Evanescence Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Hey I was just wondering... what qualities of a relationship make it a rebound. I want as many specifics as you guys can dish out. I don't want to say my situation because I don't want any advice as to whether my current relationship is a rebound or not (in that case I might get some bias opinions), I want to know just what qualifies a relationship as a rebound or not. Does it depend on ur reasoning for dating the person? Feelings you have at the beginning of the relationship for this new person? Feelings/thoughts you have during the new relationship? Time since you and ur ex broke up? Is it possible to go into a relationship and really think its not a rebound, only to start to realize later that it may be? Also, does anyone find that there is an average length of time that these relationships last that can be a tell-tale sign? Your views are much needed and appreciated. Thanks!
treegirl Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 From what I understand from your post... your wanting us to tell you what we think a rebound is? To me personally a rebound is when you break up with someone and within hours, days or weeks you are with someone else even your clearly not over this other person.... you use the new person to help you get over the other person.... which isn't right. To have a good relationship with someone you need to feel for them completely and not for another person.... Love TreeGirl xoxo
Curt Posted August 14, 2004 Moderators Posted August 14, 2004 Originally posted by treegirl To me personally a rebound is when you break up with someone and within hours, days or weeks you are with someone else even your clearly not over this other person.... you use the new person to help you get over the other person.... which isn't right. To have a good relationship with someone you need to feel for them completely and not for another person.... Love TreeGirl xoxo I'm glad that treegirl brought up the idea of time as being important in a rebound relationship evanescence. Thing is, after any relationship, I think people need to have time to assess the impact that said relationship has had on their lives, and what lessons (good and bad) to take from it. If you get into another relationship too soon, you're likely only doing so to "fill the void" that is left by your ex's presence. Oh, and what happened to that beautiful pic of yours, anyways??? Curt
RowanRavyn Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 Curt brings up an important point too: Filling a void. If that person is just there to distract you from thinking about what happened, or there to have sex with, or there for any reason other than because you genuinely care for them, then its probably a rebound. Also if you think to yourself, "Wait til they see me with this person, boy thats gonna make em jealous." Time is so important, so is finding that you are complete within yourself.
singleman Posted August 14, 2004 Posted August 14, 2004 I'm curious as to when does a Rebound romance typically go bad (If it even does go bad)? Weeks, months, ?
Curt Posted August 14, 2004 Moderators Posted August 14, 2004 IMHO, I don't think that we're going to be able to define the time span in any predictive or prescriptive fashion. Every couple's breakup would occur under somewhat different circumstances. Given that, and the fact that every individual is different in terms of the time they would need to get over something like that, it would probably mean a lot of variation in the timespans required. Curt
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