Mariexo Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 After a month of no talking, my ex contacted me over a facebook message. He asked me if I stared to watch this show he wanted me to get into while we were dating. He also asked the same question a week or two after we broke up. We had a nice, steady conversation for two hours then it stopped. I just want to know what to do now since he contacted me first, out of no where really. I was going to text him on Christmas anyways. He also made it sound like he wasn't talking to anyone. I knew I missed him, I just didn't know how much until I talked to him. I just want to know the next step, I want him in my life as a friend or as a boyfriend. But, I just need to know what to do and act friendly and not some ex that's still crazy about him.
lovepugs86 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 What were the reasons why you two broke up?
Author Mariexo Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 feelings for is ex were still there, and he didn't think it was fair to be in a relationship with those lingering feelings. They broke up very shortly before him and I.
Lone Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 Im very sorry to say this but there is a possibility your relationship was a rebound and he still had emotional baggage from the previous relationship. I know this may hurt and im sorry. im currently going through my own heartbreak so i can completely empathize. I think the best thing for you is to act a bit nonchalant with the whole situation. No amount of rehashing how you feel about him or the relationship will do you any favours. He knows how you feel. You need to let him be and either realise he made a mistake or not. Either way you need to work on yourself in the meantime and try to move forward. This way if he comes back he will find a new and improved you and if not you will attract someone even better. its a tough pill to swallow and i need to take some of my own advice here also. its not easy letting go but you can't chase people.
Author Mariexo Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 I am so sorry for your heartbreak I really am. Also, I know all this haha I've already figured it all out. My head tells me all these things you just mentioned, but my hearts just like "Text him, call him." But, I'm proud I haven't. I've been trying to focus on myself to fix myself and make myself better. Haha
A fish in the sea Posted December 24, 2012 Posted December 24, 2012 Just keep waiting. Seems he's reaching out to you. Let him. :-) he's opening the door again - don't rush it and scare him into slamming it in your face. Be friendly when he writes, but don't let the communication go on too long. Be happy and excited about your life... But give him plenty of space to come towards you. I'm having good luck with that. He started off very nonchalant, asking impersonal questions. But has gradually been getting bolder and flirting. We had an actual date earlier this week that I let him push for. Let him lead if he wants to come back towards you. Men show they care by how much time/energy they invest in you. If you make things too easy for him, he won't invest and won't feel he's earned you. That doesn't mean to play games... Just to take a step back so he can step towards you. No Xmas text. Wait until New Years if you want to send one. Give him time to text you first. :-) 1
shalisha42 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Hi Marie. I think you should not contact him at all. I also think you should not be his "friend." He broke up with you because he still has feelings for this other girl. He is now contacting you again probably because he's on the outs with her. Do you really want to go through that again?
Game Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Sadly, I must agree with poster above on this one. You were his rebound and he could be contacting you just to see if the lines of communication are still open. I mean, do you really think he cares about you watching a tv show or do you think he is really checking up on lines of communication? Typically guys will do this as the holidays are approaching and they don't have somebody to share it with. It's clear that he was just checking up on you bc he stopped conversing after contacting you out of nowhere. He is looking for a holiday lay, do not cave into his games. That is of course, unless you want to.
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