vanek26 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 When I started reading this forum I was a 19 year old virgin. Now I'm almost 23 and have had nearly 30 sexual partners from meeting countless women. However, I'm nowhere near where I want to be and it's a source of consuming misery, really. Not trying to make this into any sort of sob story though. Basically, and I know this sounds bad, but the only women I can consistently attract are ones who are overweight. And by overweight, I mean very noticeably overweight. Any average looking girl who is skinny seems to be out of my league by default. I thought that I really came a long way as far as my skill with women. I started out as some typical, insecure, inexperienced nice guy who just never had a chance from the get-go. I've since molded my personality to seem a lot more confident, cocky, and playful. I'm comfortable talking to women and getting their numbers, and I give off a great facade that I'm totally secure with myself. But still, when it comes to a girl who I think is reasonably attractive, I fail. And in the back of my mind, I constantly think it's because I'm skinny. I am 5'9'' and weigh 150 lbs. So I'm pretty noticeably thin, and it's just how I've always been. The interesting thing about being skinny is that people aren't shy to call me out on it. It's as if they don't see it as an insult, even though I feel at times like I'm the equivalent of a massively overweight woman. So, what do you guys think? Should I continue to try and embrace myself as a skinny guy? Or am I just fighting a losing battle here. Trying to bulk up is a life changing process that literally will have to consume my life to accomplish. Is it necessary to do that just to get an average girl? I've brainstormed other ways to try and help myself out. The problem is, all of the things that girls say they like seem so vapid, superficial, and unnecessary to me. Tattoos, trucks, motorcycles, 'country boys', etc... I did get my ears pierced recently which I think is a nice touch but it doesn't seem to be enough. Your thoughts?
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 My thoughts are I'm shorter and skinnier than you and never had a problem getting the women I want (once I understood how attraction worked) 3
Author vanek26 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I know my post got kind of jumbled there so let me see if I can narrow my question down: Am I better off trying to max out my potential as a skinny guy or is my time better spent trying to bulk up? I'm using the fat girl analogy because it could be the same thing. If you're a really overweight woman, there's not much you can do to elevate yourself. You can have an awesome personality, beautiful face, great smile... but if your legs are tree trunks and you have rolls of fat spilling out of your shirt you're just so limited. So is the skinny guy the same as the fat girl?
somedude81 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm shorter and heavier than you and have all sorts of problems getting women. I haven't really tested to see if I could sleep with very overweight women and I am not about to find out. BTW, is the game really that different between normal and overweight girls?
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I know my post got kind of jumbled there so let me see if I can narrow my question down: Am I better off trying to max out my potential as a skinny guy or is my time better spent trying to bulk up? I'm using the fat girl analogy because it could be the same thing. If you're a really overweight woman, there's not much you can do to elevate yourself. You can have an awesome personality, beautiful face, great smile... but if your legs are tree trunks and you have rolls of fat spilling out of your shirt you're just so limited. So is the skinny guy the same as the fat girl? Haha, no. Outside of weight - how attractive are you?
NateC Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm 6'1 and about 150lbs....so I know exactly how you feel. However...I really don't think it would be a "showstopper" for you. Just be who you are and you'll attract the right person. Why change yourself when you'll only attract someone while putting on a mask? 2
Author vanek26 Posted December 19, 2012 Author Posted December 19, 2012 I'm not going to try and say how attractive I am. If you really want to judge I can give the link for my OLD profile.
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I'm not going to try and say how attractive I am. If you really want to judge I can give the link for my OLD profile. Yeah go ahead and do that.
Alma Mobley Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I don't think it is your weight that is hindering you. I have always been attracted to skinny guys, and the guys I dated (and they all complained about being skinny) never had problems attracting women, even the thin and pretty ones. Perhaps it is something else?
ascendotum Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I know my post got kind of jumbled there so let me see if I can narrow my question down: Am I better off trying to max out my potential as a skinny guy or is my time better spent trying to bulk up? I'm using the fat girl analogy because it could be the same thing. If you're a really overweight woman, there's not much you can do to elevate yourself. You can have an awesome personality, beautiful face, great smile... but if your legs are tree trunks and you have rolls of fat spilling out of your shirt you're just so limited. So is the skinny guy the same as the fat girl? I share you lament my friend. You really have not done too bad when it comes to girls, though count really should not he great yardstick for measuring the success of your life...as you now seem to realise to an extent, because it doesn't have the same sense of happiness than it does landing a great girl that you're gaga over. Q- You didn't find any of those girls appealing? I really don't see why you can't do both..max out my potential & bulk up. If you are a hard gainer, its going to be hard slog and a work in progress over years, but its not like its going to chew up all your time where its the only pastime in your life. It seems like you have done well as a skinny, so you are doing good on your presentation so far, but you are not getting the girl you really want, that also will be a work in progress. So is the skinny guy the same as the fat girl? For me I think so. the advantage I think woman has though is she can easily find XXL guys to be her bf, whereas if lust for the XS women, they are plenty of options across the board to pursue.
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MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Am I better off trying to max out my potential as a skinny guy or is my time better spent trying to bulk up? Hard to say. Depends how your body is shaped. When I try to bulk up--as in, working out and consuming more calories because my body now demands I need more fuel to burn, my face gets round, and it doesn't look good round. When I stay skinny. my chin is sharp, and well defined, and everything just looks better. Body type is only but one preference, if you have a killer personality, you can bypass that.
SJC2008 Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Move to Houston, Tx. I'll say it till I'm blue in the face: If a woman is cute or better but is chunky, thick, flabby (whatever term you want to use), more often than NOT, the man she's with is SKINNY! Proportionately and sometimes literally, meaning her pants will be too big for him! So move to Houston! Problem solved!
ascendotum Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 You are slight build guy, really you are not that skinny. Adding weight will help for sure but you are not that bad for it to be a big negative for women, imo. Your collar bones are not sticking out (mine did)
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 So move to Houston! Problem solved! Ahh, see. There ya go. Just uproot your life. Done and done. 1
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 here you go: OKBlueJay Tonawanda New York singles, Tonawanda New York women Dude it is your area. All the decent looking chicks in that area has kids and you are left with the others,lol. That is kind of a joke but upstate NY is such a ****ed up place to date. Hush Castle - you are not that far upstate. Anyway - it is you. Like you intial response stated you may be cocky or even come across as a jerk. You haven't been able to figure out how to pick up women but more on how to pick up insecure women who coincidentally may be fat. Even stop banging fat chicks -you can't really only complain about picking them up. I see no reason why you would have a problem with your attraction. It isn't you weight since you aren't skinny. However bulking up may help you attract more girls.
ascendotum Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 He'll be an ever bigger smash hit if he moved across to vietnam. There he'll get petite and pretty.
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Hush Castle - you are not that far upstate.. I really need to stop posting intimate details of my life on this board. One chick remembering my location, and another chick remembering stats about my penis and my sexual preferences. I'm scared 1
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I really need to stop posting intimate details of my life on this board. One chick remembering my location, and another chick remembering stats about my penis and my sexual preferences. I'm scared Didn't you say you wanted to a regularly? lol And don't be scared - all I know is that you aren't as far upstate. I usually remember posters from NY.
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Didn't you say you wanted to a regularly? lol And don't be scared - all I know is that you aren't as far upstate. I usually remember posters from NY. I wanted to what regularly?
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 I wanted to what regularly? Sorry I meant "regular". As in regular poster. Someone who has been around a while.
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Sorry I meant "regular". As in regular poster. Someone who has been around a while. Ahh. True..true. I like the quiet dignity that comes with being a popular so and so on an internet forum. But it's been getting a little too real lately. Maybe I'll make some stuff up about myself to throw people off my scent. 1
SmileFace Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Ahh. True..true. I like the quiet dignity that comes with being a popular so and so on an internet forum. But it's been getting a little too real lately. Maybe I'll make some stuff up about myself to throw people off my scent. Haha, I get where you are coming from. It is weird that people are familiar with me on ls. I usually wouldn't allow this- I rather the mystery of just being a name on a screen. Those darn commitment issues that I actually love right now.
Alma Mobley Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 here you go: OKBlueJay Tonawanda New York singles, Tonawanda New York women I don't think you are really that skinny. Maybe SF is right and it's your location? What happens when you approach a woman you are attracted to?
MrCastle Posted December 19, 2012 Posted December 19, 2012 Haha, I get where you are coming from. It is weird that people are familiar with me on ls. I usually wouldn't allow this- I rather the mystery of just being a name on a screen. Those darn commitment issues that I actually love right now. Yeah! Commitment issues really come in handy sometimes. People forget that. It's all like "Hey MrCastle, you're awesome, I'm gonna PM you pictures of my naked body and maybe we can meet up sometime and have sex?" And I'm all like "Whoa!", and stuff. Like "Hey I think you're cool but slow down! Let's keep this on the web only ;)" That exchange may be a little exaggerated but the fact remains.
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