gordonisamoron Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 The only problem I have, is the business of the place, and the fact I can't get there when its quiet. All help gratefully received!
edgygirl Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I don't know about a barmaid but here's how to ask a mermaid out: Baby, land or sea, you've got to be with me. Besides, who ever heard of a Merman? I don't have any Mer, but I'm all man. (Wiggling your eyebrows at this point might help.) Hey this maybe even work on the barmaid! Good luck & ChaCha! 3
TaraMaiden Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Two pints of lager, one vodka and orange, no ice, two bags of salted peanuts, one tomato juice, pack of salt and vinegar crisps and are you free on tuesday night, please? 2
Eclypse Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Two gin tonics, two vodkas and a scotch. Two gin tonics, two vodkas and a scotch.... I'll have 5 Cougars thanks. Best ad ever. On the serious side, maybe you can wait till closing time and ask her then? But don't let her see you hanging around all night! That might make it look creepy.
Vercetti Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Best thing can think of is hit on her outside of work. Reason say that is trust me every guy in the bar has made a pass at her at some point. She is at work and going for tips, lots of guys probably made the mistake of thinking eye contact and a smile was her flirting. Anyhow if you do wish to be bold and talk to her at work, find out something she likes to do ( someone in the bar knows something about her ) and just make the offer. Really your call on how you play the approach, could just hand her your number. Personally I would rather be a barmaids friend...let her tell you about all the new girls that are showing up, the relationship status of girls, the wants and fears of girls, what guys are considered hot and why. Going for the barmaid could get you completely shot down in a entire circle ( yet another guy that hit on her ). She could have a rule that she does not date clients. Only all this is fantasy, you could be the guy that lands her simply for being bold and she likes you in the back of her mind. Just know this is coming awful close to going out with someone you work with...even if it works out for a bit failure could be nasty. 1
Author gordonisamoron Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 The only way I could ask her out of work is if I stalked her! And the waiting till closing time thing wouldn't work, as I'd be a big wobbly mess by then. I have no fear of rejection, more concerned about embarrassing her at her workplace tbh. Which is why I was after advice, need a quick snappy line, then let her get on.
Author gordonisamoron Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I should also add, that, I'm not sure every other guy has hit on her, as I think even I'm more attracted to her persona than her looks.
Vercetti Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I stalked my wife and that worked out fine. Find out where she hangs and simply show up there. Hell want a snappy line, ask her beyond this bar whats fun in this city and she will tell you perhaps even slip up and invite you somewhere ( at the very least you will be talking and gaining information while asking for the stealth date ). Anyhow I'm really caught on the idea of outside the bar. She simply has to much power there, center of attention / knows everyone / provides them with drinks / can wink her eye and get someone tossed to the curb. You see the way DJs deal with girls, she is in that relative position with men. If you can pull her directly out of the bar ill give you props, just seems a risky path to me. As for being in wobble mode at the end of the night, enjoy yourself but maintain composure...be the sharp alert guy when everyone else is falling out their chairs. Approaching her somewhat sober at the end of the night might just shock her, odds are her night is just starting. Very rare did I encounter anyone working in restaurants and bars that did not have a after hours life...not that hard to tag along. Don't think men are not hitting on her and don't think cause you like her persona that gives you some advantage. She is a bartender so is extremely socialized.
Author gordonisamoron Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I think you maybe guilty of stereotyping. And there's no way I could avoid "wobblemode" as to wait till closing time would mean about 9hours of drinking. We frequent this bar before a sporting event which usually ko's at 3pm, we get there for 1:30ish, the game ends at 5, they shut at 1am. Not gonna happen!
iris219 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Ask the guy beside you at the bar how he did it. 1
Vercetti Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 No I'm guilty of recognizing basic social dynamics. If you think some bro binge drinking sporting antics will work out and its impossible to maintain a semblance of sobriety even if it could benefit you, I wish you the best of luck.
PogoStick Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 At work she's busy and doesn't have much time so be short and direct. I know you're busy but I think you're really (interesting, funny, whatever you see in her). Want to go out for lunch or coffee this week? (Something that's not a bar environment). Get her number and call her. 10% chance she's actually open to meeting a customer. Best to go in when it's less busy.
KungFuJoe Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 There are no rules when it comes to this stuff. You will meet women in all sorts of places. Make small talk then slip her your number your or ask for hers on your bar tab. Or just straight up ask her. You think hitting on her at 2am when she just wants to go home from a hard day of serving drinks and being hit on all night will make her more responsive?
yongyong Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Your value is very low when you are inside the bar unless you are friends with the owner (sounds like PUA huh. but is it damn true or no?) you can say screw it and ask her out but I don't think it will work. how much you think she is the one, doesn't matter. you just met her at the wrong place so whatever your intention is, it will be looked at the same way like other drunk guys hitting on her.
Vercetti Posted December 20, 2012 Posted December 20, 2012 PUA LMFAO...get one of his friends to dress in drag so barmaid gets jealous and knows OP has been pre-selected by women. Wear a fuzzy purple hat some swimming goggles and wrap electric tape around your fingers. When the barmaid comes up ask her who lies more, Alf or Mr-T. Then you got to nag hit her " your makeup looks like the walking dead." After that tell her a story of when you saved all the children from a preschool that was burning down. Now its time to bring on the kino. If you get close and she backs off...go back to the neg hits and tell another story that makes you the leader of men. Try the kino again. You will get laid like a rockstar!
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