I don't want to talk about it because we are like best friends" Yet we still tease the hell out of each other and get really touchy/flirty when we are near another in group outings. Is it time to tell her how I feel? Or should I just go along and try asking her on a (casual)/(romantic) date? And if it would be better to just tell her, would a phone/skype call suffice? Or might I be better off still asking her to hang out so I can talk to her? Sorry for the wall of text, we are both 20 by the way. First: "Wall of text" ? Do you use Twitter very often? Second: Tell her you want to be a bit more than friends. Do it in person, one on one and act really casual about the whole thing.
Author Kyle787 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 First: "Wall of text" ? Do you use Twitter very often? Second: Tell her you want to be a bit more than friends. Do it in person, one on one and act really casual about the whole thing. Thanks, thing is we will text a few messages and she will ask a question, I'll answer and she won't get back to me (almost always because her phone dies - I know for a fact). Then I'll let it go for two-three days, text her, she gets excited again and the cycle starts over. Then we end up meeting with other people in person every so often and it's all flirty flirty again. I could just call/text and ask her to come along with me to the mall again next week (only now just the two of us). That casual sounding enough to give me a way to talk to her?
Mrlonelyone Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I could just call/text and ask her to come along with me to the mall again next week (only now just the two of us). That casual sounding enough to give me a way to talk to her? No. Relationships happen in person and face to face. This is a conversation that has to happen without a social buffer because relationships are unbuffered. That is both why they are special and why they are so hard to find. (Or why so many really are just FWB / FB or really very casual esp when younger. Being in a real serious relationship, face to face and for real, is a skill that has to be learned.)
Author Kyle787 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 No. Relationships happen in person and face to face. This is a conversation that has to happen without a social buffer because relationships are unbuffered. That is both why they are special and why they are so hard to find. (Or why so many really are just FWB / FB or really very casual esp when younger. Being in a real serious relationship, face to face and for real, is a skill that has to be learned.) I know what you are saying, but to say something in person - I'll either need to wait maybe weeks until we hang out in a group after the holidays, or I need to ask her to tag along with me to dinner or out somewhere if I am going to tell her how I feel. Am I not understanding part of your post?
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