rocketman122 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Not on the first date, Phineas. He will lose respect for her. You know how you guys are. yes and no. I could have easily slept with my GF the first night I met her but I waited till the 2nd date ,which was actually the next day. I met her on jdate. we spoke on the phone an hour after sending each other messages through the site and we met the next night. fast doesnt mean pump and dump. we both were looking for a LTR and I didnt think anything less of her for sleeping with me right away. it depends on the guy and girl going into it. but the guy knows right away if this is someone who he can spend time with or not. many just tell the woman what they want to hear. I had relationships that started off nice and we jumped in bed pretty quickly and I had sincere and genuine intentions for a LTR but after a few dates it didnt work out. you can wait a while, start dating and things dont go well or you can get in bed quickly and things will work out. there are no rules to this. I have a limit to how much im willing to wait though. its 3 weeks. then I walk away. I never had it go that long before. but that would be the max for me. im 41 and the woman I date are always older than me and we both know whats up. we dont mess around. we know what we want. with young people its always slower and a lot of times there is no intention for a LTR. mostly from the men though. OP, if you want cokk meat sandwich, go for it. if you feel this might not hold, then wait and see how it goes. good luck. just make sure he does a good job of licking you a guy who doesnt know (or love to) how to cunnilingus will do everything else crap.
justnimo Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Wait and see where things go, you don't want to Sleep with him and then find out after getting To know him a hit more that he's a jerk; Plus the longer you wait the better it will feel ☺
PogoStick Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm glad there are less of these time games as I've gotten older. One NYE a girl threw herself on me, and did it again 2 weeks later at a football party. I might not have even given it a chance because she just seemed obnoxious at first. I accidentally got to know her because of hooking up and we gave it a good run for 10 months. Our lives have taken us in different directions now (school and careers) but she's someone I'd consider down the road if our paths cross again.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Not having sex too early on is to protect yourself. Men can get sex, only if the women are willing to give it up. There are always consequences when you have sex with a guy, chances are they will still like you afterwards, but most of the time, they decided that you're only good for a booty call. Learn to set up boundaries and do not lower your standards. The difference between being an animal and being human is that animals follow their instincts. As humans, we are cognitive mammals who think about the consequences of our actions. 1
Author lovebug1234 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Posted December 20, 2012 thanks for the advice everyone, I'm going to hold off on sex this time. Will update you what happens tomorrow!
Author lovebug1234 Posted December 21, 2012 Author Posted December 21, 2012 Yes, there was much temptation but I kept my dignity intacted LoL (thank god for my period) he was fairly respectful though he did try, we were making out quite a bit. He seems to date a lot. I don't feel comfortable about that, but at least I could be honest about my own dating habits LoL maybe we should get along, who knows
todreaminblue Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 okay the guy i've been crushing on is finally back from his trip. he asked me out on a date, few text after he suggested going back to his place so he can make dinner for me. obviously sex is on the mind, for the both of us. we haven't actually been on a date. we had brunch once. i'm super sexually attracted to him. and my guess is that he's attracted me to. i've only know him for less then a mo and we've only met up twice, as friends. i decided to opt for the dinner at his place option. i Want to sleep with him really bad but I also don't want to sleep with him. there MIGHT be some potential for Long term but right now, all I feel is the sexual attraction. my body says HAVE SEX with HIM, my brain say NOOOO. What should I DO????? i fyou want long term wait and get to know the guy..i fyou are attracted to him the attraction wont go away...it may just intensify and be even more special....dont set time restraints ..explore those boundaries together he has a say too....so be open and honest i assume you really havent talked about sex yet?? way too soon then.....just get to know him and enjoy each others company without sex........deb
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 21, 2012 Posted December 21, 2012 Not having sex too early on is to protect yourself. Men can get sex, only if the women are willing to give it up. There are always consequences when you have sex with a guy, chances are they will still like you afterwards, but most of the time, they decided that you're only good for a booty call. Learn to set up boundaries and do not lower your standards. The difference between being an animal and being human is that animals follow their instincts. As humans, we are cognitive mammals who think about the consequences of our actions. XPapercutx, I was going to "like" your post because I like your second paragraph but I have issues with your first. Such as the idea, that I realize is very popular among men mostly of: "....men can get sex, only if the women are willing to give it up." Which means that women take all the responsibility for sex and the repercussions of it. Which makes it sound like men do not have responsibility or culpability for their sexual choices and that it's only women that do. Which is completely sexist and rather not cool. So I am down with your second paragraphy but not your first. OP, if your body is saying yes and your mind is saying no, I think you already know which one to listen to! You are going to get into less trouble listening to your mind then your body in pretty much EVERY situation. You have know this man for about a month. Not that long. Certainly not long enough for him to prove that he is worthy of sleeping with. You also have not spent any amount of significant time with him to know who he really is. give it some time. There should be no formula when you sleep with someone. It should happen when BOTH people want it to. Sure, one person may want it to happen faster then the other, but since sex is about both people, waiting for both people to feel comfortable with it, is ideal. And obviously you are not fully comfortable with the idea right now otherwise you wouldn't even question it. Don't sleep with him. Make him prove his worth to you. And masturbate before you go out with him...alot...to avoid any stupid choice making. 1
Author lovebug1234 Posted December 22, 2012 Author Posted December 22, 2012 we're in the middle of a conversation and he just stops texting. i call him tonight and he didn't pick up. no big deal, except i think he's up to no good.
Yookie Posted December 22, 2012 Posted December 22, 2012 we're in the middle of a conversation and he just stops texting. i call him tonight and he didn't pick up. no big deal, except i think he's up to no good. LOL his wife, girlfriend or "significant other" came home. 1
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